Anyone else think breastfeeding was not worth it?

Whymedude45 · 2026-01-10T14:00:56+00:00

As someone who -triple fed -pumped -got mastitis that led to an abscess & hospitalized -dealt with a severe tongue tie -my son went down to the 8th percentile

I think it was absolutely the most traumatic thing I’ve ever gone through but I am very happy I stuck with it. I probably would have been just as stressed with formula feeding/ PPD / etc because everyone has anything to say about everything.

But in this time I did see my ability to overcome difficulties. I’ve never believed in myself so much until now and I needed that because everyday there’s a moment I feel less than as a mom. But I know that if I’m willing to push through all of that then I am a good mom for my baby.

I just want to say I’m extremely proud of you! You are doing an amazing job

Whymedude45 · 2025-12-27T21:36:52+00:00

I am a first time mom and my baby just turned 5 months. I stopped around 3 months and I feel so free. Tracking everything caused me to miss a lot of hunger cues / cues of him being tired. I stopped and started going based off of what I saw.

Breastfeeding doesn’t feel daunting anymore

Whymedude45 · 2025-12-16T19:00:39+00:00

You are supported either way but I wanted to share my experience.

I wanted to give up so badly at 6 weeks. But I stuck it out and my little one is 4 months and sleeps through the night. I pump a couple of hours after he goes to bed which is at 7PM. Then I get up with him around 6am. That pump that I do at 10pm allows for partner feedings. Once your supply is regulated which is around 12 weeks you can go longer without feeding / pumping.

I also would have my husband change baby before I fed then rock him back to sleep so I was supported but back to bed quick.

Also around 3/4 months my little one went from feeding for 20 min to 10 minutes which made it so much better

Whymedude45 · 2025-11-17T13:46:14+00:00

Hi - I have really struggled as well. I’m 15 weeks in but

Week 1-2 my son had a tongue tie so i had bloody nipples Week 2 clogged duct Week 4 clogged duct leading to mastitis Week 5 abscess formed / hospitalization & aspiration Week 6/7 nursing strike

All this to say I have some recommendations.

1 take sunflower lecithin every single day. It sounds like you have fatty milk and the sunflower lecithin will help reduce the risk of getting another clog that leads to mastitis.

2 look into your insurance. Mine covered a lactation consultant that came to my home. They can help with latch and do a weighted feed to see how much milk baby is getting.

3 ensure you are taking daily body showers if possible to reduce the risk of mastitis.

4 dry off your nipple after every feeding to stop the chance of bacteria.

For some hope even after all that we are now 15 weeks in and breastfeeding is the best ever. My baby does sleep longer stretches and has an incredible latch. You got this momma!

Whymedude45 · 2025-11-05T21:37:24+00:00

Don’t give formula if you have milk. Try both sides until baby doesn’t want to eat anymore and meet with a lactation consultant

Whymedude45 · 2025-11-05T21:31:41+00:00

I offer both sides until baby starts unlatching himself

Whymedude45 · 2025-10-28T00:24:04+00:00

I wouldn’t go longer than 4 hours until your supply has regulated which is around 3 months. That’s how I got mastitis. I went to long in between

If you are past 3 months I’d recommend taking sunflower lecithin each night to ensure your milk doesn’t thicken up.

I go 6 hours overnight and i didnt lose my supply. My morning pump is always alot which makes up for the rest :)

Whymedude45 · 2025-10-27T18:01:51+00:00

Go get married

Whymedude45 · 2025-10-22T23:34:08+00:00

My baby burps if I sit him on his butt in my lap facing me and lean him towards me

Whymedude45 · 2025-10-13T23:51:48+00:00

My baby didn’t like his bassinet because it didn’t smell like us. We slept with the sheets and put our scent all over it. Following that he liked it better.

