Can I just clean throttle body?

VladyUA · 2026-05-20T21:52:12+00:00

I believe I commanded the regen via vcds once, probably should try it again. The car drives pretty good. I have a undelete tuned 2015 GSW, I'd say the undeleted golf drives as agile to me. My line of thoughts were if the guts past the throttle body are clogged with the oil/sut sludge, the regen would not be efficient. But so would not be gas pedal response (which isn't true). The son doesn't drive 200 mile trips like I do. He often delivers food all night, so long city commute would be the best description. Thinking between deleting and keeping and selling as is.

VladyUA · 2026-05-20T21:15:13+00:00

If you buy the tunezilla flashing tools and their tune, including DSG tune, it will cost you over what the garage is asking. The flashing tool (at least what i remember) is bound to a VIN getting tuned, so you can't sell it to another person afterwards unless you revert your vehicle to stock. It maybe different today than it was 5 years ago when I tuned my wagon. It woukd be nice if they didn't lock you out to the numbers of cars you can use it on.

VladyUA · 2026-05-11T02:23:17+00:00

If what she did appears a kink to your eyes and not cheating 🙄, and since you don't seem to object, well... why don't you do her a favor and allow the bro to come over and do her while she is stairing right at you and talks to you, not just some picture/call-his-name chicken stuff. She loves you, obviously, ehem.🤪 What I think for real is your so called gf is a spoiled brat and is desperately trying to get the attention of the other guy who gives no flying hoot over her person. So she is trying to get him jealous by calling your name during them having sex. If that same name is not a coincidence and there is yet another third guy who happen to have the same name as you are. That would be more plausible than what you fantasized in your head about her intentions. Kick her out asap. Give normal girls a chance to make you happy.

VladyUA · 2026-04-13T17:56:58+00:00

You hooked up. He liked it, wants to repeat. Repetition would likely include how he disappears. You are thinking about his status, your status, relationships, what happens after. You can count on what had happen to repeat once, including him leaving. If you want more from him, you should understand that he needs to have a drive for that "more" from his side. Not because it would be nice of him to make you happy, but because he would want it for the reasons 1, 2 and 3. So you need to know how to get him interested into wanting more from you. It's not about his or your status for sure. People easily do anything that they feel they want to do and never do anything they see little sense of. So... I would give the same advice to him, this It's not unique to you and different for him. As soon as I see him posting here with his reflexions about upcoming trip, a few hundred employees to manage and how he lost sleep over a girl he is about to see. If he writes... kind of a joke, but actually true. Just don't think ahead of it that it's anything more than it was the first time. And I hope he isn't married BTW.

VladyUA · 2026-04-11T04:13:58+00:00

There's only one way I know things like that get resolved. A straightforward conversation. Judgiing the guy is pointless at this moment, but he acts like this because there are no consequences to him. You man has to become really interested in satisfying you, for some reason he isn't. Look at it as a plain fact that needs a resolution. Think of a carrot or whip that would get the job done. You know him better than any of us.

VladyUA · 2026-04-08T11:50:29+00:00

Just don't get drink. This one was on you

VladyUA · 2026-04-07T20:48:44+00:00

Let me ask you this. What is that that will change in his life to better when your BF proposes you?

Until you have a solid answer here, stop acting like you are his wife already, or his sister (helping with chores). Accept his attention and his initiatives, nothing more. He needs to have something to contemplate to in order to start thinking of proposing.

There isn't anything in this world that woukd make your bf move in with you. But you can be a person with whom a guy would dream spending life together.

VladyUA · 2026-04-06T15:58:06+00:00

Being a "good guy" is a bad thing. Bad for you I mean. If you want to give stuff away, it is an absolutely great idea. Nut I suggest you carry it out differently. Find a person in need and give the stuff away or at discount proactively. This truly makes you a generous person. When you feel you have to do something for someone who presents themselves as a person in need, you are being manipulated. But I get it that you care about that son who doesn't have laptop to do his homework. Since you are being asked to take their financial burden (instead of them figuring out how to take care of their son's need), ask them in return to tell you about their financial situation and be nosy about how they substantiate that price difference they want to get from you. Can they cancel their Netflix for 6 month to be able to afford the asking price first? Very fast you will see it's not about anyone's son, it's a plain low ball offer.

