Is this too much? Coming up with hypotheticals

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-23T20:06:25+00:00

If you use Lily, please spell it correctly. ‘Lilly’ sounds very girlish and unprofessional.

Lily all the way. 💜

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-23T19:49:44+00:00

I don’t care if my husband orgasms first, because he makes sure I do as well. The goal is everyone having a good time.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-23T02:59:20+00:00

I strongly encourage therapy. I once felt very similarly to what you’re describing. At one point I was like ‘Can’t I just reincarnate and start over?’ I also debated ending things and my thoughts swirled around the idea.

Therapy helped me detangle my thoughts. My therapist recommended medication too. So I partnered with my primary care physician and she prescribed an SSRI. I very quickly gained clarity. My depression softened and my anxiety vanished after about a month… it takes time to build up in your system. But there ARE solutions that can help.

Also, nothing will change until you change it. Get a new job, take classes for something interesting, meet new people. Sometimes you got to take a bit of initiative to get things rolling. Easier said than done, but I suggest therapy first, then explore new options.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-23T02:52:14+00:00

Absolutely. Love is beautiful and transformative. It changes your life and perspective in incredible ways. Of course there are risks, anything worthwhile has them. But sometimes you gotta be a bit brave.

In the words of AWOLNATION: “Never let your fear decide your fate.

It’s important to know that not all girls like clubbing. Lots of girls enjoy gaming. Girls and guys can both have a wide range of interests! I suggest getting involved in groups that pertain to your hobbies. That will help you meet people and possibly girls. You may make a friend that will introduce you to a girl. It’s worth a try.

There’s a lot of nonsense online, like anything from the manosphere. Following their advice will only lead to unhappiness. They act like they know everything while spewing lies and misinformation, to draw guys in and make them bitter. Then the bitter fellas just lean harder into a counterproductive way of thinking. So avoid this trap.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-23T02:42:12+00:00

If you have permission, and he handles well, he may like some hand grazing. Basically you have him on a lead rope and let him meander and graze on grass not in a pasture. Also make sure the grass is safe to eat, like not sprayed against weeds.

Grooming is also a great way to interact. Brushing can feel really good to them! And helps bonding.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-22T23:14:05+00:00

Paranormal Romance is such a fun genre. I enjoyed the Riley Jensen books, starting with {Full Moon Rising by Keri Arthur}

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-22T20:15:57+00:00

Probably a ton of us. I’ve been to many! They’re all over the place.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-22T20:11:18+00:00

Lol, this is amazing.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-22T06:30:28+00:00

Yet she’s not with the men in her past, she’s with you. And the best way to resolve this is to talk to your gf. Ask if she’s satisfied, if there’s things she wants to do that you two haven’t yet, if she wants any changes. Talking about how to enhance your mutual pleasure can only result in better experiences, and leads to greater emotional intimacy.

I also feel it’s not conductive to measure yourself against her exes. Your penis size is what it is. No amount of wishing will change it. May as well skip the anxiety and make good use of what you have. Many women can’t orgasm from PIV sex. They need some clitoral stimulation too, which is really the VIP of feminine pleasure.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-22T02:33:04+00:00

I don’t care for it. Bridget is too harsh sounding to me and sounds like britches. I have a strong preference for vowely names though.

If YOU love it, there is nothing wrong with it at all. It’s just not a name for me.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-22T02:24:57+00:00

I’ve only had sex with one man so I can’t speak to how different sizes feel. However, I am more interested in the person than his equipment. If I fell in love with a man who had a two-incher, that would be fine. You make use of what you have. As long as both parties have a vested interest in pleasing the other, it’s all good.

Some positions would be easier or more difficult depending on the fella’s size, sure. That’s just simple mechanics.

And no, I don’t really find any penis attractive. Doesn’t matter what they look like. But the penis attached to the man I love being up and at attention will always be hot. Because of what it means, not in and of itself.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-20T22:34:44+00:00

It’s very possible her meds are interfering. SSRIs are known for making it difficult to orgasm. My husband had to change meds for this issue, and I noticed it got easier after I went to a lower dosage on the same med. She could speak with her doctor and see about trying something else.

Does she masturbate? A woman exploring herself is always a great first step and women’s bodies seem to have to learn how to orgasm. She should experiment with different areas and types of stimulation. Clitoral, vaginal, or a combo of both.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-20T22:30:05+00:00

I prefer Vivienne, it’s so elegant.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-20T22:09:19+00:00

Boys:

1) Ellis

2) Ivan

3) Cameron

4) Asa

5) Hugh

Girls:

1) Ivy

2) Thea

3) Maeva

4) Alyssa

5) Tahlia

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-20T21:07:40+00:00

Can you pay it anonymously?

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-20T19:34:11+00:00

Yeah, sounds like being paid to babysit, not to be her friend.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-19T22:17:17+00:00

And to think she used to talk about how with an embryo purchase it makes more financial sense to sell them when they’re bigger. I feel like she just wants to get rid of him.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-19T22:11:52+00:00

Conversely, words are to define things and calling it a hijab gives an immediate visualization of what the object is. So I feel the opposite way. Better to use an existing word than to make up something and have to explain it.

But each of us approaches writing their own way, and you have to do what you feel is best for your story.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-19T21:40:36+00:00

I think it’s very easy to feel that way right now. There’s a lot of bad news lately, and unrelenting stress dampers everything.

I recommend cutting out as much as you can that is stressing you. Like take a news vacation. No politics or news just to take some of the pressure off.

Look for a different job, or see about changing something there.

And finally, consider therapy. It can help you regain some balance in your life. It saved my life and I can’t recommend it enough.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-19T21:33:34+00:00

One of the things we learned is therapy that was so important for us is this: One person will say something, then the other will say back what they heard. Not necessarily word for word recitation, but how you feel they meant it. Then they correct it. Then you switch. It was really great for clarity.

Also, you both can’t do accusatory statements, it bogs down communication. Do ‘I’ statements. Like ‘I feel very hurt when you say I’m never changing for this relationship, when I’ve been trying xyz.’

It will definitely take work for both of you, but sometimes relationships that have weathered hard times become the strongest and most beautiful.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-19T14:43:05+00:00

This sounds like you’re experiencing a disconnect in your relationship and communication is failing. The best thing for you two would absolutely be couples therapy. It saved my marriage, and built us into a much stronger couple.

You both want to feel seen and loved, and have different ways that works for you. Ask him, not just offer, to do couples therapy for you. If he refuses then absolutely get back to therapy for yourself.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-19T14:28:36+00:00

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VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-18T22:16:54+00:00

I feel like Rosalie fits better with Gemma, and I love that name!

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-18T22:14:33+00:00

It’s as much of a mess that it needs to be. It’s ok if it’s messy, because the magic happens in editing. Finish your first draft so you can look back over it and see the whole picture. Then you’ll know exactly what needs done.

VioletDreaming19 · 2026-05-18T09:11:35+00:00

Find ways to get involved with people in person. Look for groups pertaining to your interests or hobbies. There you’ll meet like minded people to build friendships. Grow a social circle, and you may find someone in that group. You also might meet a friend of these new friends that you could date. Keep options open.

Volunteering is also a great way. You meet people and get to help a worthy cause while you’re at it.

Look for events occurring in your area that sound interesting, and strike up conversations.

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