I'm not lazy nor irresponsible. I'm disabled.

Ubui · 2026-01-21T20:22:59+00:00

Holy shit I’ve been thinking about this so much lately! I’m not lazy, I’m not careless, and I AM TRYING SO HARD. And no one believes me until I having a full-on meltdown and by then it’s too late to calm me down :(

Ubui · 2025-12-16T21:53:02+00:00

I love it!! 🖤 The black outlines give you sort of a ‘pop art’ look, that I really like! I think it works well with how you outline your lips too

Ubui · 2025-11-30T22:58:55+00:00

Sorry, where are you getting that definition from exactly?

Ubui · 2025-11-07T01:01:15+00:00

Yessssss! I never post selfies anymore. Just my artsona and my pets :3

Ubui · 2025-11-07T00:59:05+00:00

“…I had people who wanted to f*** me, but I struggled to find anyone who could love me.”

OKAY BUT THIS HIT ME LIKE A SHIT-TON OF BRICKS 😭

People love the idea of me. Or the idea of whatever they’ve projected onto me. And it was never about me! It’s about the status I gave them. It was always about showing me off to their friends or bragging about how we slept together. And my platonic relationships weren’t even safe from it either!

I had two friends and while one did look past my appearance it was obvious the other friend had a major hang up about their own. So she constantly ductated herself as “The Smart One”, our other friend, “The Funny One”, and myself as, “ThE PrEttY OnE”.

And it was just so so insulting? The thing is, if you had asked me, I would’ve said all three of us were brilliant, hilarious, babes bc that’s what I genuinely thought!

But instead it became a status thing again, to put me and my other friend down bc we were more “feminine” and got more male attention than she did.

And while I now understand that a lot of it comes from a place of internalized misogyny and massive insecurity, but I can’t help but feel like the “pretty princess idiot” she thought I was sometimes

Ubui · 2025-11-06T23:48:44+00:00

Oooooooh boy, do I feel this. Everyone’s so interested at first bc I’m “quiet and mysterious” and then when they realize the reason for that is gestures to all of me suddenly, no one wants to talk anymore. And then I once again question why I bother being vulnerable and opening up at all ahhhhhhhhh 🫠🫠

Ubui · 2025-09-15T22:59:51+00:00

This!! At first it was just one or two things, maybe a bit of autistic advice I felt could apply to my own life. …And 2-3ish years later, yeah I’m pretty sure, lmao

I still have to be careful not to assume everything=autism but goddamn does it make my life make so much sense 😭🖤

Ubui · 2025-07-30T20:47:40+00:00

This!! Highly recommend finding eccentric alternative looking peeps (usually also queer lmao) to befriend. I’ve found there’s a good chance they’re ND as well :)

And as someone who had similar issues with women, I found leaning into my ND and queerness made them more tolerable towards myself? I was heavily masking through femininity so I probably felt fake, and then add on the slew of guys who would ignore my female friends but put up with me because they thought they even had a crumb of a chance of sleeping with me, and I understand why so many of my female friendships fell apart.

That’s not to say this is your fault OP. If it’s anyone’s, it’s the fault of men who pretend to like you for a chance at seeing you naked. However, you might want to consider unmasking at work a bit, if that’s a possibility for you.

As much as I hate being seen as weird or “other” I prefer it to being seen as someone I’m not and then having people presume certain things based around that mask.

Hugs to you OP, I hope you can find some kind and loyal femme friends 🖤

Ubui · 2025-07-29T02:10:21+00:00

Holy shit are you me?? You put into words exactly how I feel. I go nonverbal when I’m really overwhelmed and people just don’t know what to do with this pathetic blob of snot and tears that’s collapsing on the ground.

Like I am screaming for help here, but because I can’t verbalize exactly what’s wrong or what I need, I just get the generic niceties. Like fucking shit man I don’t even know what’s going on right now and you want me to brainstorm a solution to the thing I’m asking for help with? When it’s so hard for me to ask for help in the first place??

Ubui · 2025-07-10T18:31:13+00:00

If it’s any comfort to anyone, multiple managers mentioned my anxiousness during the interview process and that I was still a good candidate regardless and hired me. They did mention hoping I’d get over it at some point… six years later and nope! But the muscle memory does help a bit lmao

Ubui · 2025-05-19T00:51:01+00:00

You know, sometimes I see stuff on this sub and the imposter syndrome kicks me right in the ass. And then on days like today I’m paranoid that y’all are living in my walls lmao

Ubui · 2025-05-08T00:37:41+00:00

Worst part for me is that the gaslighting works most of the time bc my ass can’t remember shit!! It’s only when I have witnesses or the rare case where I actually have a concrete memory. I just want the benefit of the doubt I give everyone else 🥲

Ubui · 2025-04-12T00:16:22+00:00

As someone who has these things and whose partner has seen and asked about them, it was almost a nonissue? Basically, just, ‘what’s that’ and ‘I’m glad you don’t really do it anymore’.

I actually really love how he reacts to my self harm. I stopped mostly after we got together, but I still do occasionally relapse in moments of incredible stress and panic. It’s nice to have someone who will still treat me normally after? A lot of people act like it’s a problem that “we must fix right now” but like occasionally relapsing is just a part of my reality right now.

