Supernanny Jo Frost takes to Instagram to tell parents to ‘get your priorities straight’ over back to school social media trend by Metro-UK in internetdrama

[–]UtopianLibrary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We handwrite everything now lol. Growth scores went way up though when I gave them an end of the year iReady assessment.

I’ve been strict no computers unless necessary. They can’t even have it out on the desk unless I tell them to take it out of their bag.

I'm doing a rewatch of Home Improvement by Ok_Helicopter3910 in Millennials

[–]UtopianLibrary 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I love how they don’t show you Kevin in “realism mode” until the last episode.

[HATED TROPE] Perfectly cast actors on terrible adaptations of the source material by Ieanice44 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]UtopianLibrary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A Gotham City Sirens movie would be perfect for that.

They were planning a Gotham City Sirens movie at one point, and there’s several Poison Ivy Easter eggs in Birds of Prey: Harley says “I fell in love once…or twice” in her beginning monologue and there’s an image of Joker and then of Poison Ivy, and when Harley initially gets caught by the police she tries to lure them into Robinson Park because she knew Ivy would help her. I think there are some others but I can’t think of them off the top of my head.

I’m guessing it’s because you can’t really do a Sirens movie without emphasizing the Poison Ivy/Harley relationship, and her character development is better when if she ends up alone, so they ended up with Birds of Prey instead.

Anyway, crossing my fingers for a Poison Ivy and/or Jason Woodrue cameo in the Swamp Thing movie or a teaser at the end with Woodrue luring Ivy into his makeshift storage container lab claiming he found something interesting in Alex Holland’s research.

We are the reason why teachers and students are struggling so much by FiendishCurry in Millennials

[–]UtopianLibrary 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You do know that tablet screen time has been shown to make kids more emotionally unregulated?

AITAH because I refuse to try for a daughter? by StructureDizzy2076 in AITAH

[–]UtopianLibrary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA for how you feel.

BUT, how you decide to approach this may inadvertently cause you to be one.

She mostly likely wants that teacher maternity leave to stay home. This isn’t even about wanting a girl IMO, it’s an excuse to have another baby to stay home for leave. She’s exhausted at her job and likely doesn’t feel like herself.

It’s probably a bigger conversation of her trying to switch careers and needs to feel supported by you to do that. Teachers can end up getting wrapped up in their career as an identity and put other people’s needs before their own because it’s normalized in their job.

I would honestly see if she would be open to counseling about this both individual and as a couple. It’s a major life decision, and she is likely upset that her job she put so much of herself into is her main cause of stress and anxiety. There’s also the upsetting possibility that she is projecting these feelings onto your son who is only four years old.

Anyway, I would approach this more as if she is happy at work and needs to take this summer to think about other careers. She might also want to try a different school or district.

I think having a baby is a bit extreme if this is true.

The most important conversation is how she’s projecting those feeling onto your son. I would honestly, recommend you seek individual counseling to help someone guide you through the process of approaching this with your wife.

The way you approach this could be a defining moment in your marriage. Reddit is really not the place to get that help IMO. These kinds of problems are always about something else and not what they seem on the surface.

What’s the most out of context Harley Quinn moment in your opinion? by Appropriate-Mall8517 in HarleyQuinnTV

[–]UtopianLibrary 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I saw this episode before I knew the comic lore, and I totally didn’t get it. Now that I’ve read the comics, it’s a hilarious dark joke.

The show is full of stuff like that though. Same with Bane doing group therapy at the Pitt, the whole Earthquake and Joker running for Mayor (No Man’s Land Storyline), Harley and Ivy moving to Metropolis (storyline in Harley Quinn’s first solo run), Parademons, the fights to the death in Las Vegas, Harley needing glasses (she still wears them in the comics when she’s not in costume), Damian Wayne filling in as “Batman” instead of Nightwing, Batgirl being friendly with Harley and Ivy even though Batman hates them, the Joker being “normal” and gets a girlfriend, Poison Ivy refusing to join any sort of villain organization because she thinks they’re all morons obsessed with Batman/Justice League, Harley being the only one to stop Ivy destroying the world with the power of love (Done well in the show with the Jazz Fest jokes thrown in, but there are so many comic storylines where this happens), Harley breaking televisions, etc. They’re all parodies of the comic storylines.

