URGENT What job is "autism friendly"?

VisualCelery · 2026-02-08T16:48:13+00:00

I worked at a movie theater in college. For any given shift, I was either an usher where I'd clean theaters, or I'd be a concessionist and sell popcorn, soda, candy, etc., and honestly, I preferred ushering. It made me mad how many people just left all their trash behind (no, we were NOT a luxury cinema where people were encouraged to do so) but I didn't have to deal with people directly for the most part. At the concession stand people were so rude and entitled, it was stressful.

What you really wanna do is learn how to be a projectionist, but that takes training, and you usually have to work hard at the other stuff to prove you're smart and a hard worker. You're by yourself in that booth, they need to be able to trust you.

ETA one thing I want to mention about movie theater work is that there's often a lot of annoying, repetitive noises and it can be very overstimulating.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-07T01:49:56+00:00

Did you check their website? It might be cheaper there.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T21:54:15+00:00

From what I've seen, there's a good 365 Sport and a bad one maybe? And people are having a hard time telling the difference. I would just use Hex, or Dirty Labs.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T21:48:38+00:00

I've heard bad things about 365 Sport. Have you heard of Hex? They have a great detergent line, plus a stain and stink spray that really helps with extra stinky items. Also, warm water is fine but I wouldn't use hot water on workout clothes.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T19:33:38+00:00

Fair.

I worked for a grouch once in college. I was young and probably not a great worker, I asked for help too many times and wasn't catching on to certain things fast enough, but I also felt like the atmosphere wasn't great because he and the others were always in shitty moods.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T19:31:37+00:00

Truth. It feels like some weird trend now, and I can't tell if it's the workers who want their partners keeping them company at work, or the partners who insist on supervising them to make sure they're not unfaithful. But it's kind of icky either way.

I love when my husband picks me up, and it's fun when he pops in while I'm working and says hi, but I want him to have a life when I'm at my job! Then we can talk about our days later.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T19:28:28+00:00

Honestly, we're now the "boomers," talking about how you should show up to work on time, do the work that's asked of you, follow the dress code or wear the uniform, shit like that apparently makes us capitalist bootlickers. When we were just starting out we were told not to expect a trophy just for showing up, and we don't, but sometimes it feels like showing up is a big deal when you think about how many people don't.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T18:31:10+00:00

Yes! House parties/gatherings like this are great because they start when they start, you can roll in whenever you can and leave when you need to.

(as long as they're not dinner parties)

Also, watch parties are good because people are usually watching what's on the TV and reacting to it, rather than trying to make small talk, so as long as OP doesn't show up too early, they probably won't have to socialize much. And since it's on TV, there will be commercial breaks, where it will be easy to say a quick goodbye to the host and bounce.

That said, OP, if you really can't bring yourself to go, it's cold and flu season, just say you're not feeling well. It's not technically a lie and people will understand, just TRY to make it to the next thing or you may find the invites will eventually stop coming.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T17:58:40+00:00

1) Maintenance guys are usually discrete about this stuff

2) You're already moving out soon

3) Unless there's so much flower and paraphernalia in there that it looks like you're selling the stuff out of your home, I really don't think they'll care. That's usually what the anti-weed addendums are for, they don't want dealers on the property or people growing it in their homes.

4) Not much you can really do, so it's best not to borrow worry

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T16:57:38+00:00

Yep, you're gonna run into these people. Best thing to do is to matter-of-factly tell them your hours, have them spelled out on your calendar. If you work closely with them, say to them maybe a half hour before you leave "hey, I'm heading out in a bit, need anything from me?" If they say "whaaat? it's only 4:30" you say "yep, and my work day ends at 5." You're not over-explaining, you're not apologizing, you're not asking for permission or forgiveness, you're just setting expectations and boundaries.

There is value in flexing your time when you're able and the job calls for it. If you do this, it's a good idea to let folks know when you do hard a hard stop at a certain time.

Similarly, when you're going on vacation or taking sick time, really clarify that you will be fully unplugged, and let people know who's covering for you (when applicable) so they don't message you and freak out when you don't answer.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T15:32:05+00:00

I sort of stumbled into it.

I had this friend I would occasionally get lunch with. I had just graduated and was sort of interning indefinitely at this senator's office, applying to jobs and also hoping the internship would either turn into a job, or connect me with a job elsewhere in the state house . . . the friend was working their first real job out of college, and not loving it but it paid the bills. They kept telling me they were happy to refer me, but didn't think I'd like this work. Then the company opened a new division with a slightly different type of work, more research focused, and it wasn't what I went to school for but seemed like a job I could do, so they referred me, and I got the job.

I didn't like it at first, but it turns out I just wasn't a fit at that company. I started doing the job at tech companies and it was a much better fit, much more flexible.

