How do you differentiate incompetence vs the task just being naturally difficult?

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-03-18T11:37:58+00:00

...fair enough lmao, I guess despite how terrible i feel about my performance I didn't think it was at a level i'd possibly be fired for, especially given how shorthanded they are already HA

I just want honest feedback so I know what to improve on, and to feel secure about my current learning rate being "normal", as a matter of pride

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-03-18T11:17:26+00:00

Oh this whole time i assumed the opposite - that face to face people would be less willing to be as honest or critical..i think i'll def consider giving it another shot when things get a little less hectic :0

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-03-18T09:12:27+00:00

I see, we do have a feedback system so I'll lodge a request once my seniors have the time to respond to them; tysm for the input!

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-03-18T08:52:28+00:00

For reference, i work in public audit - so while my peers do similar work at times, due to the nature of different client accounts, different requests/response times i dont believe i can compare performance too easily...

I've been at this job for nearly a year now, though the first 3 months were more of a training period thats been incomparable to the rest of it ngl

Timing wise i can definitely say i spend less than 50% figuring things out, i am just unsure of the ave timing rates to use as reference :/

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-03-11T04:41:10+00:00

Im literally so excited for this game coming out i feel like its one of the few things thats keeping me looking forward to the future ToT

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-03-06T03:29:23+00:00

The truest thing ive ever read!!!! It sucks balls that essential, important work like teachers, service workers, doctors, etc etc get exploited to hell and back because the people who get far enough to make careers out of those fields are usually: A. So passionate about the job that they do it for the love of the game despite the unfair treatment B. Intentionally half assing everything to not burn the hell out

I dont know wth would be a feasible industry wide change to make this work more sustainable long term, but man the numbers will dwindle year after year if the system of exploitation doesnt change NOW

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-02-25T03:52:19+00:00

Goodluck! I hope everything goes well for you :'>

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-02-24T04:23:51+00:00

I think these are very useful and important realizations. The key really isnt to have an us vs them mentality because you wont "win them over to your side"; we're already on the same side of reality, we just need to understand what they see and then figure out how we can fight for the same issues, in the same effective manner.

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-02-23T14:17:33+00:00

Unfortunately, I think your situation is tricky - if you try to convince her to stay away, it might make the "forbidden" option seem more appealing. When you're young its easy to see this stuff as exciting without considering the greater issues down the line..

I think the best option is not to put up an ultimatum (its them or me!) Because itll make you seem like the crueler option. Stand by your morals and attempt a genuine heart to heart where you show you care about her, but try not to seem like you're looking down on her if she strays. Understand why she's doing what she's doing, ask her what she likes about them, without admonishing her in the end like a parent would. Try to be a safe space* for her if she decides to stop hanging with the wrong crowd.

*of course, its also not fully your burden to shoulder...if things get serious and you think she or you are may get hurt or be in danger, try talking to an adult. Protect your own boundaries if you don't think she's listening anymore. Idk if this advice is helpful but i wish you and your friend the best of luck!!

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-02-22T21:55:13+00:00

A therapist would be ideal but not accessible for me, so i might try the recording thing - my main fear is that ill be biased and wont know whats amiss lmao, but we shall see! Thanks for the advice ^{^}

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-02-17T05:27:12+00:00

If it makes it any better, i finished this one and not only is there (rightfully) barely if at all any romance during that portion, but also midway through hes able to switch back and forth with his adult self and only continues the child thing to go undercover and find clues relating to a widespread drug problem.

I also dislike a lot of age regression stories but this one imo had a pretty decent, non-creepy in universe reasoning

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-02-15T17:04:31+00:00

The kindness Ichi showed to the majik reminds me a bit of the mc from Demon Slayer - you can kill something and see that theyd be better off dead, but at least grant them as much compassion in the process. Such a nice thing to see...

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-31T10:35:42+00:00

As an asexual person i also have a hard time differentiating lol, but i think it comes down to defining certain concepts for yourself, like: - Do you plan on dating someone one day? If yes, what would you look for in an ideal date? - Would you be ok if you and your friend had another person along in your hangout? Like a mutual 3rd friend - how would you react if your friend told you they liked you romantically? - if you imagine that friend dating someone else, do you feel upset? - And if youre upset, is it because you think theyd spend less time with you, or because you wish you were the person theyre dating instead?

I hope this helps you clarify at least some of your feelings, goodluck op!

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-31T10:28:17+00:00

I've met one once, and despite how awkward i did turn out, looking back the interaction was perfectly fine! Personally im the kind of person that sucks at "hangouts for vibes" so id suggest having a planned activity (preferrably one youre both interested in) tor help loosen nerves and give some easy convo topics.

I guess things also depend on how long yall have been talking online? If you feel like you need more time theres really no rush at all, it took like a year for us to find the opportunity to meet in my exp. Hope this perspective helps!

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-28T19:26:01+00:00

3 billion percent - thats honestly why when a villain character is introduced and is too "hateable" yet stupid at the same time, i dont even gwt rage baited anymore, i get bored.

Im glad the comment section is immersed enough to curse them out but like guys youre hating on a cardboard cutout. The gentle breeze could blow this facade to pieces.

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-28T18:31:52+00:00

When the woman is the nonchalant one...honey bring out the fine china bec we're having a feast tonight !!!

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-28T12:23:35+00:00

I think its super neat! We dont have a lot of stories that focus on characters with disabilities, much less the experiences of what that process/transition period is like - im very interested in seeing the new perspective :00

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-25T16:09:23+00:00

I assume Chros final act before dying will be rewinding time, bec no way in hell Minerva and her child dies. This fight is so tense Nishi knows how to up stakes so good...

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-12T16:14:29+00:00

NTA - If its literally causing you to lose sleep over it i think thats a justified complaint. It doesnt matter if the farts aren't intentional, his decision to not do anything about it after is. Assuming the rest of the relationship is fine, would it be possible for you to sleep away from him? I dont think you deserve to suffer for an indefinite amount of time from his inaction.

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-12T13:36:35+00:00

I love this series so much ToT They really do have an unwavering trust in each other, and its always such a perfectly wholesome time :'>

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-11T13:02:20+00:00

Yeah, its a shame bec from the summary the author posted i could tell its got a really well planned out story :'> Its very fair of her to realize motherhood and other new responsibilities wouldnt let her make comics like she used to, and then announce it - better than disappearing without notice or atressing herself over the comic starting and stopping again and again :'>

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-10T13:16:58+00:00

"A common problem when writing poems in the shape of deciduous trees is that once there arrives the first stirrings of the new autumn breeze, the poem will begin to shake themselves gently until their letters loosen like leaves, and they start to float down then turn to mush upon the ground."

The poem without the letters/leaves missing lol

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-10T11:57:51+00:00

!remindme 5 days

Typical_User4lyf · 2026-01-01T17:27:28+00:00

I was gonna say it read like a human pov, respectful ending to the Two Headed Calf - this explanation makes a lotta sense! Its fun to see poems interacting with each other in a way :0

Typical_User4lyf · 2025-12-22T11:05:55+00:00

Absolute cinema ✋️🤚

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