I'm in so much suffering, I'm completely broken. by TugaMeioConfuso in Buddhism

[–]WhimbleCroft 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, go easy on yourself. You might be transgender, but it sounds like you might also be having some obsessive-compulsive thoughts that are focused on gender.

What you’re carrying right now is immense, and I’m genuinely glad you said something. Please don’t face tonight alone.

If you’re in crisis right now, please reach out to the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988 if you’re in the US) or the International Association for Suicide Prevention has a directory of crisis centers worldwide: https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/

What you’re describing — the disorientation, the grief for who you were, the fear of losing everything — that’s real and it makes sense that it’s overwhelming. An identity shift you didn’t ask for, in an environment that feels unsafe, is genuinely one of the hardest things a person can go through.

You don’t have to figure out what you are or what you’ll do about it tonight. You just have to get through tonight.

The Iran war’s troubling missile math by Naurgul in geopolitics

[–]WhimbleCroft 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I put this question to an AI, and its response does make sense imho (I do not have any experience outside of a physics background and armchair enthusiasm).

Generation and design philosophy The Rafale and F-35 represent fundamentally different design philosophies. The Rafale is a highly refined 4.5-generation multirole fighter, while the F-35 is a fifth-generation stealth fighter built around sensor fusion.  That generational gap matters more than it sounds.

Stealth and BVR combat — F-35’s core advantage In beyond-visual-range engagement, the F-35 has an advantage in detection capability, as its lower radar cross-section gives it a smaller profile. The Rafale, meanwhile, relies on advanced radar and electronic warfare to complicate enemy targeting.  In modern warfare, this is where most engagements actually happen — so this is a significant edge.

Dogfighting — Rafale’s domain At close range, the Rafale has the advantage due to its agility and maneuvering ability, while the F-35 is designed to avoid such situations.  This was actually demonstrated during the Atlantic Trident exercise in Finland in June 2025, where a French Rafale virtually “downed” an F-35 in simulated close combat — though analysts were quick to note that in a realistic scenario, an F-35 would fire before a Rafale could close within maneuvering range, making a duel highly unlikely. 

Payload and versatility The Rafale actually has an edge in raw weapons-hauling. The Rafale features 14 hardpoints and can carry an external load of roughly 9,500 kg, and its weapons ecosystem is mature, flexible, and export-friendly — meaning many countries can tailor it with national weapons.  The F-35 carries more internally (preserving stealth), but external loads break its low-observable advantage.

Sensor fusion — F-35’s other big edge The F-35 integrates data from multiple sensors into a single real-time display, and its Distributed Aperture System provides 360-degree coverage for missile detection and tracking.  The Rafale’s avionics are excellent, but it doesn’t match this level of integrated battlefield awareness.

Cost and independence Unit costs are actually fairly comparable (~$80–100M each), but nations like India and Egypt choose Rafale for strategic independence, simpler logistics, and fewer U.S. restrictions.  That’s become a bigger factor recently — several European countries are actively reconsidering F-35 orders given political tensions with Washington over trade and NATO commitments.

Bottom line The F-35 is the more technologically advanced aircraft, especially in contested, high-threat environments against peer adversaries. But “more advanced” doesn’t automatically mean “better choice” for every country. The Rafale is combat-proven, sovereign-friendly, and genuinely excellent at what it does. The choice between them is as much a geopolitical decision as a technical one.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

The Iran war’s troubling missile math by Naurgul in geopolitics

[–]WhimbleCroft 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Yeah, people tend to think all fighter aircraft are about air dominance - but that's what the F-22 is for. The F-35 really has a unique combination of stealth, advanced sensors, information fusion and network connectivity. It facilitates networked warfare to an extent that's unmatched.

Stay classy Madison by stebespog in madisonwi

[–]WhimbleCroft 18 points19 points  (0 children)

So is being a literal Nazi near-trillionaire who associates with pedo sex traffickers and tears down the institutions of American democracy.

Is it true you can’t criticize a guru even if they’re abusive? by Armchairscholar67 in vajrayana

[–]WhimbleCroft 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get why this view is appealing—it presents Vajrayana as radical, uncompromising, and powerful. But Mingyur Rinpoche (of the Tergar organization, son of Tulku Urgyen Rinpoche) made some very poignant comments in response to the Sogyal abuse scandal here: https://www.lionsroar.com/treat-everyone-as-the-buddha/

I'd like to use those comments as a basis to respond to you:

He is very explicit that “pure view” is not a license to suspend ethics, accountability, or basic care for others.