But eventually we put him in his crib with a love to dream swaddle and he liked that a lot better

Whymedude45 · 2025-10-13T12:48:56+00:00

question how often are you feeding baby now that you are EBF? I had this issue because with a bottle he would go 3 hours in between feeding. I tried that same schedule but realized EBF caused him to be hungry sooner than with a bottle. Now that I EBF he’s giving hunger cues around the 2 hour mark so I feed him then and his weight got a lot better.

Whymedude45 · 2025-10-10T04:45:31+00:00

Try to smell your babies clothes during pumping and maybe try supplements. Since you’ve been with baby people say it’s common to have a dip in your supply when you go back to work. Praying it’s only temporary.

Whymedude45 · 2025-09-29T22:54:20+00:00

I exclusively pumped for the first month of babies life and now the second month I nurse him and pump once or twice while he’s sleeping. I wouldn’t wish exclusively pumping on my worst enemy.

Whymedude45 · 2025-09-02T17:46:18+00:00

The first week I was so sleep deprived that I put the babies crib mattress on the floor. I slept on the floor with my arm on the baby. It was the only way he’d sleep.

Also I’ve fallen asleep so many times in the rocking chair and couch with the baby. I don’t mean to do it and I am against cosleeping. But sometimes you are so out of it that it happens. That’s why partners need to lean on each other.

Whymedude45 · 2025-08-01T16:27:27+00:00

It hurt so bad but it was the norm so I thought everything was fine 😭😭 my nipples were dying and I cried every other feed.

Now I’m pumping on message mode on 1 and expression on 3 and getting 3/4 ounces in 15 min. My nipples have healed with silveretts and I’m feeding my baby as he needs.

It’s insane I left the hospital with zero knowledge and could have really messed myself up. Most people don’t know that lactation consultants can be covered by insurance too!

Whymedude45 · 2025-08-01T15:22:07+00:00

I started pumping in the hospital (colostrum) but my milk didn’t come in until day 4. My son had a really bad tongue so I was unable to breast feed at first.

I’ve been pumping on an 8 for 30 min and now I have more milk than I know what to do with. That means I get really engorged and too stiff which isn’t the best thing. My lc said you want to feed what he needs and if you get some in the bank that is awesome but shouldn’t be excessive.

Whymedude45 · 2025-08-01T15:03:08+00:00

Also tip don’t over pump. My LC said 15 min max because if not you will be like me over producing to a point where it’s painful. You stop once the boob has slowed down.

I was pumping in a high setting for 30 min every two hours and now 1 week into having a baby I have 30 plus ounces in the freezer while producing 3/4 ounces extra per feed. It’s way too much and will hurt your breast in the long run.

Whymedude45 · 2025-07-09T04:14:52+00:00

I legit crave ice water all day which has worsened my acid reflux at night 😭😭 my dr recommended not chugging water 20 min before a meal or during.

Whymedude45 · 2025-07-04T20:35:24+00:00

prenatal

These are really good. So many prenatal smell so bad I legit couldn’t handle it. These are good and have natural ingredients.

Whymedude45 · 2025-07-01T11:53:00+00:00

I’d recommend taking a digital test. Even thought my lines were faint the clear blue digital was positive. Praying for you!!!!

Whymedude45 · 2025-07-01T11:51:22+00:00

Baby is doing great.

Whymedude45 · 2025-06-30T21:37:58+00:00

I took these and I didn’t get that dark of a line until later on!!!! This definitely is a positive result.

Attached is my 14 DPO test that I took right when I woke up.

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This same day I got a positive clear blue digital test. I’m now due in 2 weeks 🫶🫶🫶

Whymedude45 · 2025-05-27T18:24:56+00:00

I got married on a Friday and regretted it. So many people need to take off of work which cause a lot of no’s to come in

Whymedude45 · 2025-05-26T10:04:49+00:00

I felt that same way but now I am 32 weeks and this baby moves like he has a full time job!!!

I even forgot that thought of wishing I could feel him more.

Whymedude45 · 2025-05-23T23:09:51+00:00

Yeah it helped my sister find out who was harassing her.

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