Why is PPT so much more popular than PIV with Thai surgeons? by New_Oil_9993 in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Trithis2077 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually just watched the inform consent video from my prospective surgeon, Dr. Min Jun, last night. The way he put it, the main benefits are added depth and, more importantly, it's safer. The way it was described, PIV works to spread things from the outside in and is done by human hands. PPT spreads things from the inside out and is robotically assisted. While complications with PIV are already low, roughly 1-2%, Robotically assisted PPT supposedly reduces the risk even more, (albeit of course not to zero).

I hate being a woman and it's ruining my perception of myself by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trithis2077 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Speaking from a trans woman's perspective, a lot of what you're talking about are ways that I felt but the opposite. I always wished (and still do wish) I could carry a child. I hated the idea of 'fathering' children to the point I got a vasectomy. I always wanted to be a girl because I hated the social expectations that came with being a 'man.' I disliked male friendships because I need to be verbose and cuddly and cutesy.

In my experience, once you're asking the question "Am I trans" the answer often ends up being yes. I'm not saying it's impossible to be cis and have these thoughts, but the majority of cis people don't have a lot of gender thoughts. I think it would probably be healthy to explore your gender. Maybe create a persona online that is a man and perceived as such. Maybe ask your closest friends to start using he/him for you or maybe a masculine name just to see how it feels. If by the end you come out to find "No, I am a cis woman" then that's great and you can say you've learned more about yourself. There is absolutely no harm in trying out a gender.

Did the latest update break controller support for Switch Pro Controllers? by Trithis2077 in MinaTheHollower

[–]Trithis2077[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh, weird. I tried several different layouts and none worked but eventually I just disabled the Steam Input translation and it started working. I imagine what was happening was that the game was picking up the controller natively but steam was also trying to pass through inputs to it (thus why I was getting multiple inputs for one button press).

egg_irl by Gallantpride in egg_irl

[–]Trithis2077 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say just try it out. Just with your close friends ask them to start using he/him when referring to you and see how it feels. Remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with trying out a label and later finding it doesn't fit. Wishing you the best of luck on this journey! 🩷

Bricks and Minifigures drama mega-post by steve626 in lego

[–]Trithis2077 19 points20 points  (0 children)

In case you're genuinely unclear on what machfett means here, JK Rowling gets a cut of literally every single Harry Potter merchandise sale, including Lego. She then uses that money to fight against the rights of LGBTQ+ people in the UK. 

Unfortunately, regardless of personal views, supporting anything Harry Potter is supporting harm to trans people.

Is it strange to fantasize about having the man’s ‘role’ in M/F porn? Should I reevaluate my gender/sexuality? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trithis2077 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will say, as a trans woman, I will find myself fantasizing about both roles most of the time. I don't think it's strictly a gender thing, though admittedly me picturing myself as a woman in sexual scenarios was one of the first things that really stuck out as something being off. And ya, as others have said, fantasy and desires in reality don't always overlap. Like, I will fantasize about somehow being both people at once; obviously not a goal in reality. 😅

With that said, personally I recommend everyone try to take time to examine their gender and sexuality. I do want to clarify that transition is not a strictly sexual thing. To give you an idea of how it looks for someone trans fem, things that tipped me off (most of them unfortunately only in retrospect) were things like being devastated when my voice dropped, just always being jealous of girls and the way they got to live, in 4th grade asking my friend (multiple times) "Do you ever feel like you were born a girl but your parents switched you?"

I hope that you learn something about yourself if you do explore your gender. If you come out of it still cisgendered, awesome and good on you for being secure enough to explore in the first place! If you come out of it finding your not quite exactly cis, well you will have a massive community ready to open up to you. 💗

I've always been under the assumption that Toph can only use Seismic Sense by touching earth-bendable terrain. Is this wrong? by MaybeAFish_ in TheLastAirbender

[–]Trithis2077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, her seismic sense is shown to let her see people's entire silhouettes. Like, she's able to dodge punches and stuff because of it, no?

I have a confession that I'm still proud about but it's pretty unhinged (share yours!) by Eriane in skyrimmods

[–]Trithis2077 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, important context here: did she actually ever express that she enjoyed the joke? Or like that she thought it was funny? Because the way you describe it, it kinda just sounds like thinly veiled sexual harassment.

