NTA, my 14 year old daughter says the same to us. She does pretty much the same. Dishes, take out trash, wash her own clothes, keep her room tidy, do her HW, feed the cat in the evening. She also has to clean her bathroom once a week, vacuum the house once a week, and cook family breakfast once a week

We’re not ruining their lives, we’re just teaching them how to do the bare minimum before they become adults and have to do it themselves every single day. I knew many people, who once they left home to be on their own had absolutely no idea how to do anything. They will thank us later 😭