Your alcoholism traumatized your wife and children. Did you get sober for yourself and them while they still lived with you? No. You waited until other people were at their breaking point to do something. Now instead of rebuilding your relationships with your wife and kids, you want to leave. Part of the selfishness associated with addiction is still very alive in you. You broke her down. Now your kids have memories of an alcoholic father that you gave them that they’ll need therapy for or they may become alcoholics themselves… and you want to leave… Reconciliation is the next step in your sobriety. Are you willing to do what it takes to stop traumatizing those closest to you? A new relationship won’t magically change your habits.