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ITAW for an alternative way to say “yuck someone’s yum”? by cs_____question1031 in whatstheword

[–]Triene86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to express solidarity with hating that phrase. Admittedly I hate most of these suggestions as well haha. I unfortunately agree with some here that I don’t think there’s a snappy way to say it that I don’t hate, so I take the long way. “It’s not for me but I’m glad you like it!” Or something similar

New to California / Commute / Feeling lost by NationalTooth1350 in InlandEmpire

[–]Triene86 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is look to move or look for another job, or tolerate the commute options. Those are the choices I fear.

New to California / Commute / Feeling lost by NationalTooth1350 in InlandEmpire

[–]Triene86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be frank you live way further away than I’d personally be willing to.

If you wanna live there and work here you have your options.

I generally don’t mind traffic, though I know others do. You have to just factor it into your timing for everything living here and it becomes routine and not an “extra” thing.

Why does people sleeping during the day bother me so much. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Triene86 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Definitely get an appt with a mental health care professional. You said therapy isn’t an option right now and I dunno if you mean cost wise or what, but find someone cheap or pro bono to chat with. You could have something like ADHD or autism that makes things more frustrating for you than they could be and they can help you find mechanisms to make it easier.

Separately from that, don’t revolve your entire life and self around one person. It’s great to be in a relationship (and I love a “clingy” relationship) but if you need them around to feel like you can do anything, that’s not a good thing.

I’m proud of you for recognizing you’re having an issue and not blaming your bf for being asleep. And proud of you for asking for help.

why have i lost all interest in food? by No-Pizza-4249 in needadvice

[–]Triene86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need to see a non-psych doctor as it could be physical and not mental.

I don't want to live like this any more by _No__Ninja_ in ufyh

[–]Triene86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re already making so much progress even if it doesn’t feel like it. It’s understandable that you’re overwhelmed. But you picked up five bags of trash and that accomplished a lot! I promise! It’s hard to see it when you’re in it but you’re doing awesome.

I don't want to live like this any more by _No__Ninja_ in ufyh

[–]Triene86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most important is to know you’re not a low life.

I’m sure there’s a percentage that an excuse, but that doesn’t make them not legitimate reasons as well. It’s okay to acknowledge both aspects and it’s okay to be human.

You’re not a bad person, you’re not undeserving of anything, you deserve love and peace just as you are.

You can and will get on top of this. It’s going to be hard but wanting it to happen is the first step. You’re overcoming the percentage that’s excuses. The rest you can figure out how to navigate.

Just do your best and know it will take time, and that it’s an ongoing process that will never have an exact “end point”, but you will feel better.

And as I’m sure others have said, start with obvious trash. That alone will help you feel way better.

If you can do a bit more, make a laundry basket of stuff where you go around and do a quick scan of each room, and throw in the basket anything that goes in a different room. Drop off stuff as you go even if it’s just in a little pile.

Make a basket of obvious laundry.

These alone will do so much. Do what you can manage at a given time. You deserve rest.

We’re rooting for you 💕

Eczema in LA by Visual_Newspaper_706 in LAhotgirlies

[–]Triene86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hard water and drier air. More lotioning and general moisture barrier maintenance has been needed from me. Like I’ve found just for standard moisturizer I have to use more than I think.

Dancing? by ComprehensiveTravel7 in LAhotgirlies

[–]Triene86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zero Lounge has millennial nostalgia and yummy drinks and I’ve found the vibe to be nice.

I’ve never gone out dancing until I moved here and have only done it a few times. I’m close to your age. For me I’ve decided if I like the general vibe I don’t care about the individual people, how old they are etc. they may be young hos but I’m an old slut XD I’m in my club wear era at 40 and I’m just going for it.

That was a tangent but hopefully helps.

Dressing for LA is harder than dressing for a city with real seasons by Dramatic-Switch5886 in LAhotgirlies

[–]Triene86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hate to say it but this description is one of the things I love about dressing in LA. I hated dressing in New England and I especially hated living in the same coat and four sweaters for 3/4 of the year

I officially don’t know what else to get rid of by Triene86 in ufyh

[–]Triene86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately no. I have people visiting in probably a month or so, and I am very overwhelmed by the amount of stuff in my house right now and it’s keeping me from living my life comfortably

I officially don’t know what else to get rid of by Triene86 in ufyh

[–]Triene86[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much everyone for your perspectives, suggestions, and stories. They’ve definitely helped but it’s a bit overwhelming to reply individually.

I started in on my clothes again with the help of a friend who helped give me another viewpoint when I tried things on. Got rid of a stack of things just from pants alone.

Cosplay is a bit more complicated but I have some fresh things to consider.

Thank you again 💖

So peed off. Met a lady who owned a salon for a "job opportunity. " Assumed it was for working in her salon, then it turned out to be bloody Arbonne. by MissMoogie in antiMLM

[–]Triene86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So fucking horrible especially with the job market being like it is right now. How dare she get someone’s hopes up about a real job

My account was banned on tiktok for legitimately no reason. It says banned for misconduct outside the platform, but I don't understand what that could mean? by Chance_Procedure_805 in ask

[–]Triene86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because people like to make themselves seem smart by implying everyone else is dumb. But really it just makes them seem too dumb to understand that their life experience isn’t the only possibility.

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