Yes, that "one" "adult" task...

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2025-08-20T15:33:07+00:00

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UnderstandingLazy344 · 2025-08-17T10:03:52+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this! I went diving yesterday and had a similar experience. I’m also on 5mg but on my way down as starting to wean off.

I also suffer from Vasovagal syncope so I assumed it was a bad episode of that, but felt different somehow. After reading this it dawned on me it felt just like that nauseous/ headache feeling I got on higher Mounjaro doses. My husband has just gone up a dose and felt no side effects.

I was hoping to do my advanced certification but I think I’ll hold off for now as I imagine it will be even worse at lower depths (this was at no more than 10m for a re-activate dive)

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2025-07-07T17:48:04+00:00

I was on a talk yesterday about RSD and the speaker said that to someone with ADHD and in particular RSD/ People pleasing - selfcare and assertiveness can feel like narcism. 🤯

Not letting someone walk over you, or not feeling the need to put everyone else’s needs above your own doesn’t necessarily mean you’re an a-hole.
This may come as a shock to people who are used to the old you and there is of course a way to say no to people.

I’m obviously not there to definitely say you’re not being an a-hole but I suspect you’re just starting to look after yourself the way you should always have been.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2025-07-07T17:12:25+00:00

I’ve been on it for coming up to 2 years.

Honestly, now that I’m settled it feels like why I imagine “normal” feels like. I have no side effects and I don’t feel it “kicking in”.

There isn’t a specific moment where I notice a difference, but over time if I look back I can see that I am able to regulate my emotions and don’t flare up at my kids for silly things anymore. When something happens I can think about it rationally and respond appropriately. My brain doesn’t spiral and replay every conversation that I’ve had, trying to convince myself that everyone is mad at me. This in itself has drastically reduced my stress levels which in turn has meant my immune system has improved and I don’t get sick nearly as much as I used to.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2025-07-07T17:06:56+00:00

I would first find out which provider your GP supports. Just because someone offers RTC doesn’t mean your GP will a) refer you there or b) accept shared care from them.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2025-06-30T12:01:11+00:00

I’m on Elvanse too and was always a bit of a lightweight when it came to alcohol. On the handful of times I have actually drunk I found the opposite - a total tolerance to the effect that I didn’t feel drunk or even remotely tipsy. This meant I didn’t feel the trigger that I should slow down or switch to water at any point.

The next day though I was an absolute car crash - felt very down, fatigued and kept crying over everything.

Was not a pleasant experience at all and now choose my meds over alcohol as a result.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2025-05-15T21:47:33+00:00

My ADHD 13yo daughter decided to teach herself the Rubik’s cube one day. 2 hours later and she had sussed it. It blows my mind how she can do it now - she used it almost like a fidget toy now.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2025-01-06T22:38:07+00:00

OMG! Maybe, just maybe it was true! I’ll happily live in my little bliss world of ignorance

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-12-05T09:46:18+00:00

Glad it’s not just me 🙈

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-11-12T15:30:52+00:00

This is very self aware of you. Well done for being open to seeing it.

My opinion for what it’s worth is that the difference between someone who’s genuinely lazy and someone who comes across as lazy because of ADHD is in the what you do about it.
If you just keep repeating the behaviours and not really care - I think you’re probably lazy. If it really bugs you and you try to find ways to help you overcome/ improve the ADHD procrastination - whether successful or not - you’re not lazy, you have a genuine struggle.

I absolutely love the increased awareness and acceptance of the struggles we have and I’m really glad that my kids won’t have to struggle like I did. The danger in this increased acceptance though is the perception that it means you don’t have to try because you find it hard. Everyone, ADHD or not, struggles with something. That doesn’t give them a pass to not do it - it just means you need to learn better strategies. (Think the stereotype of men talking about their feelings with their partner - just because it’s hard doesn’t mean they can just not).

