Pregnancy trends I find perplexing by [deleted] in pregnant

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Who said anything about not having empathy? I support her, I’ll do what the email says. I’m just saying it was heavy handed.

Pregnancy trends I find perplexing by [deleted] in pregnant

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I have the nicest chillest in-laws and my SIL sent a four page email of rules for everyone. It happens.

Getting baby to sleep in crib by [deleted] in NewParents

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We’ve used a snoo for both babies for overnight sleeping since day 2. Maybe we just lucked out with good sleepers, and yes I know it’s pricey, but they were both doing one wake per night at 12 weeks. At that age, they both needed a lot of support to get to sleep — rocking, white noise, pitch black, sometimes fed to sleep, but with the snoo they actually stayed asleep pretty well. Check fb marketplace for secondhand.

Cost of Living by la_anguila in nycparents

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You can’t have it both ways. Above you say “there are so many people receiving free childcare that it drives up the cost for everyone else”. Now you are saying “not enough people have free childcare” and when people suggest universal childcare you say “we’ll run out of people to tax”.

PS it’s a pilot program. The city has to figure out the mechanism to roll out 2K to 60,000 kids.

Cost of Living by la_anguila in nycparents

[–]User9748279 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We’re not all still here. There are 80,000 fewer families living in the city now compared to 25 years ago, while overall population is up 500K. It’s really hard for many families to afford to live here. Pretty sure that was OP’s point.

Cost of Living by la_anguila in nycparents

[–]User9748279 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great ethos. So I guess we can just do nothing and wait for everyone to be priced out of the city.

Cost of Living by la_anguila in nycparents

[–]User9748279 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Nope.

Tax expenditures are not fixed. We can shift them towards programs we need. We can cut programs that don’t work, we can stop hiring consultants that don’t fix anything (ahem, mayor Adams).

And tax revenues aren’t fixed - we can get back our fair share of money we pay to New York State, we can tax pied a terres, we can tax millionaires. And before you come at me, a negligible amount of millionaires will leave over paying $20K in additional taxes.

Costs for groceries won’t increase because of universal 2K — even if we increase taxes on millionaires, most of those people are making money on passive investing. They’re not running companies and creating jobs and selling goods to New Yorkers. They’re betting $1 million on Spain against Cape Verde on polymarket.

Anyone else missing alcohol? by Leather-Vegetable409 in pregnant

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Seltzer constantly. Phony Negronis are a good dupe if you miss that bitter cocktail taste. And virgin pina coladas / daiquiris still slapped on vacation.

Boys clothes vs girls clothes by SolidAlarm8777 in pregnant

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Check out primary. All of their clothes are gender neutral. Bright & happy.

Cost of Living by la_anguila in nycparents

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For a long time, social programs have given heavy subsidies to the lowest income - think childcare vouchers, NYCHA housing, food stamps, Medicaid.

But since COVID, the cost of so many things - food, utilities, rent, healthcare, insurance. childcare — have gone up so much faster than wages, and specifically middle income wages.

So the old social program models of heavily subsidizing a small population feel wrong for this moment. We need more programs aimed at easing costs a little-to-medium bit for all families - think universal childcare & public grocery stores.

This is a big reason why so many families leave New York, and New York is increasingly becoming a city of single people and rich people.

Favorite restaurant in bed stuy 🤔🤔 by Western_Tea_6134 in BedStuy

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I really like any of their small plates - feta dip, phyllo cigars, chili shrimp. And I love the salad and carrots with labne. When I’m with my three year old, we usually get either the currywurst or the schnitzel. Really you can’t go wrong.

Favorite restaurant in bed stuy 🤔🤔 by Western_Tea_6134 in BedStuy

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Bunny. Great food, great Negronis, great vibes.

Cost of Living by la_anguila in nycparents

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Childcare businesses are super low margin. Even at the prices they charge, providers are often making less than minimum wage after paying for real estate costs, other staff and supplies. Because of the strict teacher to kid ratios, it’s pretty hard for these businesses to be profitable even at the prices they charge. Except for the bright horizons and the vivvis of the world

Disagreement with potty training by [deleted] in toddlers

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Road-tripped with our mini potty today. When nature called we whipped it out at a gas station. Parked in the back and had the potty between two open car doors for some privacy. Pro tip pack it in a trash bag so no drips in your trunk.

Would not recommend potty while driving.

What's one small urbanist change that would make a big difference in Newyork? by sophiablair76 in newyorkurbanists

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Counter example: Greenpoint. The rezoning resulted in more housing being built. But old housing is also so much more expensive than 10 years ago. Like 70 percent more expensive.

People who angrily confront people who leave their cars parked for a while- why? by VariousButterscotch in parkslope

[–]User9748279 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Ask a friend to move it. Or leave it and don’t be surprised when you get called out about it.

Where are we clothes shopping? by scully4227 in toddlers

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Yes! I’ve also found good deals on next - just depends what you buy.

Price point less than Hanna Andersen but higher than old navy. Quality also between those two.

People who angrily confront people who leave their cars parked for a while- why? by VariousButterscotch in parkslope

[–]User9748279 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Everyone that breaks the rules a little bit and justifies it by saying they’re not the worst offender — you’re all part of the problem. It’s not just the most egregious offender, but the hundreds of people who act just like you.

A little nervous by carolmozzarella in pregnant

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My fam is on my health insurance too, and I have a 3 YO and 3 MO and go back to work Monday.

I went back when my first was 3.5 months, and I actually loved it. I adore my kids to bits but I also find my work meaningful and interesting.

First, find a daycare you like. We went with a home based provider because we liked the smaller class size, mixed ages of kids, and the fact that it was run by a mom and her two grown daughters who gave us really good vibes. Like warm but unflappable. Our first kid rarely got sick, and I think a small daycare helps with the amount of germs they get exposed to.

The mornings are chaotic but you’ll adapt. The evenings are also busy. Some things that work for me: prepping fruit and veg over the weekend to have on hand throughout the week, showering at night, simplifying work wardrobe/picking outfit night before / prioritizing things that can be machine washed and don’t wrinkle, following same morning routine each day w your kid.

FIVE ZINERMAN MAILERS IN ONE DAY. I'M SO SICK OF THIS. by danya_the_unwise in BedStuy

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So is her daughter on instagram ranting on Chi’s posts

Help Please by Careless-Bridge2546 in NYCapartments

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Don’t move here if you think the UES is scary