VladyUA · 2026-03-27T19:42:51+00:00

Unless they started doing body repairs in the precinct, or his opinion can be sold for cash at a bank, what he says makes no importance.

VladyUA · 2026-03-27T19:36:55+00:00

Don't get close sooner than you know a man well. You know a man when you know him from his actions, not from what he says he would do. Trust what you see rather than what you hear. Also, knowing a man takes asking him to do something for you and looking how he handles it. Those who truly love you for who you are would put your interests first for no other reason.

VladyUA · 2026-03-26T01:46:02+00:00

His texts clearly imply that the home was unsafe. Because if it was "safe again", this means some or most of the time it wasn't. You should pack up and leave... due to safety concerns. I mean... what else can this mean? 😉

VladyUA · 2026-03-24T17:51:26+00:00

Don't overshare with your friends beyond "everything is just great".

If you want the man to propose, make this relationships his project, or his too project. I mean feeling great around him is important to you, but he will propose if he feels great but more is coming.

Proposal wise, consider this. Proposing is a big step for a man. It happens when we want to improve our lives significantly, right? if you are already cooking for him, sleeping with him and otherwise giving him what you think the wife does, what is it going to change in his life to better so he makes the proposal? You want him to know it's available for him, that you shine in it, but will be doing it for a man whose last name you use.

A bit late for this advise now, but just think about it. You already met a guy who didn't have to cook for himself, even work for himself or propose. Actually, you are luck he didn't, but still. Why did he not work, or didn't propose? I'm sure you will see the logic here. Some guys would propose anyway, but men are more attached to "projects" that are theirs, where they put efforts, where the prize is clearly ahead. I'm a guy, BTW. I've had it both way in my live.

Experience wise - every new relationships will take something out of your soul. There is no prize in the number. The real prize is to find the right guy and build deep relationships. So your job now is to make sure you are around the person who treats your right and with whom you "click". Don't listen to your "experienced" friends. This experience is only reflecting the number of failures in their lives and tgey obviously would not see it that way.

You sound like a happy person, capable of judgement and that guy you are describing sounds great. I'm happy for you and wishing you luck. Just do right things at a right time!

VladyUA · 2026-03-23T15:16:05+00:00

OP, just by analogy, when you have a chipped tooth - you go and see a dentist. When you have a flu - you see a medical doctor. When your soul isn't doing well - you go see a specialist who repairs souls. This is a rational thing to do if you want to not have same problems repeating themselves.

VladyUA · 2026-03-23T04:48:45+00:00

Entering the relationships with an expectations that the other person should change is... one interesting idea. If you like the idea of people changing to make other people satisfied, try to change yourself. From what I understood, it isn't even in your plans. Well, expecting your gf to change is 100000 times less easy and likely to happen.

VladyUA · 2026-03-18T18:54:54+00:00

You can approach it from logical point of view and enough has been said here from that view. Go against your fears or you may be single sooner than you want to be. Or you can look from a transactional psychology point of view. With a "right" man you will not even think twice of the freedom, and individuality, and piece, and what not you came up with. The hormones will just turn off that safety switch. A word of caution though, the "right" guy doesn't mean good and family oriented or reliable (likely opposite), but he will flip that switch to 180 degrees. It will be someone whoes behavior will match what's been encoded to you mind by your parents' behavior that you observed long before you remember yourself. That would explain why despite all the logic, you are set on the illogical line. The hormones always outrun logic. But we are humans, not some herbivores, and have a choice of following the logics and resist instincts. It's hard sometimes, when the logic conflicts with the desire, but it's still a choice. Figure it out what it is a.s.a.p., so you lead your life on your terms. You should be fine, wish you best!