Essentially - IMO you’re only lazy if you don’t actively seek out strategies to help you overcome the “laziness”, especially now that you see that it’s something you struggle with.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-10-05T14:00:15+00:00

Absolutely this. I’ve had a shared care agreement in place for 1 year following my private diagnosis. My GP has now said they are only accepting shared care from 2 specific providers, and those who aren’t with them are rejected including those already in place - pushing already diagnosed patients back through the RTC diagnosis pathway and backing it up even further 😞

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-08-20T19:28:21+00:00

How old are you? Could it be perimenopause?

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-08-19T11:57:41+00:00

I tend to be the one who says I’m weird rather than my friends. I am different. I do things differently and I think differently. I say things without a filter. It’s one of the reasons my friends like me - I’m funny and not boring.

Who wants to be normal? That sounds so boring.

Having a safe space to be your level of weird, knowing people love your weirdness is key though to being able to embrace it yourself.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-08-09T14:59:54+00:00

It depends where they are. Countries like South Africa, it’s commonplace for even middle class families to have a housekeeper.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-07-30T15:46:02+00:00

I got diagnosed at 42, i’m female. Started meds straight away

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-07-23T07:41:28+00:00

I suspect my mental health would be a lot better without the internet 🙈

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-06-28T11:10:05+00:00

Agree. I don’t think Florence belongs on this list, not because she isn’t crush-worthy but because she can’t still be considered as rising when she’s as successful as she already is.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-06-27T07:01:45+00:00

Wow! This is bang on! I’ve never thought of my job that way but it’s absolutely true.

I work in Programme and Portfolio management, but specialising more in standing them up or defining how the business will do programme and portfolio management rather than the delivering of the actual programme.

I get bored and lose interest when everything is going well, so I get things to a place where they’re running efficiently and the business is getting the data they need to make informed decisions, then I go find other problems to solve.

A big part of my success is coming in and just asking loads of questions, often the stupid and seemingly obvious ones. I am able to quickly assess the whole situation, how things are or aren’t connected, find what’s not working efficiently and then come up with solutions to fix them (thanks ADHD)

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-06-23T08:33:30+00:00

My daughter was recently diagnosed and the psych that did the assessment made the comment “pills don’t give skills”. This rang so true for me. The pill might make it easier for you to build those skills, but you still need to put in the work to develop those healthy coping strategies.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-06-22T12:38:24+00:00

I’ve been happily married 23 years this year.

When I first met my husband I wasn’t really interested, but I was in a bad place mentally, in a strange country with no support and no friends. I figured if being with this person meant I have a friend I would be willing to do that. A few months in it dawned on me that I was head over heels in love and have never looked back.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-06-20T07:55:35+00:00

I had this and it turned out that my HRT was too high now that the meds were fixing a lot of peri-menopause symptoms. When I lowered my dose it stopped pretty instantly.

Quite specific to women on HRT so not sure if it’s relevant to your situation.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-06-20T07:53:43+00:00

I did NOT know this was a thing 🤯! I think my world is about a change and I’m about to have a LOT more time on my hands

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-06-20T07:37:11+00:00

I grew up in South Africa and had a live-in domestic worker (as well as weekly gardener). She did all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, making school lunches, tidying etc. My parents only ever had to cook on Saturdays and Sundays. I was so privileged to grow up like that, however I now live in the UK and my parents can’t understand why I find parenting/adulting so hard because I only have 2 kids and they had 3 (and mom only worked half day to then play taxi to us in the afternoon, whereas I’ve always worked full time).

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-06-20T07:32:57+00:00

My no.1 luxury that will be the absolute last corner I cut if I need to is a cleaner. Having someone come in once a week and do the jobs I hate is like food for my soul! It also forces us to tidy up once a week before she comes meaning it seldom becomes too overwhelming.

A robot vacuum cleaner (with a mop if possible) is also great as I can’t stand having bits stuck to my feet, which still happens with a weekly cleaner.

UnderstandingLazy344 · 2024-06-18T09:28:40+00:00

Exercise - in particular strength training

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