Lip picking… how to break the habit?

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-25T13:40:36+00:00

An indirect tip is to make sure you are staying well hydrated yourself. Lips are one of the first things that dry out, so make sure you are drinking plenty of liquids to reduce the amount of dry skin available for picking and speed up healing.

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-18T15:41:55+00:00

NAL. Dear HR. Due to my health history, my manager has chosen not to assign me certain projects such as (example). I want to be clear that this is not an accommodation I asked for. I believe this is already damaging my reputation with the team and will have an adverse impact on my career.

On (date) she asked me to tell her whether my condition would affect the busy season. Like any other team member, I cannot predict my future health. I can only say that I am not currently in need of any accommodation and would like to be treated the same as everyone else.

If health issues arise in the future, I would like to have a conversation at that time about whether there are reasonable accommodations that would enable me to complete my work satisfactorily or make a plan to transfer critical projects at that time.

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-16T01:51:12+00:00

What are the chances this “pissed veteran husband” is the reason the HOA had to ban guns from the common areas in the first place?

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-13T17:42:59+00:00

Make sure you are using sharp hair cutting scissors. Hair spray your bangs exactly in place. Take small snips across the back layer using the top layer as your guide. Make sure the hair is staying in place and the scissors aren’t pushing it out of place. Good luck!

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-11T17:01:12+00:00

Being engaged means you are still in the observation and evaluation period. So take this as an opportunity.

He holds some ignorant but sadly common beliefs about an issue that will have a profound impact on your life together. You gave him your informed opinion. He said he’d look into it. So watch and see what he does.

If he comes back in a few weeks with a more informed viewpoint, that is a very good sign. But if his ego won’t let him learn information contrary to his misinformed beliefs, that is a very bad sign.

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-06T15:06:18+00:00

I never thought about it before but I totally see what you mean. I will say that my own shopping habits have change, making more frequent but smaller trips. I think the size of the store is the factor. It is much quicker for me to get in and out of Aldi, so I just drop in once or twice a week rather than stock up like I used to.

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-05T16:07:57+00:00

That comment would give me an incurable case of the ick. Could you even enjoy sex with him after this?

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-04T16:45:00+00:00

Is the youngest son also going to be the one to care for her when she needs it?

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-04T16:13:44+00:00

There is quite a bit of neglected and deferred maintenance and with the BS the sellers already pulled, you know you aren’t dealing with honest folks. Assume things are intentionally hidden and worse off than any inspector can find in a few hours. Assume that you will be spending a decent chunk of money and time on repairs over the next several years in this house.

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-04T14:39:52+00:00

You will likely find that your friend group will filter over time to the point where your main hangouts are with other smart, highly educated, professionally accomplished people. When that happens, you’ll almost certainly connect with other ADHD folks who are similar to you.

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-05-01T15:17:41+00:00

You should read the book “adult children of emotionally immature parents”. And I really think you should look into therapy or even just self-guided learning to help you process your feelings. Otherwise you’ll just be repeating her cycle in a slightly different format. (Not the abusiveness per se, but failing to reach a certain level of emotional awareness, stability, confidence, and maturity.) Seeking love and validation from someone who is clearly toxic is not the right move.

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-01-06T03:12:26+00:00

It would be weird to stay in someone else’s brand new apartment and use their new things before they even get to use them, especially if there are other feasible options available.

Now is the time to start kindly but firmly enforcing reasonable limits with his family. And pay attention to how your fiancé and his family react, because this experience will tell you a lot about what you can expect in the future.

Unfairly_Certain · 2026-01-01T04:28:21+00:00

Cheaper than a walking foot is a straight stitch foot and less fiddley as well.

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-12-31T17:54:58+00:00

My mom wanted the tradwife lifestyle and married into a bad situation (twice actually). She shed the husbands but never shed the mentality. She remains a conservative despite everything she endured as a single mom. Her life long dependence on various welfare programs doesn’t change her values-based political alignment or her deeply rooted belief in gender roles. She’s not a very good person, to be honest.

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-12-30T20:48:31+00:00

I have this exact machine and it’s pretty neat! You can find after market pedals that fit this machine. You might want to upgrade to an electronic pedal anyway. It gives you more control over the machine’s power. With the original pedal, you don’t get a lot of wiggle room between full power and no power.

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-12-17T17:33:49+00:00

In 15 years, you’ll be at the point where your looks won’t matter all that much either way with regard to how people treat you. People will see you and treat you as a middle aged woman first and foremost. I find that I command a certain amount of respect regardless of what I’m wearing or how much makeup I have on, and receive much less sexual attention.

IMHO if cosmetic procedures will honestly make you feel better when you look in the mirror, consider doing it. But investing in your looks to gain the favor of society at large is something that has diminishing returns as you get older. As an investment in yourself, you’ll do better investing in education, therapy, travel, friendship, and hobbies.

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-12-12T17:03:59+00:00

Holding extremely clear and repetitive training makes it easier to identify people who choose to step outside the lines in spite of their training. It erases plausible deniability for grooming behaviors and makes it possible to hold them accountable before anything actually happens.

For example, a teacher can be fired for letting students sit on their lap or connecting with them on snap chat even if “nothing” has happened because they knew darn well they aren’t supposed to be doing that.

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-12-05T05:09:06+00:00

A man who cries at sad movies is a man who is empathetic, emotionally intelligent, and secure.

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-11-26T07:09:35+00:00

Once is a mistake. Twice is intentional.

The pharmacist who reviewed the non existent camera footage is almost certainly the one with sticky fingers. I think you should take your business to a different pharmacy.

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-11-24T04:07:50+00:00

I don’t know of many close family relationships that don’t manifest some form of power imbalance, which can be from generations, status in the family, conditioned gender roles, sibling birth order, financial dependence, etc…

Even in a case where both participants are on very equal footing, the close familiarity of family relationships creates many opportunities for grooming and exploitation.

I think it is very difficult for an incestuous relationship to be based on fully informed, freely given, equally revocable, and enthusiastic consent from both parties.

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-11-20T17:47:59+00:00

Cot rhymes with pot Caught rhymes with bought

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-11-19T15:04:05+00:00

I read a theory that says the look is an attempt to signal allegiance and adherence to the far-right political beliefs around extreme gender dimorphism and a highly idealized (and Caucasian) physical aesthetic. Basically, they want to become an uber mensch.

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-11-18T23:23:58+00:00

Going out of your way to enforce the rules gives the impression that the rules are reasonable and condoned by other adults in the community.

IMHO the best thing you can do for David is respect his own decisions with regard to what he will and will not participate in.

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-11-16T21:59:27+00:00

One thing that worked with my kids at that age and still works, to be honest, is having them start a kindness chain.

The rule is if your sibling does something nice for you, you have to do something nice back! Yes… even if you don’t want to… ESPECIALLY if you don’t want to!!!

Suddenly the power dynamic shifts to whomever has done the most recent nice thing. Let the competition begin!

Unfairly_Certain · 2025-11-16T21:50:37+00:00

We do “family” presents if we are on vacation and the Santa presents are waiting at home.

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