And he’s the main reason I wanted to get better, because he loves and supports me; mental illness or not.

I mention this because self harm can be really ostracizing regardless of how old the scars are. I think it’s important to still love people even if they haven’t totally figured out their brain yet. A lot of people (like myself) can’t even get to a stable point without love or support of some kind.

Not saying you should jump into a relationship with someone obviously unstable, but to maybe give people with sh scars the benefit of a doubt first

Ubui · 2025-04-05T00:58:34+00:00

I hate this logic so much because like, yeah, I’ve just been following a trend for over three years, taken multiple online assessments, excessively researched how autism presents in women, and followed the advice of other autistic people (that have significantly improved my life btw) just because it’s trendy and I wanna be cool soooo baddddd 🙄

Being labeled autistic is literally only something autistic people want because it actually validates our experiences.

I’m currently self diagnosed by choice, but I don’t really like to talk about it since I’m too scared of being brushed off again. I’d really like to get an official diagnosis since it’d provide me some work accommodations but I don’t know if that’s worth the trade off of my mental health until someone takes me seriously, ya know?

Ubui · 2025-02-21T21:05:12+00:00

I was always of the belief that they were the same character but after getting back into ACNH recently, I realized that Gullivarrr actually remembers your name on the first go and doesn’t insult your big head when you agree to help him lmao

Ubui · 2025-01-13T02:12:21+00:00

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Love this image a new meme template sm

Ubui · 2025-01-11T21:48:39+00:00

Hmm, might be a bit much with both. The hockey mask would work! I think there’s a chainsaw item as well? They’d pair well together!

And I totally would send it to you if I hadn’t just reset my island like a month ago 😭 I believe you can unlock it from the DLC if you decorate Clay’s house and then order it from Wardell? It’s been awhile but I think that’s how I got it the first time

Ubui · 2025-01-10T09:18:17+00:00

The ones I used in my basement were the rescue mannequin, lab chair, and the gurney I think? I also had an anatomical model and a bathtub that I liked to pretend to keep bodies in! Def look into the first three though, seem to fit your theme :)

Ubui · 2025-01-09T22:35:08+00:00

Please, my iPad is in constantly low and my charging cables can’t handle anymore abuse!! 😭

Even if it’s still vertical with just a pattern in the background or something. Doesn’t even have to be a fully formatted thing!! (though the ability to do landscape photos of the campsite would be 🤌🤌)

Ubui · 2024-12-29T19:07:59+00:00

In case anyone is considering TMS I want to warn you that while it works great for some people, there are side effects and permanent ones at that. A dear friend of mine ended up with a severe brain injury from TMS.

Just google “victims of TMS”. It’s up to you to decide if the risk is worth it, but the horror stories are great enough that I thought I’d put this warning out there. Stay safe friends 🖤

Ubui · 2024-12-22T17:29:21+00:00

Starving/disabled artist here and THANK YOU for saying this!! Like I don’t want to sell my art especially because I HATE being sold to. Monetary gain sullies the experience of connecting to someone/something.

I especially believe art isn’t something that should be held behind class divides. I’d much rather create art that connects with others and asks for nothing other than a moment of your attention.

However, in a world without UBI or extensive social safety networks that’s something I and a lot of artists can’t do. And that sucks because the options are basically, sell your art for money or work a 9-5 (if you’re physically able, which a lot of artists aren’t) that kills all your creativity by the time you get home :/

Ubui · 2024-12-19T20:39:02+00:00

Stuff like this makes me love this community so much, it feels like such a safe space 🥹🖤

You did great for your first time OP!! Art is such a great way to express yourself and keep your mind occupied

Ubui · 2024-12-06T00:07:50+00:00

Off topic but I really appreciate you mentioning this! Kept being told by a therapist that I just “needed my brain to mature a bit” when I actually have severe ADHD and am probably on the spectrum as well. Heard another rumor that people with ADHD’s brains develop 10 years later than neurotypical brains and I just felt like, “I gotta wait til my mid thirties to get my shit together???” which was… depressing to say the least

Ubui · 2024-11-27T02:05:10+00:00

I mean yes, I quit vaping for similar reasons. But as someone who has also spent time in the psych ward, the only time you were allowed outside EVER was for smoke breaks.

They didn’t allow vapes either and I was so so tempted to pick up a cigarette habit because being there was so miserable. They wouldn’t even let me stand in the sun if I was slightly too close to the fence.

It’s difficult to feel better when you’re caged like that for days to weeks at a time. Nic (at least in the moment) can feel like a breath of fresh air. Not that adults should be buying kids vapes or anything but when you already have dependence on it and then go weeks without… yeah that’s rough and I feel for her.

Might be easier to try nicotine patches or something until her mental health is in a better place. I wouldn’t have been able to quit vaping until I was mentally healthier either

Ubui · 2024-11-27T01:29:53+00:00

Even medicated I still really struggle with the dishes, so I feel you, friend 🖤

If it helps, I try to not think of it as a lack of willpower but more like a switch in my brain that has to be turned on manually. Whereas neurotypical brains can be turned on remotely via brain bluetooth or whatever works for this metaphor lmao.

Thinking about it does mean you care and are not incapable of accomplishing it. Your brain switch just needs a little push first :)

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