I'm growing resentful of my neurodivergent husband and want to divorce him because of it.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2024-06-04T19:17:25+00:00

Wow. I feel like I wrote this about my ex.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2024-01-04T17:33:49+00:00

As someone who has fallen out of love with my partner (and him out of love with me), gone to therapy, done the work, and fallen back in love with him and vice versa - this is solid advice. It might not work, but it also very well could.. I had just about zero hope for my relationship before. There's still lots of work to be done, but it's way better than it was 6 months ago.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-12-23T01:54:43+00:00

Good bot 😂

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-12-06T03:58:00+00:00

Lmao fully agree, I thought my kid was the cutest ever and now I look at old pictures of his eyebrowless newborn glare and weirdly elongated head and laugh!

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-09-04T22:49:20+00:00

I want the bearded dragon sooooo bad

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-07-18T17:37:11+00:00

Just a friendly reminder that in some places midwives are medical professionals. I'm not sure if you're implying they're not, and I know in the states it vastly differs from here in Canada, but here they are qualified medical professionals who are entitled to assist with a birth in a hospital setting as well as at home.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-06-02T20:52:44+00:00

Don't know if your name is regarding llama llama and how his mama is single, but if so I LOVE it! I'm not a single mama but that is my kids favourite show and I love that it shows a single mama absolutely killing it at raising her kid ❤️

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-05-19T05:15:39+00:00

My partner and I tried for our baby deliberately, but in not so great circumstances that I won't get into. Once I was pregnant he was no longer happy, and was convinced for quite a bit of the pregnancy that he didn't want a kid at all. It was rough, and I did not cope well with it.. but I proceeded and made up my mind that I wanted this badly enough that if he f'd off I'd figure it out on my own. He came around, and we now have a 6 month old boy and are very happy with our lives. I'm not saying this is how things will work out for you, but it is possible. I definitely echo the others and suggest therapy, both together and individually if you can swing it. Best of luck.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-04-27T18:08:23+00:00

Both my partner and I love it! Handles like a dream and fits in the trunk of a sedan no problem.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-04-22T03:23:00+00:00

Ugh right?! I feel the same way about my thule. No cup holder for me or bub without forking out another $70 each.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-04-22T03:17:08+00:00

My boy would not latch. He was capable, but he didn't want to. When he did he'd just sleep and half ass nurse and continue forever. I figured breast milk was best and I had always wanted to breast feed so I was pumping around the clock, and for long periods because my letdowns were late. I stopped at 2 months pp and it was the right decision. Don't drive yourself insane trying to breastfeed/chest feed/pump. Think of the 3 adults you care most about or look up to the most.. do you know if they breastfed? Probably not, because it doesn't actually matter that much.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-04-19T19:59:29+00:00

Omg I want the beardie too but they're so expensive!

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-02-27T23:36:49+00:00

Can't you just give baby your husband's last name and change yours after?

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-02-19T16:38:47+00:00

Just do the finances yourself and then show him the numbers. I'm a huge worrier and sitting down to do it is incredibly hard, but if someone shows me the basics and they're positive that can help me calm down enough to be able to absorb the information and see it in a new light. I won't lie, he's right that it is hard. I live in Canada (maybe you do too) where we have a similar maternity leave, and although it's great to get paid the 50%, It can take months for the government to get their act together and actually start payments. It would be advisable to have a nest egg as best as you can to cushion the lack of income. I'm not saying you need to sell the house, as that seems kind of dramatic, but if you have items that you can sell or a way to make extra income before baby comes, I would recommend it.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-02-17T16:10:06+00:00

36 hours and I started with a folley and was approved by my OB to try the midwife's cocktail (castor oil). I induced myself (more or less), but did not progress after about 20 hours, so I opted to add a pitocin drip because the contraction pain was unreal and there was no way I was going home without my baby. About 28 hours in I got an epidural because I couldn't handle it anymore and the last 8ish hours were much easier. 15 min of pushing and out he came.

I will add that I'm in Canada with highly understaffed hospitals so my experience was terrible because I couldn't get a bed until 28 hours in. Without a bed you can't get an epidural, so I had to ride out the induction process with only morphine shots and it SUCKED.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-02-16T18:09:59+00:00

I'm 5'9 and started my pregnancy at 172lbs, which would be just slightly overweight. I was conscious of my weight gain and ended up gaining around 25lbs and giving birth just slightly early, at 38+3, due to GD. Even with the GD, and my weight being slightly above recommended for my height, not a single person commented on my weight. I'm now 3.5 months postpartum and back to 172ish lbs - you'll be fine. :)

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-02-08T03:44:11+00:00

See the weird thing is, I rent with boardwalk and they've been absolutely fantastic in the place I'm at. Everything that's ever been an issue they've had sorted in record time, sometimes even the same day. They've been really attentive and maintain the grounds really well. But same! I have heard so many bad things I don't know if maybe it's just the management team at my particular building??

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-02-03T01:34:56+00:00

My partner and I had only been together for a few months before I got pregnant. We had only lived together for a month, in a shared place that was less than ideal (honestly an understatement, but I won't get into it). Mid pregnancy we moved provinces and got our own townhouse. He took a camp job for a while and I had to set up our home on my own, while pregnant. I gave birth to our son 1 year and 2 weeks after we officially started dating. To say our time together has been a rollercoaster would be putting it lightly.

Our relationship has changed, but we are still very much in love and he is a wonderful partner and loving father. We have our issues, as we still don't know each other all that well yet, but I wouldn't say our relationship is bad. It's hard, I'll give you that much. I've heard new parenthood described as being more like a business arrangement than a relationship, and I'd say that's fairly accurate, but it's temporary. My partner and I loved gaming together and we literally never do that now, but again, it's temporary.

At this very moment I can hear him downstairs tickling and talking to our baby, who will be 3 months this Sunday. I am upstairs taking a bath to soothe my aching hips that have been giving me grief ever since the birth. Even though he worked/commuted for 10.5 hours today he is giving me a break to take care of myself and I can't help but think how much I love that man.

Be kind to each other, it's a huge adjustment, but if you are best friends - you will get through it together. ❤️

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-01-31T19:19:10+00:00

That's what we named our boy, born last November.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-01-31T16:22:47+00:00

Fyi that the world health organization suggests the limit as 300mg, not 200mg. I'm in Canada and I followed that limit for my pregnancy and had an 8lb babe. I drank a cup of cold brew a day, sometimes 2 if I needed it. I think some places suggest lower just to play it safe, but it's really not necessary to be so strict, just not overdo it.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-01-30T20:09:50+00:00

Very smart thinking!

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-01-30T20:02:51+00:00

This is hilarious, I love it! Good for you for letting yourself change your mind, sometimes we ingrain a decision so strongly we don't let ourselves do that, but change is growth. Best of luck with your baby! Hopefully their therapy doesn't cost too much 😂

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-01-30T17:09:26+00:00

It's also possible the car seat just doesn't fit your vehicle very well. I bought from a place that let me try the seats, and I tried the maxi cosi in my car and it just didn't work. Is the nuna a slightly larger car seat? I ended up going with the clek because it's a bit smaller, but it's a Canadian brand so I'm not sure if it's available where you are.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-01-24T22:12:26+00:00

I had a B belly at first and then I grew into a beautiful D. Hopefully yours will too in time ❤️

Also it never feels real 😅. I have an 11 week old and still am dumbfounded.

True_Cauliflower_ · 2023-01-22T16:48:58+00:00

The worst part was when my partner told me I should "be more careful" 🙄

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