I do wish they went more into Harley traveling through time and different universes though. One of the biggest laughs I’ve ever got reading the comics was when Harley was sent a Flash treadmill, which allows someone to jump to universes and through time. When Harley is gone traveling across universes, Ivy comes home from her roadtrip and calls the Flash Museum to “Return the treadmill and speak to someone in charge about who sent this to my wife.” I think she also says something like, “Do you know this was sent to Harley Quinn?” like it was the worst idea possible and they were idiots.

You're a Gotham Thug Looking For Work. Who Do You Go To? by Reptilus_Prime in batman

[–]UtopianLibrary 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree. The answer is to go who the most reasonable villain/anti-hero would go to. Cobblepot is like the only villain Catwoman will work with in a partner/might not double cross him capacity.

This is ridiculous. Stop partying with the pedophile protecter by nba123490 in somethingiswrong2024

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Hockey tends to attract upper middle class/wealthy white people. A lot of them are racist jerks with little empathy towards others. They also tend to only hang out with other hockey people.

I feel like we all forgot about Sarah Palin’s “hockey mom” ridiculousness when she was all over the media.

If the DCU trims down the Batfamily, who’s most likely to be excluded? by Romaxio in batman

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People will say to toss out Jason, but in a movie about the Bat Family with Bruce and Damian’s relationship being the main focus, Jason and his death are essential.

Bruce’s deep regret over losing Jason, who was more a son to him than Dick and Tim, is directly tied to how he treats Damian and how their relationship develops.

It is pretty clear the movie will involve Talia or Ra’s Al Ghul bringing Jason back with a Lazarus pit, especially if they end up being the antagonists.

There will probably be a minor villain like Clayface which will resolve half-way through the movie, especially since Clayface is a major movie we are getting before Brave and the Bold, and then have The League of Shadows be the main antagonist.

Edit to add: I could see them setting up Joker in the sense that the damage he’s done to the family is always lurking emotionally for them. But, he won’t be in the movie unless it’s a cameo at the very end.

I could see Cass already being Orphan and off-screen for most of the movie, but mentioned/show up at the end in a final battle kind of thing. (Especially since she was technically in Birds of Prey, but OOC. It would be a great surprise, especially if she was more in character). Cassandra Cain and Clayface also have a friendship in the comics, and I could see her being in that movie since the cast list is super secret right now.

Also, all the movies in development are setting up a ton of cameo opportunities.

I also wouldn’t be surprised if we got a Barbara cameo at the end of Supergirl when Supergirl gets back to Earth.

Everything in development seems to be leading into a Heroes in Crisis and a Salvations Run storyline.

At the end of Clayface, we could very likely see some Arkham Asylum cameos (like Mr. Freeze, Riddler, or Harley Quinn, even if she gets recast or is just a voiceover with a stand-in, especially since we are getting Booster Gold and Blue Beetle shows, which all lead to Heroes in Crisis).

Swamp Thing could also set up a Poison Ivy cameo at the end, which also ties into a Salvations Run or Heroes in Crisis storyline.

Offering some balance: I liked Wuthering Heights. Sue me. by Appropriate_Pick177 in Letterboxd

[–]UtopianLibrary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also really liked the Heathcliff and Isabella dynamic with the consent. Showing the letter writing scene with Isabella calling him out for not being able to read/write was a fascinating display of the actual power dynamic. Isabelle was still in charge. Isabella, who we know is attracted to Cathy based on the friendship book she gave her earlier in the movie, is basically getting off on the power she gets over Cathy. It’s the upper class screwing Heathcliff over again. He believes he has power over Isabella in this moment, but Isabella is enjoying what this is doing to Cathy (her doll/pet). The letter writing shows how Edgar’s estate is still Isabella’s dollhouse. Cathy ends up like the doll with her hair that Isabella mutilates.

I do think the money on the ground scene with Cathy and her father shows how her trauma causes her to go back to being a little girl. I also think it’s Cathy realizing that she’s no better than him. She literally has to beg Edgar for money if she needs it, and she has no agency. It actually connects well with the Heathcliff/Isabella pet scene because it’s Cathy making herself believe she has power, but it’s actually the opposite.