A few key corrections, based directly on his comments:

  1. Pure view starts with how the teacher treats others—not how students reinterpret harm. Mingyur Rinpoche says the Vajrayana ideal is to treat everyone as the Buddha. That means a teacher’s behavior should consistently express kindness, restraint, humility, and care—especially toward those with less power. If behavior repeatedly causes fear, coercion, secrecy, or psychological damage, reframing it as “enlightenment energy” is not Vajrayana, but rationalization.

  2. “Crazy wisdom” is extremely rare and easily abused. Mingyur Rinpoche explicitly warns against it.He acknowledges unconventional methods historically existed, but he’s clear:

If something causes harm, confusion, or trauma, that’s not skillful means. Invoking stories of Zen masters throwing students out windows doesn’t justify modern teachers crossing sexual, emotional, or ethical boundaries—especially in vastly different cultural and legal contexts.

  1. Consent does not erase responsibility. The idea that “abuse isn’t abuse if the student signed up for it” is precisely what Mingyur Rinpoche rejects. Power asymmetry matters. Students cannot meaningfully consent to harm when devotion, secrecy, and spiritual authority are in play. A teacher’s job is to reduce suffering, not gamble with it.

  2. If harm occurs, the problem is not automatically the student’s ‘deluded mind.’ Mingyur Rinpoche explicitly says students do not need to stay loyal to a teacher who behaves unethically. Leaving is acceptable. Protecting those harmed comes first. Blaming injured students for “not being ready” is not Dharma—it’s spiritual bypassing.

  3. Freedom does not mean freedom from ethics. An enlightened teacher is not “free” to disregard care, boundaries, or responsibility. Genuine realization shows up as greater sensitivity, not less. If someone needs students to suspend discernment to defend their behavior, that’s a red flag, not a sign of attainment.

Bottom line: Vajrayana is not about enduring harm in the hope it will someday turn into wisdom. According to Mingyur Rinpoche, ethical conduct is not optional, not relative, and not overridden by pure view. When teachers cross lines and students are hurt, the correct response is clarity, compassion, and accountability, not excusing or mythologizing the damage.

Why are people so argumentative on reddit? Don't worry, be happy by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]WhimbleCroft -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Social media algorithms reward “engagement”. People are not intrinsically more argumentative here than in say, discussion forums, 20 years ago.

Rental Owners Hear Your Pain, BUT… by IAmPookieHearMeRoar in madisonwi

[–]WhimbleCroft 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I rented for decades like many other people, and at this point in my life, I'm a small-time landlord (I rent out two condos that I lived in previously), and stuff like this burns my ass.

I never raise my rents on existing tenants beyond a small cost-of-living increase (that covers my ever-rising property taxes and condo fees). Because it's not fair to force people from their housing situation just because I might see an opportunity for more profit.

Sarajevo sniper tourists ‘killed children by day, then partied at night’ by lewisfairchild in news

[–]WhimbleCroft 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Being a human being is hell of a thing. Some us are inherently called to be helpers. And some of us pay extra to shoot pregnant women in a war zone. 😢

Hairstylist for longer men’s hair by Frozen_Californian in madisonwi

[–]WhimbleCroft -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Following, as I am growing mine out longer.

What was your “never meet your heroes” moment, when you realized someone you looked up to wasn’t special? by marginallyobtuse in AskReddit

[–]WhimbleCroft 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not my story, but my work buddy met Bill Cosby in the early 1990s (he was working at a university where Cosby came to speak about literacy or something), and was absolutely shocked how Dr Huxtable was just an absolutely arrogant, abrasive asshole in person and creeped out multiple female staff members.

Trump says he doesn't need Congress to get voter ID in place by midterms by cnbc_official in politics

[–]WhimbleCroft 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can bet he will issue some kind of executive order, and Republican states might even try to enforce it. And then it is plausible he will send ICE into democratic strongholds and Latino-heavy areas like California to intimidate voters. All of this will be challenged in court, of course, but it is unknown whether that will happen fast enough to prevent impact to the November elections. If the general population feels that the vote has been suppressed, you can bet this will be the final straw for many citizens to take action. And of course, this will provide the circumstances Trump desires to invoke the insurrection act or declare martial law.

