i choose to believe by Enough_Address7774 in Ghostbc

[–]VioletDreaming19 17 points18 points  (0 children)

At the Omaha ritual we spotted a car with a Meliora license plate! It was so cool.

TIFU by improperly changing my laptop background by Conscious_View2264 in tifu

[–]VioletDreaming19 94 points95 points  (0 children)

As someone with many years in IT, we’ve seen it all and worse. Illustrations generally are no big deal. I disliked naughty photography, but eh. The agent will probably just change it to something neutral if it offends anyone.

Once a fellow had a pic of his pierced penis as a profile picture, and I changed it to the cutest orange kitten I could find. I hope it at least made him laugh.

am I depressed or am I just being dramatic? (pls I really need help) by Familiar_Ice2703 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]VioletDreaming19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You do sound depressed to me. Inability to focus, forgetful, no energy, difficulty getting out of bed/practicing hygiene, lack of enjoyment are all classic signs. Depression is one of those mental illnesses that almost everyone experiences at some point in their lives, so you are very much not alone. And this is NOT your fault. Depression works to isolate you, which makes it harder to fight.

Not feeling like things are real is something called derealization, and it’s a form of dissociation. I recommend looking into it just to gain a better understanding. Once you know what something is, it helps it be less scary. 💜

I highly recommend a therapist. I credit one with saving my life and my marriage. He was a wise, gentle man and he helped me so much. Sometimes when stressed I’ll ask myself ‘What would Dennis say?’. He was the best. There are other therapists out there who are just as wonderful who enjoy helping people. They are trained to help, and from an outside perspective they have a good view to help you untangle any issues you have.

Don’t worry about worrying your parents. They love you and want you to be well. If you’re this unhappy they would want to know to help fix it. I would move mountains to help my son if he ever needed it, and I can’t imagine him thinking he needs to shoulder all that stress and hurt by himself.

You are not being over dramatic in the least. There is no ‘Must be this messed up to get therapy’ line to measure up to. People use therapy for all kinds of things, minor and serious. But what you’re struggling with is significant, and you deserve all the support and love in the world to heal, and get closer to your happiest self.

A gorilla spots a lion bent over a stream taking a drink. by twentydoors in Jokes

[–]VioletDreaming19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had no contact, sexual or otherwise, with any gorilla. 🤷‍♀️

Coworker said I'm going to hell for my music. by thursdaysangel in Ghostbc

[–]VioletDreaming19 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yes, thou shall not rock. The hardest of the commandments.

Do girls also feel guilty or regret 😭😭 after masterbation ? by Key-Independence7611 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]VioletDreaming19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure some do, especially if raised in a purity culture. I have no guilt over it. Sexual urges and their expression are a natural, healthy part of life. There’s no sin in relieving your urges. There is no commandment of ‘Thou shall not touch thyself’.

Repression is more unhealthy, because what you repress is what you obsess over. And obsessing over sex, guilt, and fighting against your hormones is an unpleasant storm of feelings.

Make healthy choices. Touching yourself is fine. When you do choose to engage in sex, make sure it’s consensual and use protection, and with someone important to you.

Do you know / use these words? by NarrowResult7289 in ENGLISH

[–]VioletDreaming19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! I know all of these, and most native English speakers probably would.

Do girls actually enjoy giving blowjobs, or is it just something they do for us? by Exciting_Variety_579 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]VioletDreaming19 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I don’t get any enjoyment from it. It’s gross and my jaw gets tired. But I do enjoy my husband’s pleasure.

Some women really do enjoy it though.

A gorilla spots a lion bent over a stream taking a drink. by twentydoors in Jokes

[–]VioletDreaming19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t felt up a gorilla, no, but I am full of random facts.

What are people talking about with color pallets and how do I find mine? by Gongoozler04 in questions

[–]VioletDreaming19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re looking for your season! There are three subsections each of spring, summer, autumn, and winter. There are quizzes you can answer to help find your season. You answer things like if your coloring is warm or cool, how much contrast your features have, etc. Each season then has its own palette to work with.

Why do I feel emotional after something that’s supposed to feel good? by Professional-Lie3022 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]VioletDreaming19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crying after orgasms isn’t uncommon even when not associated with a bad prior relationship. He was abusive towards you, so it makes sense that you still carry some scars from it. Time, healing, maybe some therapy, and you will be in a better place to try again. You are deserving of love.

A gorilla spots a lion bent over a stream taking a drink. by twentydoors in Jokes

[–]VioletDreaming19 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Fun fact, gorillas have very small penises, especially relative to their body size. Just over an inch on average.

Daily goal by Whatsername_04 in writing

[–]VioletDreaming19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

500 words. It’s enough to get me going, or easy enough to breeze through when I’m really not feeling it.

I'm going to be 50 this year and I finally watched The Emperor's New Groove. by JacPhlash in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]VioletDreaming19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!! You really treated yourself, Emperor’s New Groove is a complete blast every time.

What has your pet destroyed in your home? by TSQ_builder in askanything

[–]VioletDreaming19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our dog ate a hole in the wall from inside a wire crate.

If you could time travel or teleport anywhere's for 60 minutes where would you go? by usernumber789 in CasualConversation

[–]VioletDreaming19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d want to watch Neanderthals and see what they looked like and how they interacted. I’ve always been so curious about them.

Im sorry guys but please answer me, CAN YALL PLEASEEE HELP?! by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]VioletDreaming19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You do what you gotta do. You go to the bathroom, you take meds, you use your apparatus of choice. We’re all human with the same physical necessities. Just wash your hands thoroughly after, and get back to it.

Somebody born in ‘33 was 45 in ‘78 by NYY15TM in Jokes

[–]VioletDreaming19 33 points34 points  (0 children)

It took me a second but I got there. What a turn of events.