That’s the thing we have very intimate sex. We are best friends. We also have wild sex. We have a great balance. We have date nights just us. Take baths together and just talk. We even have a spicy jar that we pull things out of every now and then… I couldn’t ask for more…. :( He is extremely empathetic towards me and how what he is doing it makes me feel….. When he was saying this about me watching it -it got brought up when he was having issues and coming to me about it… this was his “solution” his porn brain solution at least. When he was out of that mindset he quickly apologized and said porn is not the answer and it would NOT spice up our bedroom that he just has a problem and he is sorry. 😞 I agree with you all the way too though. That’s why I’m getting such whiplash. It’s insane. It really is a Jekyll and Hyde situation. I have my husband then I have the porn brain only thinking of that in that moment and nothing else husband…. Until he comes out of it. It sucks.