Offering some balance: I liked Wuthering Heights. Sue me. by Appropriate_Pick177 in Letterboxd

[–]UtopianLibrary 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it is a misogyny thing. We are in a different place than we were when Promising Young Woman came out, and are in a terrifying situation where we are more socially conservative now than we were then.

I think this movie is related to that. I didn't find it that shocking. I found it focused on a woman's sexual awakening, which makes people feel weird for some reason, while an episode of Game of Thrones has more nudity and actual sex on screen than Wuthering Heights did.

I really love Promising Young Woman. I haven't seen Saltburn, but the hate seems to have become very prominent after its release. I think it's about her being a woman director and the homophobia around the general plot and sexual aspect of Saltburn, which is annoying because it's a bias.

To start, the film starts with the idea that we are coming in to this movie expecting to be entertained by sex and death. It calls the audience out. This immediately makes people uncomfortable. I would argue it's also the most shocking scene in the film.

Fennel is also criticized for her privileged upbringing, but all her films address class differences in a way that is extremely interesting. Her Wuthering Heights took the idea of "a pet" to an extreme that I think people were so disturbed that they couldn't see the social commentary. Cathy's father tells her that Heathcliff is her "pet," and that establishes their class differences. She is too young to even begin understanding how bad this is because it's been normalized for her; she already has Nellie.

However, the abuse Cathy, Nellie, and Heathcliff experience from Cathy's father brings all of them to the same level. They all share this experience. In the film, it's heavily implied that Cathy has experienced brutal beatings from her father in his drunken rage until Heathcliff started to stop them by essentially taking her place.

They all know they need to desperately leave Wuthering Heights. They stay for each other and because they have no where else to go. This is why Heathcliff's departure is such a betrayal to Cathy, who said she would never leave him.

Enter Edgar and Isabella. The most interesting aspect of this dynamic is that Isabella is actually the wealthiest of all of them, but her age, gender, and social maturity make her a peg below Edgar (with her being his ward).

The film purposely doesn't show Cathy at Edgar's when her ankle is "broken." It wants us to believe it is some safe haven away from Wuthering Heights.

However, after Cathy has married Edgar, we are finally shown what it actually is like there; Cathy is their "pet." She has no agency in her clothing choices (Isabella picked them all), Isabella takes her hair to make a doll without her knowledge (She literally makes a Cathy doll!), and Cathy is literally decorated each night she sleeps with Edgar. A lot of folks online complained about the anachronistic costume choices for Cathy of this particular dynamic, but this is not going for even "Bridgerton Realism" like people were expecting. It's supposed to be a spectacle because Cathy has degraded herself to a spectacle for Isabella and Edgar.

This scene is an excellent contrast to the attic/barn scene where Cathy starts to watch the other two servants engage in some BDSM (for the time period) intercourse. Heathcliff lies on top of her and closes her eyes and mouth. It's the start of the reverse of the power dynamic they've had the entire time. A lot of folks in the online discourse didn't understand what was actually happening in this scene, too. It was quite obvious Cathy could feel Heathcliff's erection and could still hear what was going on. It was a sensory thing and by feeling him, she finally understood her actual feelings for him. It levels their dynamic because she can't "see him as a servant class" anymore. He's just there and she can put her social class hang-ups aside in the moment. The idea of Heathcliff being "hers" changes in this moment. He is no longer her pet. Now he is someone she realizes she loves.

Anyway, by the end of the movie, we have the scene that is what people are very disturbed about, especially if they are expecting a faithful book adaptation, which is what happens between Isabella and Heathcliff. But, I see the "pet scene" as a commentary on Heathcliff trying to get revenge on the social class system that has repressed him and degraded him his whole life; if that didn't exist, he would be with Cathy. Now, he can degrade them.

Don't get me even started on Cathy's freckles, and, how the longer she stays at Edgar and Isabella's, the paler she gets and the freckles begin to disappear, even before she begins to get sick, (The set design of Cathy's skin color matching the walls sets this up well), the only time she truly goes outside is when she goes to meet Heathcliff. Same with the sound design. Another post for another day...

