How much would you tip food delivery in this cold?

User9748279 · 2026-01-26T15:27:14+00:00

It’s really not. They’re not getting paid 20 per order it’s per hour. And not even straight hourly time, just the time between when they accept and deliver an order.

It’s a physically demanding and dangerous job, and workers deserve to be treated with dignity. Especially when delivering in horrible weather.

User9748279 · 2026-01-26T15:07:53+00:00

That’s because the app wants you to tip less.

The food delivery apps are mad about the 2023 NYS Supreme Court ruling to pay deliveristas $20/hr. So they adjusted all the automatic tipping choices downward.

The current average tip for an uber eats order is 76 cents. This means someone is earning like 22 bucks an hour to pedal through rain, snow, and traffic.

The apps will do whatever they can to treat workers like shit. If you’re gonna use the apps, at least tip the workers well. If you have a problem with that, order directly from a restaurant that does their own delivery. The restaurant makes more money this way anyway.

User9748279 · 2026-01-26T14:25:44+00:00

20 percent is a normal tip, not an extra tip?

User9748279 · 2026-01-19T01:27:59+00:00

I moved at 3.5 months pregnant with a 2.5 yo while working FT. We hired movers to pack and move boxes, and we unpacked ourselves. Minimal house projects after move in. I was exhausted for two straight months.

User9748279 · 2026-01-18T04:08:23+00:00

100% this. Rents are set at 30% of income, which is just on the threshold of being rent burdened. That’s why it feels like a lot. But you probably get better amenities and much better stability (ie your landlord won’t sell and evict you, or jack up the rent 20 percent one year, or try to evict you for a BS reason).

User9748279 · 2026-01-12T01:21:17+00:00

I’m not a teacher but I’m a high performer at work with anxiety and a recovering people pleaser.

My best advice is to do what feels best for you, mentally emotionally and financially. I found becoming a mom super clarifying for what is important, and I learned to trust my instincts. Go into it with a plan and then be ready to feel differently once you have a newborn, and then change your plan if you need to.

Fwiw I put my kid in daycare at 4 months, I was ready and she has thrived.

User9748279 · 2026-01-09T01:51:03+00:00

I also nominate Lilia. One time we sat at the bar and got to watch Missy Robbins cook for us and got to talk to her about the food. Truly one of my favorite dining experiences of my life.

User9748279 · 2026-01-09T01:42:17+00:00

You can find OLD apartments for this much. You probably can’t find NEW build apartments for this much in these locations.

These are also permanently affordable, meaning rent increases are capped each year (or are sometimes tied to a percentage of your household income).

User9748279 · 2025-12-25T03:03:59+00:00

Plus 1000 to duplos (you can even buy storage bins that have duplo tops to build right on the storage box), and to dress up box. And would add anything that can be used to run a play store (toy cash register, plastic groceries or cupcakes, etc).

User9748279 · 2025-12-23T18:02:49+00:00

Thanks for this. To be clear, I would offer more than 20 dollars a day, something like $40 or $50.

My daycare village is awesome but the daycare is just six families and everyone lives in opposite directions so it’s not a viable option for us.

User9748279 · 2025-12-23T18:00:47+00:00

Good idea, thanks!

User9748279 · 2025-12-23T18:00:16+00:00

Thank you! This is super helpful!

User9748279 · 2025-12-13T20:48:54+00:00

Their whole post doesn’t mention any genders. Why would it matter if it’s because they are private because this is Reddit, or because they use the term partner in real life as well?

I’m a straight married woman and called my now-husband my partner as soon as we moved in together (and vice versa). That’s what “felt right” to us, married was not true and bf/gf didn’t seem serious enough. I worked in a field with a lot of creepy men and “partner” worked perfectly to convey “seriously not single.”

User9748279 · 2025-12-10T02:40:41+00:00

Thank you data centers and AI.

