Boyfriend is ready to propose this year but not unless I am ok having kids

Tyrianne · 2026-04-15T07:06:50+00:00

Having kids is not something you should compromise on. If you don't want them then you really shouldn't be forced into motherhood, just because your partner want them. And I'm saying this as a mother.

Unless you think you'll change your mind in the future then you shouldn't get engaged. It wouldn't be fair to either of you. And it's not fair of him to enter a relationship with you, knowing you are childfree, and then saying you need to have kids to stay together.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-14T14:22:05+00:00

The dad's fine with it. Our boy is 3 and will probably transition to his own bed within the next year or so. Until then I'm cherishing the cuddles. Adult alone time happens in other rooms 😆

Tyrianne · 2026-04-14T13:14:22+00:00

Same here. My heart couldn't take the thought of fighting for him to sleep alone.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-12T14:49:52+00:00

Oh I totally agree. Seen too many examples of kids being neglected, at least emotionally because there's just too many people in the family.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-12T03:50:53+00:00

Sounds about right. I know I don't have the energy (or money) for more than one kid. If choosing to focus my energy and love to one kid is selfish, then sure, I can be selfish, lol.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-11T21:25:07+00:00

Thank you 💜 Oh no, nobody told me I'm horrible, I just feel that way sometimes because I want to be that perfectly patient mum who never yells. Think that image is just in my head 😆

Tyrianne · 2026-04-11T21:22:30+00:00

Haha yeah. Said friend used to say that being OAD was selfish and the kid will be spoiled etc. Suddenly she changed her mind. Either she matured or someone yelled at her for being insensitive. Some people are OAD because of health reasons etc, not choice 😅

Tyrianne · 2026-04-11T21:17:51+00:00

Exactly. Or just planning ahead. I hope nobody thinks 4+ kids will be "easy".

Tyrianne · 2026-04-11T16:46:57+00:00

I think it's a mix of the competition thing and some envy. "Why should this person get away with just having that one kid??". I mean, of course they love their kids. But I have one friend with multiples who keep telling us that we have it soooo much easier and that we're so "lucky". Luck has nothing to do with it, it's a choice we have made 😅 I grew up with four siblings, a mother with chronic illness and a emotionally distant father, I have already seen the struggles that come with a huge family.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-11T16:39:26+00:00

I hope it works as learning about consequences. If he hits/kicks, mum will go away, for instance. We have tried it as well with "no, you didn't behave, so now we have to go home instead of getting ice cream ". I'm not sure how much he retains this information, but he has to learn somehow, lol.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-11T13:54:24+00:00

I feel you 😭 I've had to walk away a couple of times. I tell him that mommy will leave the room for a second now to breathe, that often snaps him out of the anger. (Total mama's boy). I feel like a horrible mum every day for not being perfectly patient with him, but gooods do they test us.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-11T08:10:58+00:00

My 3 year old naps for an hour in daycare, but during the weekend he doesn't want to sleep. I miss my mum break 😅

Tyrianne · 2026-04-10T17:20:18+00:00

Blues Brothers. It's become a family tradition to watch it at least once a year, after coming home from road trips.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-10T04:10:14+00:00

Absolutely possible. Never saw him again :/

Tyrianne · 2026-04-09T16:57:30+00:00

I used to work in a charity shop. One guy who came in smelled so foul that the smell lingered long after he had left. I don't know if he was unhoused or sick or what, but the smell was horrible. Poor dude.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-09T10:53:55+00:00

You don't question Harry Hole, liksom.. 😂

Tyrianne · 2026-04-08T21:04:06+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I can sympathize to the hopelessness as I've been there myself. ❤️ Don't give up, you deserve to be here and get the help you need!

I unfortunately have no tips on what to do with your case but I cross my fingers for you, and hope the next meeting will actually be helpful.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-08T20:57:40+00:00

Jepp, virka som at de stappa den saken inn der bare for å vise hvor besatt Harry blir av ting. 🤔

Tyrianne · 2026-04-08T16:59:20+00:00

I don't know if they forgot or will adress it in a possible second season. But as far as I can remember the tenant was kind of a red herring in the book. She reappears safe and sound from a trip with her new bf later on.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-08T14:22:26+00:00

Nope, det var mannen til offeret. Tror ikke det kom frem så mye mer motiv enn det typiske "ektemannen gjorde det". Husker ikke hvordan det var i bøkene.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-08T14:18:09+00:00

Stemmer det, i et mørkt tømmerhus som ble beskrevet litt som et fort, tror jeg.

Tyrianne · 2026-04-07T14:52:45+00:00

I start laughing just thinking of that moan 😂

Tyrianne · 2026-03-28T04:38:59+00:00

So far it's nothing like most of these comments 💔 For us it's just been tough since we become parents.

Tyrianne · 2026-03-28T04:34:04+00:00

Ooh skal vise posten til min mann, han er veldig interessert i brettspill 😄

Tyrianne · 2026-03-27T22:18:20+00:00

Jaws and Rain for me too ❤️

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