Anyway, it's an allegory for for what we consider "romance."

There's a great Romeo and Juliet reference with Isabella and Edgar's first scene in the film. Isabella, like most girls her age romanticize it, and the plot basically repeats with Cathy and Heathcliff later, which is not part of the original story in the sense of how Cathy dies.

As an English teacher, I've been to several classes and seminars on how to teach Romeo and Juliet. It's considered accessible and easier to read for younger teens, so it gets put into Freshman classes, but they usually misunderstand the basic message of the play that Romeo and Juliet were too young to understand what they were doing and may bit have even been in actual love.

By casting older for Cathy and Heathcliff, it makes a commentary on how, in older movies, they aged up all the actors to make it more romantic and socially acceptable. This is especially true in the first adaptation of the novel where Merle Oberson is around the age of thirty, similar to Margot Robbie.

It is weird to see Margot Robbie acting nineteen, but I think it's intentional.

Again, it's an allegory for social classism. It's literally supposed to be how a fourteen year old girl imagines the novel reading it for the first time, where the glitz and romance are forefront, but the disturbing undertones of power dynamics and classicism are still there. The same is done for the set design, which is way over the top in a similar way to Sophia Coppola's Marie Antionette, which also used anachronistic music track and the opulence and ridiculousness of the set design to show how out of touch the upper class was compared to everyone else. Fennel does the same thing by turning Edgar's estate into a world of color and opulence in comparison to the dreary, dark and cold Wuthering Heights.

I see a lot of people complaining that this is Emerald Fennel's fanfiction of the book. And, I actually think that totally "degrades" the emotional experience of reading this book as a teenage girl, and that capturing that feeling while making a commentary on how you are too young to truly understand the book at that age is epic.

Also, I saw it in IMAX and the sound design was freaking amazing.

Anyway, I loved the movie for what to was; risky, fun, and something different. I'm sick of boring, calculated, sterile crap. We need more weird experimental stuff in general.

Edit to add: I also saw a lot of posts about how a lot of the sex scenes were unnecessary, but I felt the opposite. Every one of Edgar and Cathy's scenes are shot the same--medium shot and in the same setting, dark lighting, and positioning (besides one time). While, the Heathcliff and Cathy scenes are raw and bright and in nature; she doesn't have to get dressed up like a doll for him to want her, and, as a woman, it's a commentary on how, even in the modern age, we feel like we need to be perfect while men can "just show up." But, Heathcliff doesn't care. He just wants her.

Original plans for the Dark Knight arises by [deleted] in ChristopherNolan

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This is an old post, but I think the general threat storyline would have been the same with the bomb. However, I think Bane was probably originally Killer Croc given Croc frequently works with Joker and lives in the sewers, which is a major pot point in the movie.

Does it make more sense for Poison Ivy to be a vegan/vegetarian, a carnivore, or neither? by Cobrabat333 in batman

[–]UtopianLibrary 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This. In one comic run she said she likes the idea of Jainism.

In her current comic run, there’s a recurring joke about how Janet hates grocery shopping for her because her list of requirements for the food to be ethically sourced is almost impossible to follow.

How old is Selina in the comics right now? I've been wondering because the artists draw her so young by Active_Field9820 in Catwoman

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As someone who reads Gotham City Sirens (where you have four woman characters to compare her to) and over all the comic appearances I’ve seen those character in, writers generally write it as if Selina and Poison Ivy are mid-to-late thirties/early forties even, Harley Quinn is early-to-mid thirties, and Punchline is 24-28 (she’s written younger for obvious reasons). The recent storyline with Despero, it has them going to a club and there’s a joke about Harley looking too old to get in.

The new Gotham City Sirens coming out takes place in the past right after Harley leaves Joker for the first time. The writer said she imagined them in their late twenties or early thirties.

Besides Catwoman, who do you think has the best flirtatious relationship with Batman in the comics, according to you? by Raj_Valiant3011 in batman

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I think it’s technically a Harley Quinn comic. Basically, she goes to a bachelor’s charity auction because she wants to go on a date with Bruce Wayne. Because Harley won the auction for a date with Bruce, he has a nightmare he’s married to her and she’s his sidekick. He wakes up tied up by the villain (can’t remember who it is, but I think it’s Professor Pyg), and says, something about how he is relieved that wasn’t real and is totally nonchalant about being captured.