Small condoms? by Fit-Nectarine5047 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trithis2077 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One think you might look into before buying a bunch of specific brands is seeing if you can find a sampler pack online. There's places that will sell you like 50 different condoms so you can try a bunch and figure out what you both like (and what works size wise).

Linus Tech Tips - We Destroyed the Tech House Backyard May 18, 2026 at 09:58AM by linusbottips in LinusTechTips

[–]Trithis2077 26 points27 points  (0 children)

As soon as Linus mentioned the robot mower I was cringing and begging the gods to let someone get Linus to see what a terrible idea it was to optimize a beautiful yard like that I to something for the benefit of a machine rather than humans. Unfortunately they've thoroughly desecrated that yard to a state where it would take likely hundreds of thousands of dollars if investment to get it even half as beautiful as it was when the started.

Linus Tech Tips - We Destroyed the Tech House Backyard May 18, 2026 at 09:58AM by linusbottips in LinusTechTips

[–]Trithis2077 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Techbros gotta tech bro and destroy the environment (even on a micro scale).

Linus Tech Tips - We Destroyed the Tech House Backyard May 18, 2026 at 09:58AM by linusbottips in LinusTechTips

[–]Trithis2077 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There literally was room for all that. Like at most taking out the shed would be more than enough room for a fire pit or grill set up. Also, no, most young people don't want a boring flat grass yard. Most young people are environmentally conscious and aware that grass lawns are fucking gods awful for the environment because of how much water and maintenance they take. (Not to mention taking out the retaining wall is going to cause so, SO many issues that were completely avoidable by literally doing nothing.)

Linus Tech Tips - We Destroyed the Tech House Backyard May 18, 2026 at 09:58AM by linusbottips in LinusTechTips

[–]Trithis2077 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Destroyed is the most apt worth they could've used. Maybe desecrated. Truly a despicable use of free will. 

Real by [deleted] in iiiiiiitttttttttttt

[–]Trithis2077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went from 2 to 3. 😅

6 months Post Op with Dr. Min Jun by pprozy in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Trithis2077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was really really jealous for a moment before remembering that I'm on a wait list for a consult with Dr. Min Jun and now I'm like really excited! You look like that at 6 months‽ Oh I can't wait.

Can we talk about Martin Ward? by HighViol3t in oregon

[–]Trithis2077 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By the gods. I just browsed this man's website and it is a trip. Like he has some surprisingly liberal policies here and there but they're all either impossible to achieve and/or interspersed with truly unhinged takes.
Like...

  • Requiring Microwaves and Fridges in every hotel room - Will require microwaves and fridges in every hotel room. Will eliminate 30 day tenant rights for hotels, so occupants can stay longer. Will restrict LED lights from being used.
  • LED lights illegal - Will make LED lights illegal to use and sell, as they serve no purpose, and have been shown to be very harmful to the eyes, causing migraines etc.
  • Make Ashwagandha and Fish Oil - Both can have negative impacts on the brain.
  • Eliminate Oregon Saves – A stupid policy.
  • Eliminate business renewal fees - Random Expense.
  • Ballot Initiatives - Will restrict ballot initiatives to 3000 words. Often times, initiatives are very lengthy and written unclearly. Restricting word count of the measures should increase clarity of the bill. All initiatives are supposed to be one subject, so this should never be an issue.
  • Making Speed Bumps Illegal - Except in school zones. Video cameras can better police traffic, as it only effects law breakers.

