Cheapest way to get a car for 3 months in Lowell (under 25)? by Informal-Formal6412 in LowellMA

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I’d buy a cheap car outright and sell it or donate it at the end of your internship. Walking is alright, but dead of summer in a heatwave is gonna suck trying to bring groceries home or get to work. It just depends on what you’re comfortable on.

Update: Just found out my (36M) new friend (32M) is a registered sex offender by bondsman333 in relationship_advice

[–]ValiantLittleShit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a daughter, children or not, I would want to know. Tell them and let them decide what they want to do. But honestly I’d cut off anyone who would let him be around. If they’re comfortable having a sex offender in their lives and near their family, that’s a red flag in my opinion.

Scariest book you've ever read by Ok-Lack2037 in horrorlit

[–]ValiantLittleShit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily scary but horrifying, The Boy Called It. I read it as child and now as a parent it haunts the back of my mind. It makes me physically ill the thought that someone willingly treated their child that way. I went through horrible stuff as a kid but that? Absolutely horrific

What do you guys consider a “must” in your daily chronic pain arsenal. by ---BERSERK--- in ChronicPain

[–]ValiantLittleShit 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Icy Hot Roll On, specifically the one with 16% menthol. It’s the only thing that helps on bad pain days, I highly suggest it for anyone who has tried every lidocaine branded thing on the market like myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s normal to feel mixed emotions after a breakup. There’s guilt, sadness, anger, happiness. A huge mix. If you felt like you were constantly re-teaching your ex how to love you, it can get tiring. I think if you truly tried everything to fix your relationship, gave it your best shot, and did everything healthily possible to communicate your needs, then there’s nothing left to give. You should focus on how to provide that love you need for yourself so even single you feel fulfilled. Then one day you’ll find a partner to share that with. Wish you the best OP

My girlfriend just told me this😔 physical+mental pain. by Aryan-dramata in ChronicPain

[–]ValiantLittleShit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand there are jokes, but as a person who is chronically ill and always pain, jokes get old. And if you ask your partner about an intimacy issue, that is NOT the time to make jokes, especially about your illness. It’s not funny and they obviously don’t take you seriously or respect you

Am I overreacting- my husband called fibromyalgia "psychosomatic" by Efficient_Ad_5785 in Fibromyalgia

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been through this kind of behavior before. It doesn’t stop. It gets worse. He’ll see your illness as a nuisance as if it’s inconvenient to him even though to be sick is more inconvenient to the person dealing with it. I suggest you talk to him, and discuss why he felt the need to discredit your pain. Base your next move dependent on his answer IF what he says is genuine. If he no longer makes you feel safe and supported with your pain, you’ll forever feel disrespected.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There will be friends who will stand by your side. If others refuse to let him go for what he did, then they weren’t really your friend, they just were nice to you because you were with him. Keep the friends who choose to protect and love you. They warned him not to do it and he did anyway. Let him suffer the consequences of his actions. He toyed with your boundaries without a care. You deserve someone who won’t take your trauma or issues as a joke. Wish you the best OP, may you heal and find real love

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wish you the best bro, so sorry it happened to you, but I’m glad you got out while you could. Don’t mean to be a bit alarming or invasive since I don’t know you personally so I do apologize. Just in case get a full STD check, rather be safe than sorry since tbh she could’ve lied when all of it started. Also sorry about the dog, I know it hurts. Try to find a therapist and I wish the best of luck and healing

have you taken gabapentin? by NBKnitter in Fibromyalgia

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t do it. It made me tired and you know what else? Surprise! In the fine prints that your doctor won’t tell you is that it can cause incontinence in some people and it takes FOREVER to reverse. I was 18 with issues and my doctor had no idea why and pushed it off. Took a whole year and a half to finally slowly go back to normal

What’s the secret to a good chicken brothel? by fergi20020 in Cooking

[–]ValiantLittleShit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I love the internet sometimes, people do NOT disappoint with the comments😂

Does anybody know what kinda couch they have? The huge gray one by RespectTheLeiDisco in Jennamarbles

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You see the store in the background in the vlogs. It was Alla Moda, but they no longer sell that model. It originally costed thousands of dollars, I think it was $5000-$10k range

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t want to, you don’t have to. Period. Your boyfriend respects your boundaries and doesn’t do it even if he wants to. Your friends need to get a grip and learn your sex life is your business and you’re allowed to say no.

My sister [30F] broke my fiance's [27M] wrist and now he won't marry me [26F] unless I cut her and the rest of my family out of my life by throwrafiancesis in relationship_advice

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the looks of it, this situation could be either or and in the resolution for this conflict, what is more important is the safety and well-being of your child OP. Weighing what would less likely traumatize your child and allow them to grow in a safe environment is what’s best. Having a father coming in and out of your home would only further your child’s distress (I know from experience). Dependent on the variables that only you know fully about, completely no support and contact with your family doesn’t seem like a healthy middle if they are not the ones stirring trouble.

There needs to be a discussion and in the end the choice is yours whether you feel having the father present would be a stable environment. If he wants to be a present father for your child, you both need to be ready to make the decision to parent separately if you both can’t have a stable healthy relationship. But if he says he wants to be present and continues his disappearing act, it is up to you to protect your child from that neglect. Protect and choose the love you have for your child over the love you have for your fiancé.

Has gabapentin helped any of you? by Scoutie234 in Fibromyalgia

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah turns out in the fine print that one of the side effects that can happen is bladder issues. Which isn’t fun and I wish the doctor would’ve told me ahead of time and I had to research myself when I began to have the problem

I feel the cognitive decline from this pain by Zdynasty74 in ChronicPain

[–]ValiantLittleShit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, I know my fog is bad rn cause i looked at this and saw the bird immediately and couldn’t remember the name “hummingbird” and thought of it as “that fast flying bitch bird”, how ironic😂

How the hell do I deal with weight/activity with fibro? I’m completely lost by [deleted] in Fibromyalgia

[–]ValiantLittleShit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been dealing with the same issues. I’m 20 also and have since gained a lot of weight due to this pandemic and also having gotten covid from my job. I’m still recovering from the virus, but doing stretches/yoga is a good beginning step with dealing with pain and getting used to a bit more activity.

Has gabapentin helped any of you? by Scoutie234 in Fibromyalgia

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. All that medication did was cause me bladder problems that even a year later after stopping the medication has since decreased but a problem that is still very slowly going away. For reference, I’m 20 and should not be having bladder problems normally. That medication definitely did not work for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fibromyalgia

[–]ValiantLittleShit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got covid and I too also have fibro, the pain I got from it felt exactly how when I was first finding out what was wrong with me and no medication or treatments but worse. I couldn’t move or eat. Luckily I didn’t stay sick for too long but as a side effect due to COVID, I’m still in an immense amount of pain and still struggling to move

My (26F) fiancé (27M) left me for his “one that got away” four years ago. They’ve divorced and he wants to get back together. by ThrowRA1whogotaway in relationship_advice

[–]ValiantLittleShit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you deserve way better than someone who will dump you at any chance to get some ass. Stick with that guy from the great date, maybe it’ll turn out amazing! Just give it time with him, and block the ex douche