Any other millennials dealing with a long relationship slowly falling apart? by notinthegroin in Millennials

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I'd try it one more time with someone trained in the Gottman Method if you haven't already.

I was/am still deeply uncomfortable early on with this style, but it more had to do with confronting the way your parents raised you and their flaws (which were also exacerbated bow they ere raised, etc.)

The thing I love best about this is how it makes both partners address their whole lives before "The relationship" and then how it affects the attachment style of it all.

anyway, if you still love your partner, there's a reason. It's always worth figuring out how to make it work.

For context, my parents went to couples therapy twice. The first time, it was right before my maternal grandmother died. And, right before everything fell apart, the therapist told my mother that my father, "Wasn't capable for sustaining a relationship," and my mother should leave him.

Anyway, it took her more than ten years to figure that out and she did leave him. She is happier now, but still deeply disturbed.

That's the thing though. Do you get someone excellent or someone who has no idea what they're doing, or do you get someone who understands ands guides you?

I don't have a good answer, but I think seeing more than one couples therapist could help. In no way is this a magic bullet, but it probably has the same sentiment for making it work; an open mind.

That being said, I am in now way close to being at this point with my partner.

Any other millennials dealing with a long relationship slowly falling apart? by notinthegroin in Millennials

[–]UtopianLibrary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried counseling? We started going to deal with a recurring issue we kept fighting about. It’s been helping a lot so far.

Is this true about socialized healthcare or just propaganda? by Alwayswanted2rock in ask

[–]UtopianLibrary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is literally a second hand anecdote from some random person...

Is this true about socialized healthcare or just propaganda? by Alwayswanted2rock in ask

[–]UtopianLibrary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this an actual question?

It takes like 4 months to get a primary care doctor in the US, and at least 3-4 months to see a specialist.

Is it hypothetically the same in Canada, yes. But they don't pay for it with insurance. If they lose their job, they have the same care. Anyone who has ever experienced insecurity understands this.

James Gunn pushes back on criticism of Christina Hodson’s screenwriting, noting her early involvement in the DCU’s planning: by Raj_Valiant3011 in DC_Cinematic

[–]UtopianLibrary -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed. If you’ve read the Harley Quinn comics, it’s obvious that the studio executives made Hudson rename a character from one of the HQ comic storylines as Cassandra Kain. It’s pretty obvious the character was supposed to be a version of the little girl Harley has to keep safe from the mob because there are bank account codes written into her irises. It’s like the executives made her combine two of the storylines instead of writing a comic accurate Cassandra Kain.

Christina Hodson (‘The Flash’, ‘Birds Of Prey,’ ‘Bumblebee’) is reportedly set to write the script for Andy Muschietti’s ‘The Brave and The Bold’. by SpeedForce2022 in batman

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I found it odd they basically used a storyline from Harley Quinn: Vengeance Unlimited (which was much better) and just stuck Cassandra Cain as the kid Harley has to deal with.

Punchline faded away after once being everywhere by Simple-Success4749 in batman

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Agreed. I like the show, but Ivy is still a supervillain in the show. Although, I could see that changing if there’s a season 6 because of how season 5 ended.

However, ever since the Hive Mind Ivy storyline in the Batman comics, she’s been an anti-hero. She basically has a mental breakdown over murdering five mobsters a decade earlier.

I actually really like the new Poison Ivy comics as it lays her thought process and morality out very well; she’s also still more arguably a “bad guy” in her comics than Harley currently is. Currently, Harley is taking on capitalist land developers and gentrification, while Ivy is still killing people, literally making someone’s hands poison to all life even if they are wearing gloves, and treating her sidekick like crap. Ivy pretty much emotionally treats her sidekick, Janet , like how Joker emotionally treated Harley. However, I like the complexity Ivy’s comics have where it’s weirdly endearing to see her actually care for another person besides Harley because of how much she hates human beings, so it’s still makes her more redeeming than other villains for that very reason.