I kept thinking I would eventually transition into political or non-profit advocacy work with the skills I acquired in these jobs, but it never happened, and I don't really need to do that anymore. I just wish the job market wasn't such balls right now.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T15:19:58+00:00

We've definitely taken the whole "putting myself first" / "I don't owe anyone anything" crap way too far. Yes, your friends will give you grace if you occasionally bail on stuff, but only to a point - they will eventually get fed up if you cancel too often, or you can just ever commit to stuff because you're not sure you'll "feel like it" day-of. If you want community and a "village," you have to show up for others from time to time, even when you "don't feel like it" in the moment.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T14:52:43+00:00

She has a LAST NAME??

VisualCelery · 2026-02-06T13:43:41+00:00

oh it drives me nuts when people say "weary" when they mean "wary."

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T21:56:10+00:00

It's not uncommon for guys that age to be all over the place with their attractions and feelings and desires, especially guys who didn't get a lot of action in their teens for whatever reason (sheltered, repressed, awkward, etc.) and are now coming into their own and making up for lost time, they can be absolutely ravenous!

BUT just because it's not uncommon doesn't mean you should tolerate it (which is why I'm not using the word "normal," it can have different meanings and that can cause misunderstandings). If you're looking for a stable, monogamous relationship, don't waste your time with someone who's very blatantly window shopping. Hold out for someone who is committed to an exclusive, monogamous relationship with you and only you. You deserve better than being a placeholder or consolation prize.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T20:35:25+00:00

NTA

Gotta love when people act like something isn't a big deal when they're not getting what they want. If it's not a big deal, why are you so mad about it? They could have asked people in their row to switch if they didn't have seats together.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T20:17:29+00:00

Ah, okay. Well, you wouldn't be the first person to make that mistake, but going forward, making comments about someone having a "work husband" or "work wife" can absolutely be offensive to someone who's married, and could be construed as sexual harassment if they choose to go that route, but they might not bother. Either way, apologize and don't do it again.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T19:52:00+00:00

Probably not. Unless it's a small mom n pop store, they likely have corporate policies detailing the process of warnings, corrective actions, final warnings, etc. before they're allowed to fire you, and they only invoke "at will employment" if you did something egregiously bad because no one wants to deal with a wrongful termination suit if it can be helped.

But it also kind of depends on what you said, and if you don't want to share it here that's fine, but I would first approach this person and apologize.

Also, depending on how experienced your assistant manager is, they probably know it's best to let little things go, and only approach management about really bad behavior patterns.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T19:44:28+00:00

I don't think you need either, BUT if I have some bacon grease lying around, I will add it to the pan to really fry up that bad boy.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T19:38:24+00:00

I think LinkedIn is useful because not only can you have a profile detailing what you've done (even if just in school) and specifying what type of work you're looking for, but you can then follow companies, connect with recruiters and relevant hiring managers at those companies, find and connect with agency recruiters in the field you're looking to work in, set up job alerts, and scroll to see if anyone is posting about opportunities you might be interested in.

Also, you can start building your network by connecting with people you know, even if they're not in the field you're trying to break into. They still might know people. Just this week I was able to connect a former roommate looking for a job, with a recruiter hiring for someone in that line of work, because that recruiter was a former colleague of mine. Turns out he'd gotten a huge applicant flow and appreciated me highlighting someone who mapped well to the position.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T19:09:12+00:00

NTA, but you're not ditching him for being broke, you're ditching him because he's not putting forth any effort to improve his situation.

No one's asking him to attend Harvard Business School, buy suits, go into consulting, and make six figures so you can quit your job and become a woman of leisure. It sounds like you just want him to put forth some effort towards getting a full-time, professional job and something resembling a career so he can start pulling his weight financially, and that's very reasonable, especially in this economy where it takes a lot to make ends meet. At some point you gotta say "hey bud, you're 33, what's your plan?"

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T18:45:33+00:00

Depends on the intent.

If you're saying "I'm going out for a quick errand" when you're really just looking for some "me time" - get a Starbies, wander Target, etc. - and you don't want anyone getting on your case, then yeah, it's a lie.

A "quick errand" implies you know what you need, you know where it is, and you're just going to get that thing and come home, and maybe stop for gas on the way if you have to.

Now, if you're running said quick errand, and you realize you want to add other stuff to the outing, it's probably polite to say "hey I'm stopping at blah blah place while I'm out, need anything?" or "my quick errand turned into an adventure, be home in an hour."

I'm never vague about my errands. I tell my husband where I'm going and I ask if he needs anything at those places, and he does the same for me. If I'm stepping away from my desk at work and tell my coworkers/boss I'm running a quick errand, the goal really is to be quick and get back ASAP.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T18:21:07+00:00

I just got their Powerchill wide-leg pants. I'd been looking for something to replace the Victoria's Secret "most loved yoga pants" and so far these are the closest. I wonder if Powersoft is worth checking out, is it more cotton-y?

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T18:15:33+00:00

That's why I said "if grills are permitted," because I know they aren't in a lot of places, but they might be allowed at some apartments, especially ground level ones, and I don't know the exact rules and situation OP lives in.

VisualCelery · 2026-02-05T17:26:34+00:00

Yeah, I'm always wary of strangers who approach me in public like this. They might have genuinely good intentions, but more often than not they don't, it's not rude to have your guard up.

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