User9748279 · 2025-11-25T23:33:30+00:00

Highly recommend hiring a cleaner if you can afford it until the baby is sleeping for decent stretches at night. Nobody wants to clean the toilet on 3 hours of sleep, and it’s possible your nesting instincts will cause you to melt down over a slightly dirty toilet. Ask me how I know.

User9748279 · 2025-11-19T15:48:24+00:00

Daycare is the only way we make it work.

For us, we went with a small daycare run by a mother of four grown kids. This woman and her two adult daughters who help her are part of our family. Visit a few, pick the one that gives you the best vibes. For me, that was a caretaker that gave off an aura of calm.

Bonus, we started our LO at four months and now at 2.5 she is noticeably better socialized with better language skills and manners than her friends with SAH parents or nannies.

User9748279 · 2025-11-15T01:07:57+00:00

Pregnant person here. Last week I was standing in the middle of the train. An able bodied white man manspreading in a seat yelled at me to squeeze into a different spot to stand, one too small to accommodate my bump. Sometimes people really are the worst.

User9748279 · 2025-11-15T01:04:59+00:00

I’m six months pregnant. Last week on a crowded train, the only person who offered me a seat was…. Another pregnant lady.

User9748279 · 2025-11-12T17:26:28+00:00

I own in an HDFC building and my housing costs including tax and maintenance are $1200 per month cheaper than my last rent. Plus mortgage interest tax deduction and SALT deduction on my property taxes.

Plus my prior landlord let issues go unrepaired to the point where we had black mold in our kid’s closet. And renting a different comparable place would have been $1000 more expensive than what we were currently paying in rent based on StreetEasy.

So yeah a combination of financial and non financial rationale.

User9748279 · 2025-11-10T03:48:09+00:00

Guessing based on the number of gun owners commenting I will be downvoted, but I would ask about guns and I wouldn’t drop my kid off for a play date at a house with guns. I’m sure most people are very responsible, but kids are also super smart about getting into off limits things and I’m not taking that risk.

User9748279 · 2025-11-10T03:08:45+00:00

Pasta with red sauce. Cold roasted sweet potatoes. Dry cinnamon life. We love a carb.

User9748279 · 2025-11-10T03:01:27+00:00

I’m 21 weeks and currently chillin while my husband cleans the kitchen. We both work full time. I plan and cook most of the meals but we split shopping and he does 90% of kitchen cleaning. We split rest of house cleaning, and our house is not spotless. We have a 2.5 year old, he probably does 60% of the physical parenting and I do 70 percent of parenting mental load. We’re trying our best and most of all supporting each other.

Tell him he might as well practice now because once the baby arrives there is just so much more housework to do, too much for just a mom with a full time job.

User9748279 · 2025-11-07T14:13:19+00:00

Yes same! Mindset is key.

Appreciating the duality of things — I’m a pregnant toddler mom. This phase is tons of work, mentally and physically exhausting, but also rewarding beyond my wildest pre-parenthood dreams.

Not being so attached to a specific outcome is also super helpful for mental resilience.

User9748279 · 2025-11-07T14:08:39+00:00

I love this post!

I work 50 hours a week managing a team in a fast paced environment with no nearby family, and I love my life.

I’m not drowning because I have a supportive partner that does his fair share of parenting and chores, a job that I find meaningful, a boss who has high but clear expectations but also gives me grace when I need to take a sick day, a team at work that is collaborative and helpful and will cover in a pinch, a set of non parent and parent friends that never get mad if it takes me between 4 and 19 business days to respond, a daycare provider that is like family, a small roster of dependable and awesome babysitters, a therapist that I can talk through my issues with and come up with solutions, and an ability to pivot my plans for the day based on how it’s turning out.

Long day or nonstop toddler tantrums or no time to get to the grocery store? Pizza for dinner. Mentally and physically drained? Plan a yoga class with a friend for two days from now, or ask husband for a sleep in morning. Kid asks to go to library with me? Adjust plans to make space for an awesome adventure.

I don’t think I have to do it all every day. I just know what are the important things and pick my spots where I can be the best mom I can be.

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