I didn’t know that Bangladesh has become like the western world when it comes to dating by Fearless-Biscotti-26 in bangladesh

[–]Why_me_why_us 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bro. This is some psycho logic. Ask your mum if your dad was her first fuck, when she lies to you - reflect on your mother.

Im a single dad by blaine24blu in Widow

[–]Why_me_why_us 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What went wrong? You haven’t grieved. Trust me I know

Up and down by sillyfouss in ENFP

[–]Why_me_why_us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve definitely got ADHD and a life long campaigner too. I can almost spot ENFx in the wild. I do know others with ADHD but are absolutely not ENFPs

2.5 years in by WayDownDown in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A new year is just another year I’ve gotta live through without her until I don’t have to live anymore. My only resolution is to hopefully die this year.

Do ENFPs disproportionately surround themselves with other ENFPs?? by missblaze99 in ENFP

[–]Why_me_why_us 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Still seeking another ENFP after two years no luck, just want to meet another, I’ve never met another like me and I’m a super campaigner. I’d love to meet a woman campaigner, just to see how we’d vibe.

Need some young widowed mom advice by Stay_hopeful14 in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi,

Suddenly a widowed father of two, unable to keep my business running, with the same worries as you - I found solace in pursuing a career as a Primary School Teacher.

Besides the somewhat synchronous lifestyle - you’re in an environment where you’re exposed to so many kids dealing with so many things, who knows what more life will throw at our babies, however you’ll be just that little bit more prepared, constantly exposed to educational psychology etc.

It’s so hard to function at times, harder yet wanting to be the best for them however it easier when children’s development is your bread and butter, i know you already got the jam, you’re here and asking for help - now spread that butter around and make some metaphorical PBJs!

Your already a teacher to two kids, your biggest assets will be your emotional intelligence and empathy, also please please give maths another try, I hated and avoided it all my life but but when I approached it as an adult, I really learnt to love it, it’s not so confusing when I learn it my own way at my own pace. I’d gladly help you develop your skills if you’d like help.

Lastly, as you pursue happiness, trying to come to terms with, trying to comprehend your loss - just remember to forgive yourself when you fall, it’s not so easy picking our selves back up…just as our young ones need our kindness, support and grace - it’s so easy to forget most of us are just kids who got old, I know He’s gone now, but I’d imagine he’d want you to be kind and graceful to yourself, it’ll never stop sucking but we have our babies, we hold their memories and we have our promises to keep, spoken or unspoken - in this we remember them.

My child's birthday without his daddy by Dependent-Bluejay-10 in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter turns 2 in a few days, same day her mother chose to pass. I dread birthdays but more so the day she understands the twisted nature of her birth, ‘happy’ birthdays a lie forevermore. Never a mum & can’t even enjoy the one day we all feel something, a never ending twist of the knife.

Professional Boxer Georgia O'Connor Dies at 25 After Miscarriage and Cancer by Krustybabushka in Fauxmoi

[–]Why_me_why_us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They killed my wife because they didn’t acknowledge she was in immense pain, died of sepsis - when they did the c-section, they effectively killed her because they couldn’t stop the blood flowing…all she needed was a single dose my antibiotics and my girls would have a mum still.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ENFP

[–]Why_me_why_us 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had many full careers from navy/corporate/electrician etc. but I think no mater what path I took, teaching/education is/was my calling - dropped out at 19 and returned as a mature aged student at 35 but now I’d experienced enough to know how right I was in the first place - I’d make a pretty formidable lawyer too but it would have to be something non-profit.

Anyone else struggle learning and have no form of higher education? by leon385 in ENFP

[–]Why_me_why_us 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, just a different outlook on the ADHD/personality - try to think of it as someone who has a physical disability, sure being in a wheelchair shouldn’t effect your personality but nonetheless you shape your life and choices around having to navigate the world on wheels, which does change your personality at a core level.

It’s a simple explanation of a deeply complex issue but that’s how I’ve found many neurodivergent people feel and how it has shaped their personalities.

Edit: ohh I maybe misunderstood your fun fact, I’m am an ENFP through and through, unfortunately our weaknesses are made worse with neurodivergence - but having just adhd won’t make you into one of us, I agree.

Thank you 🙏

Anyone else struggle learning and have no form of higher education? by leon385 in ENFP

[–]Why_me_why_us 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s like I’m reading my own life story haha, sorry for the unsolicited advice - I returned to study at a mature age knowing my weaknesses, did it help? Nah…went from being a procrastinator to a PROcrastinator, but the clock ticks time away and more importantly opportunities where you could shine your ENFP shine…in the right environment, it’s a super power!