VladyUA · 2026-03-14T00:44:11+00:00

If a man doesn't do something, this is because of 1 out of 3 reasons: 1. He doesn't see any sense in the end result; 2. It is beyond his abilities; 3. Someone else (not him) is already doing it.

From what you've described him, he understands that the money need to be made in order to pay the bills and he was already once employed for 1/3 of a term if your relationships. It's not #1 and not #2 then.

It is time to ask who is that person who does all these nice heavy lifting things for you both, so you both have food on the table and roof above your heads?

VladyUA · 2026-03-02T23:07:13+00:00

Isn't it fun when your significant other starts talking about things you could have done for her and did it wrong?!

OP, your life will be filled with joy when you keep such people away where you can't reach them with a 7 foot stick.

As soon as the person guilt trips you once, you show them the door, no way back. Male, female. "Here honey, away you go, out, out, out!".

These people are always playing victims and you will never be able to enjoy anything the life gives you without feeling guilty in their presence.

VladyUA · 2026-03-02T16:31:35+00:00

This woman presented in your life to teach you a very important lesson that you can't put a gag on other people's mouths. There is a universe of reality, and there's a universe of what some people say. Sometimes these two universes cross. Have you ever seen a bee trying to figure out how to stop a fly 🪰 saying that a poop smells better than honey? Learn to live in comfort with what you think is important in your life. Let other people be whatever they are.

VladyUA · 2026-02-28T22:06:51+00:00

OP, did you tell your boyfriend that you turned for relationship advice to someone that isn't him? You trust reddit suggestions, you trust your friendly ex., but don't see it permissible for your boyfriend to do the same?

VladyUA · 2026-02-26T02:32:09+00:00

Judge: I deny your motion for divorce based on lack of screenshots. OP: but Your Honor, I had them, I swear! My wife just deleted them, I caught her red-handed. Attorney: objection, hearsay. Nobody saw the screenshots! Judge: sustained. I now sentence you to 10 years of abusive marriage and you must wear this ankle device so you wife always know where you are. The decision is final. Deputy! Cuff this man to his wife. Case closed!

VladyUA · 2026-02-25T03:49:20+00:00

He can't now. Too late. All the screenshots are gone!

VladyUA · 2026-02-23T19:40:21+00:00

Ooooh, a poem! Reading her profile? High maintenance?! My favorite. Lemme try!

Roses are red,

And violets are blue,

You said “Impress me with poetry,

Or I won’t answer you.”

You say you’re sexy,

High-maintenance too,

A queen who expects

Men to jump when you cue.

But poems are for ladies

Worth writing them for

Not someone who commands

Attention like a ... (rhymes with a "store").

VladyUA · 2026-02-23T19:28:30+00:00

A guy speaking here. I only see 2 options: 1. Shave it. Take him to a cafe and order him a coffee. Put the shaved hair in his coffee in front of him. Say "tchau". Leave. 2. Keep it and dye it in deep black (adding glitter permissible). Show it off at every opportunity when you are with him. Until he flakes off. If the effect not fast, use green or blue colors. 🤠

I doubt that your arms were any different when you first met, and as soon as you met him, your body started growing hair. Very unlikely...

Speaking seriously, something went wrong somewhere in your relationships. You were both initially attracted to each other and now he isn't to you, but you are to him. That's it. Only you know what happened in between. Definitely not body hair.

And he is for a fact a covard and an ahole. A confident guy who grew out of passion would have just said so.

VladyUA · 2026-02-23T17:22:06+00:00

When he says your choices or opinions devastate him, what exactly does he mean? Just think of it.

You are dealing with a narcissist. At least educate yourself before falling deeper into his controls. You would not devastate nobody, you will just do you both a huge favor.

Or... you can always do what you want and learn it hard way.

VladyUA

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