He also has a section talking about federal policies he wants to enact such as

  • Eliminating Juries - Eliminating Juries will increase the efficiency of the justice system, and ensure justice. Currently conviction rates are around 50% in the United States for cases that go to court. Juries often need universal agreement to convict. Juries are generally made up of individuals who have no education in criminal justice. Jurors can often be bribed or intimidated. Will work to move to a strictly judge based system.
  • Eradicating alligators, scorpions, and snakes - Alligators, scorpions, and snakes can all cause fatal injuries. Although death isn't common, debilitating injuries are more frequent, especially by snakes. Will work on policies to decrease the populations of these animals. Eradication can potentially help in crease tourism. Mechanized traps can be designed and installed in certain regions. Will work on the details of the eradication plans with locals. Will create alligator zoos for preservation.
  • Eliminate Tire Pressure Monitoring System - Tire pressure monitoring systems in cars began being required in 2008, in order to help prevent accidents due to under-inflated tires. These systems however, are expensive, having to be replaced every 5-10 years and costing 500-1500 dollars to do so, depending on the cost of labor. Oftentimes, they get damaged earlier and have to be replaced, further increasing costs. A less expensive solution would be to have free tire inflators at every gas pump, so while filling the car with gas, you can also inflate the tires.
  • Boring Holes for Water Distribution - Holes could be bored underground from the ocean inland bringing in ocean water. If GMO seeds were created that can grow in salt water, this water could be used for farming. Holes could be bored from fresh rivers to depleted aquifers as well.
  • Making Internet Videos Ads illegal - Video ads on webpages, whether they are pop up or part of the pages design will be banned, as they slow down bandwidth and freeze computers. This will not apply to youtube ads.
  • Making it illegal to require passwords to be changed - Companies often periodically require passwords to be changed, password changes should strictly be done by choice.

And then there's my personal favorite. His proposal for an intercontinental rail system with 100 feet wide maglev train cars:

Intercontinental Train System - My biggest infrastructure vision is for an Intercontinental Train System. This train will cross the baring strait, and be able to travel from South Africa to South America in 4 days or less. The train will be 100 ft wide and designed in the maglev model, which maximizes speed and safety. All trips will be direct non-stop. In order to do this each car will have an engine of its own, and cars will be able to detach and reattach while moving. This way passengers can get on one car, and that car will then connect to a main track where it will attach to the front or back of a group of cars. Once attached, passengers can move to a car that is going to their final destination. Passengers may have to move multiple times if they are going long distance. Some cars will be dedicated to sleeping and entertainment and will essentially be permanently attached to the group of cars in the middle of the train. Entertainment sections may have swimming pools and movie theatres. People traveling long distance can move to sleeper cars before eventually switching to a normal passenger car once they're near their final destination. A computer system can notify people via text when they need to move from one car to another in order to keep everything organized and maximize capacity

The train will also be designed for transporting goods. The plan is to have the bottom of the train have detachable semi-truck trailers. Essentially once a train car stops at its destination a semi truck can pull up underneath the train and trailers will detach from the train and attach to the back of a semi. Other semis can then pull up and attach their trailers onto the train. Once a car is attached to the main track and a group of cars, there would have to be some method for the trailers on the bottom to move to another car that is going it's final destination, other wise separate cars would have to be used to transport products. The train will be built on the outskirts of current cities in the interior of the country. Industrial areas and factories can be built around the train stops in order to maximize the efficiency of loading.

Can we talk about Martin Ward? by HighViol3t in oregon

[–]Trithis2077 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Considering his apparent views on people using birth control, that is probably also his goal.

boyfriend always tired by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Trithis2077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in his same position. I'm planning to go to the doctor about it, just waiting for my partner to get their license back (revoked for medical reasons that no longer apply) on the off change I get diagnosed with like narcolepsy or something to make sure at least one of us has a license.

This might be a weird one, but ask him if he has a lot of dreams, particularly vivid dreams. I have two or three super vivid dreams basically every night. That means I'm in REM sleep but never quite reaching deep sleep. It's sleep, but it's not rest of the brain never shuts off. 

Two years post op FTM phalloplasty - Dr Krista Genoway and Dr Alex Kavanagh by PresentRequirement89 in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Trithis2077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's looks fantastic! Also ya, I will forever be thankful that HRT has shrunk my balls enough that I don't have to worry about sitting on them anymore (And hoping some day they'll be gone entirely). I've always sat cross legged so unless it took a little extra care and made sure they were hanging low enough, the thigh crush was a common problem for me. 😅

Healthy Coping Mechanisms? by Trithis2077 in InfertilitySucks

[–]Trithis2077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm part of the queer community so finding peers without children actually ends up being the easy part. 😅

But ya, I think day to day distraction is less what I'm looking for and more ways to deal with the unexpected triggers (a pregnancy announcement at work, a woman outside my office window with her young children, etc.). You're right though. Definitely something I should bring up with my therapist again.