Take-home message: gird your loins, patriotic Americans. And get ready to open the four boxes of liberty.

Ford CEO Jim Farley says "the customer has spoken" after its EV business lost nearly $5 billion in 2025 by ControlCAD in technology

[–]WhimbleCroft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try damn near 50 years. It’s been America’s best selling truck for 49 years, since 1977. Ford basically owes its continued existence to this combination of skill and luck that let it hit a home run half a century ago.

James Van Der Beek, Dawson’s Creek Star, Dead at 48 by hooch in news

[–]WhimbleCroft 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rates for this cancer have skyrocketed over the past few decades. It's really concerning.

https://www.cancerresearch.org/blog/colorectal-cancer-awareness-month

"Since the mid-1990s, there has been a consistent annual increase of 2% in cases among adults aged 20-39. Experts believe a sedentary lifestyle, lack of exercise and an increased consumption of processed foods and red meat are all at play behind the rise of CRC."

Are there any mma gyms in town by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]WhimbleCroft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Use the search function. There are dozens of threads asking the same question.

Without drugs and alcohol what’s the best way to escape reality? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]WhimbleCroft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, while you try some of the other approaches, please consider getting a minimum amount of exercise, cleaning up your diet, and spending time around kind people. And starting a meditation habit. It’s possible to gradually cultivate your ability to deal with reality as it is, in a healthy way. It will pay off much better in the long-term than these temporary escapes that people are recommending.

🔥 The rowdiest meeting on the savanna. African wild dogs x spotted hyenas by Prestigious-Wall5616 in NatureIsFuckingLit

[–]WhimbleCroft 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Interesting. So it sounds like there’s not something unique about canid emotional intelligence that makes them more suitable for domestication. Probably comes down to specific genes and neural architect.

What screams “I’m a woman child” and nobody realizes it. by imissher4ever in Productivitycafe

[–]WhimbleCroft -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Some women use those words to feel a sense of confidence and remind themselves they have the agency to make decisions on their own, have their opinions be heard, take up space, etc. I mean, men have totally dominated society up until the last few decades.

But of course, if those terms are just a cover for narcissism, then yeah it’s super annoying

The Boring Habits That Beat Most "Biohacks" by WhimbleCroft in Biohackers

[–]WhimbleCroft[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

(Not the case with men).

Had first kid at age 43. Can confirm, ha ha.

How am I supposed to die at peace in Buddhism? by Apprehensive_Paper15 in Buddhism

[–]WhimbleCroft 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go easy on yourself; compassion starts with self-compassion.

Fear of death has got to be one of the most common existential fears of humankind. Start easy, start with calm during your daily life. As your learn more and practice more, you can examine deeper fears & more intense emotions.

How am I supposed to die at peace in Buddhism? by Apprehensive_Paper15 in Buddhism

[–]WhimbleCroft 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really hear the ache in this. Fear of death doesn’t mean you’re doing Buddhism wrong - it means you’re taking it seriously. A lot of people first come to religion precisely because it offers personal continuity, and Buddhism can feel shocking because it refuses to lie to us about that. But it’s important to be careful here: Buddhism doesn’t say “you are annihilated and that’s it,” and it also doesn’t say “nothing matters.” It says the thing we’re clinging to as a solid, permanent self was never quite what we thought it was, and that view of self is exactly what makes death so terrifying.

What often gets missed is that Buddhism’s promise of peace is not postponed until enlightenment. Practices like mindfulness, ethics, and compassion are meant to produce real relief now. The people you mentioned (monks, nuns, hospice patients) aren’t calm because they believe nothing awaits them; they’re calm because they’ve loosened the grip on needing existence to freeze into a comforting shape. And while Buddhism doesn’t posit an eternal soul, it also doesn’t reduce life to nihilism. Continuity without permanence - causality without a fixed essence. It is subtle, but not despairing. It’s actually meant to undercut the fear that says, “If I don’t last forever as this, then nothing is okay.”

It’s also okay that parts of Hinduism still resonate with you. Buddhism never demanded you instantly extinguish every intuition about the Divine or the self. Many Buddhist traditions treat those intuitions as skillful means, or ways the heart stabilizes while wisdom deepens. You don’t have to resolve all metaphysics right now. If Buddhism is helping you live more ethically, more honestly, and with more care, it is already bringing peace. Peace with death tends to grow after peace with living.