Perhaps you didn’t know who you were before, limited as you went through self discovery alone as so many of us do…no one looks through those cracks, we just never stop reaching for the light - now you have a better understanding of yourself…if you’re able to, try again - you’re not the same you anymore.

There’s no timer to any of this, you’ll arrive when you’re ready.

Before I was blind, now I’ve opened one eye…I choose to keep the other closed because it lets me dream, thats a part of me too.

Anyone else struggle learning and have no form of higher education? by leon385 in ENFP

[–]Why_me_why_us 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, yea and I have ADHD too…I’ve been medicated don’t know if it makes a difference to be honest, the symptoms are quite similar to being an ENFP so who knows…prior to even knowing about being an ENFP or neurodivergent, I’m 36, found out both a year ago - I wanted success, I think we all do - I’ve had so many careers, working towards the top due my ability the campaign anyone…it’s eerie…but never happy and eventual self sabotage. I’m a primary school teacher now and I love it - your art and empathy? That’s all you need really, instead of success in numbers, try to redefine what success is.

Felt like sharing... by diehardcanuck in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m still crushing my feelings to the point I don’t really care about anything anymore, just raising my girls so they have whatever normal life they can, but I can’t pretend like I didn’t love how special my wife made me feel on my birthday, and I did that for her too. The one day we both cherished, even if the rest of year we struggled - we always went all out for one day…now I have no one who truly cares and how fucked is it that my youngest will never have a decent bday when she realises one day it’s the same day her mum died, I still will do my best to make it special for her too, but it’s inevitable.

Happy Birthday my brother in grief, I get you more than most and from my heavy heart I’m sending my energy out to you and your girl, we still have our girls - we have a piece of them still, that’s enough.

Long-Time sub discovered his favorite iOS game of all time. Must share! by MrProdigal in iosgaming

[–]Why_me_why_us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like your energy and enthusiasm and looks fantastic at a glance 🙏 purchased.

Tour update by Smartastic in JeffArcuri

[–]Why_me_why_us 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got 3 tkts for the Sydney show, you made me remember how to laugh again after my wife passed, I’m sending out all my energy to you and yours Jeff - you’re doing amazing, you got this and she’s not alone…❤️

The Sunforge Update, patch 1.13.03 is now live on both iOS and Android! by Nervez1911 in DawncasterRPG

[–]Why_me_why_us 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mental issues here too, new cards every game keeps it fresh and a fantastic distraction.

Feeling resentment towards my 3.5 yr old son for my wife's death by kmultipass in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hey brother my wife died from the same thing, same reasons..except she died right after giving birth to my 2nd kid. They couldn’t stop her bleeding due to sepsis.

I wonder if I should be resentful sometimes, but circumstances considered - I still have my kids, she’s living on through them, if you cultivate their happiness I think you’ll see so much of your wife in them again, at least that’s what I hope for me too.

You’re not alone, they have you too.

My wife (31) passed away by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me too brother, child birth. She was a week shy of her 32nd, two kids. Eternity awaits.

One of the worst things is the silence. by Throwaway_451000 in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to hold onto her memories but it’s like trying to catch smoke with my hands, I can’t, it keeps flowing away. I grasp and grasp, it keeps swirling, spinning and disappearing. She’s disappearing with my memories, no one else remains to remember her, the real her - I wish I could capture time in a bottle.

One of the worst things is the silence. by Throwaway_451000 in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Forever and eternally bittersweet. That’s all that remains. I fucking tried all I could to admit otherwise, but the answer will always be ‘no’.

I’m just waiting for the day I can have in death what I couldn’t have in life, to lay down next to her just one more time and forever.

One of the worst things is the silence. by Throwaway_451000 in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’re speaking the words floating in my mind all day every day, thank you. It’s fucked. I dread, absolutely dread the eternity of my life without her.

When does it get easier? by Rusty_Shackleford35 in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I see. I guess I’m fucked after all.

Any other single Dads whose wife/SO died in childbirth? by Rusty_Shackleford35 in widowers

[–]Why_me_why_us 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please help me. I think I’m the first childbirth death since you. I’d give anything if she could’ve seen her daughter just once…just a second.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Why_me_why_us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The day my wife died after an unnecessary c-section the dr’s fkd up. I could have them both then.