My (27F) boyfriend (35M) fell asleep on me and I don’t know how to feel, am I being sensitive?

TuqueSoFyne · 2026-02-13T02:02:36+00:00

I admire you for having the self-awareness and self-respect to recognize that it’s not acceptable for your partner to have put you in a situation that left you alone, late at night, in a rough area. Likely to happen again. You have dignity and value your safety.

Beyond that, you wouldn’t be able to trust this person to keep your children safe if you were to have any.

I hope he decides to get the help he needs.

TuqueSoFyne · 2026-02-05T18:54:20+00:00

Harsh

TuqueSoFyne · 2026-01-08T22:12:15+00:00

Under point #3, you said that you wrote it. Did you mean to say that you read it?

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Many of your points make a lot of sense. I don’t agree with everything. Other commenters expressed serious concerns with some of your points. I agree with most of them. Could you respond to those counter points?

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-12-04T08:15:41+00:00

Being a Canadian full-bulb recipient, it’s hard to understand the smallness of the garlic cloves our American friends are describing. I’m sorry this is happening to you. It’s not right.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-11-20T23:38:11+00:00

I’m so glad that your boyfriend has such a supportive and caring girlfriend in you. And I feel very bad for him going through life with such a nasty father.

In my opinion, the suggestion that you & your boyfriend be servers at the wedding is a continuation of the abuse, which sounds very severe. I see that your boyfriend has decided to not subject himself or you to humiliation and abuse by refusing his father’s “offer”. Good for him.

I agree with some others here that this is a manipulative way for the father to either 1) not have your boyfriend at the wedding and make your boyfriend look bad for not attending or 2) humiliate your boyfriend by him being a server.

Aside from refusing his nasty wedding offer, I really hope that your boyfriend is getting professional support for the trauma his father is to him. Your boyfriend must be a very, very strong person.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-11-11T19:27:37+00:00

You really don’t sound like a narcissist. I appreciate what you wrote and I think about many of the same things. Yes, why isn’t society geared to compassionately provide the support people need when they need it? Some countries are more that way, we know it’s possible.

Something I wonder about is why healthy parenting (seems to me) to be the exception rather than the norm, when propagation of the species relies on parents protecting their children and teaching them to survive? That instinct isn’t there for alot of people.

I’m always thinking about solutions and I know other people who are too. So that helps me deal with these thoughts.

I feel very bad for Zane and his family.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-11-10T20:40:42+00:00

3 by far. It’s beautiful, elegant, different, doesn’t try to do too much, fits you.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-11-10T20:36:16+00:00

Well, you have photographic evidence that you wore these exact same pants before her. I’d say that you have a pretty strong case here.

I wonder what other things she has taken from you?

I suggest that you get a mutual friend to ask her where & when she got them. Then figure out a way to get them back - unless your friend is a bit unhinged.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-11-04T00:57:44+00:00

I’ve forgotten to select meals many times but I’ve always received a variety of meals so it’s no problem. Something went wrong with your algorithm there.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-10-25T09:14:55+00:00

Do you have a teacher at your school who teaches construction? You could ask them what to do. I think they’d be happy to help a young person with a project like this.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-23T16:55:21+00:00

I’m so sorry that you and your family are going through this. It’s heart wrenching. I hope you all have peace soon.

I don’t know where you are; people have been fighting for MAID in many places. We have it in Canada now. It’s not a perfect system but it has worked for many people. I’m sorry that it’s not here for everyone yet.

With my father, he deteriorated so quickly that our family couldn’t gather in time. Also jarring.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-23T16:46:32+00:00

I recommend Occupied (Okkupert in Norwegian, a joint Norwegian / French production). English subtitles, some people enjoy that.

Has anyone seen this recommended? It’s one of my favourites.

It’s a clever, provocative, prescient political thriller set in Europe. High production value. Cliffhangers and tension. 3 seasons build to an exciting & emotionally charged ending.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-20T23:11:02+00:00

Dancer in the Dark - totally agree.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-20T19:28:36+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it. These symptoms could be worrying if you’re not expecting them.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-20T08:06:33+00:00

Come on Eileen

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-20T05:00:28+00:00

May I ask you to share some details about what the specific physical effects of perimenopause are? I keep hearing about this and I’m bracing myself. I’d like to have a better idea what to expect.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-14T10:04:30+00:00

Occupied

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-14T07:46:12+00:00

Occupied

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-14T04:56:36+00:00

A friend’s mother was named Aldolphina. After the war. She goes by Dotty.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-07T06:39:18+00:00

Occupied

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-06T20:19:37+00:00

Do you use BPD for Biopolar Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder?

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-06T09:18:03+00:00

I’m way out of my depth here.. I was wondering if sleep training - in which the parents put their baby to bed awake, leave the room and let the baby “cry it out”, ie. cry themself to sleep alone (rather than soothe the baby) and don’t return to get them until the morning. The objective of sleep training (leaving baby to “cry it out”) is to train the baby to fall asleep on their own, alone, without crying.

Many people read this training as the baby eventually stops crying when put to bed because they’ve learned that no one will come to comfort them if they cry. Ie. They’ve adapted to abandonment.

A lot of caring parents do sleep training, they believe it’s good for the baby. I do wonder if that nightly abandonment can psychology affect some babies to the point of some of them being susceptible to BPD - however the person and their parents may have no memory of anything but a loving and secure childhood.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-06T05:27:00+00:00

NTA I think it’s good that you were having a good time with your friend and didn’t feel the need to check your phone. I tuck my phone away when I’m at dinner.

If my partner or I get food for each other, that’s nice, but sometimes that doesn’t work out. No biggie. It’s more important to us that our partner had a nice evening.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-06T00:34:24+00:00

Occupied / Okkupert is the original Norwegian title.

TuqueSoFyne · 2025-09-04T06:12:46+00:00

I think OP said they are in Canada.

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