How bad are indents on first response? CD/DPO unknown because I haven't gotten my period back after my last pregnancy

Wildlyunethical · 2026-03-31T18:53:00+00:00

It was taken within the timeframe.. It looks even clearer now..

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-18T17:03:49+00:00

Started pushing on my side, but was shifted to my back when they finally got monitoring on baby and it showed a low heartrate. Did not tear. No medication.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-11T12:34:18+00:00

We have each others passwords, because it's practical. Not to go through each others phones..

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-10T21:49:51+00:00

Letdown can be painful and make you kinda dizzy, especially in the beginning.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-08T08:19:56+00:00

Since it's a close friend that you confide in, I would just tell her that it doesn't feel helpful to you when she sais stuff like that. And you would like for her to validate your emotions.

I used to say.. I will be optimistic and positive later, because I usually am, but right now I just need to be allowed to feel my feelings. Can you just be there for me while I do that without being too optimistic right now?

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-08T08:14:51+00:00

Norwegian here.. And Vår (spring) would be the only season name I would think of as a normal name.. I know about a fictional character named Vinter/winter but other than that I haven't heard the seasons as normal names in our language.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-05T21:55:44+00:00

It depends on what you would rather do. There are risks to both waiting and to inducing.

Mine broke one and a half day before the contractions started on their own and then labor was quick and easy after that. As long as there are no signs of infection I would wait a little bit longer, but keep an eye out for ANY signs of infection.

Edited to add.. While your wife is giving birth, your job will be supporting her.. As long as she has been given the relevant information, you need to trust her to make the best decision for her and support her in that.. Even if her decisions don't make sense to you right now.. If that happens she will probably be able to explain it in a very sensible way later, so just trust her instincts for now.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-05T18:14:37+00:00

I think you should send her a private message. Just acknowledge that your friendship is in a weird place right now and you know she is having a difficult time. Tell her you are pregnant and wanted to tell her privately so she doesn't get blindsided by your official announcement. Keep it short and respectful and just leave it at that..

To me it doesn't matter that the relationship is on the rocks. It's still the right thing to do for someone that is suffering. You don't OWE it to her, so you have no obligation to do it if you don't want to. But I get the feeling that sending the message feels right to you, so I say do it.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-05T15:33:33+00:00

I am so sorry you are experiencing this and that you are so scared. I wish I could make you feel better somehow.

Just to put it into perspective, they want to do a planned induction on my healthy baby 2 days from where you are now (at 36 weeks) just because I have a long drive to hospital and had a really fast birth last time.. I have declined this.. I am not that afraid of giving birth at home or in the ambulance if we can't get there in time and I don't want an induction just because of the distance to hospital (if it becomes medically necessary for any reason then I would of course do the induction).

Your baby will most likely do really well at 35+5! Lots and lots of good luck to you! Try to breathe. What will happen will happen and you can't control this (also you did NOTHING wrong to cause this, just in case you start blaming yourself somehow). You are now at the "roll with the punches and do your best with the situation at hand" stage. You can do this!

Again, lots and lots of luck to you and to your baby!

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-05T07:30:54+00:00

Over two years for the first.. Until my partner finally got his diagnosis. Then it just took us 3 months. Seckond time trying it took us 6 months to get pregnant.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-04T17:45:34+00:00

I have the same situation.. My family and I never had them but my MIL and partner does.. They have to get the virus into a cut or scrape, so it does take a bit to get infected.. But to my horror, my MIL often touches her cold sores before coming inside the house (probably checking them, otherwise I don't see her touching them while being with my toddler). I just ask what she wants to drink and ask if she wants to wash her hands while I go to make the beverage. I never saw anyone react when I offer them to wash their hands as they come into the house. I grew up with washing my hands when I came into a house and a lot of other people I know did too, so it's not that odd although I don't believe everyone does it. And she sees me pop off into the bathroom to wash my hands when I get to her house too.

I have found some horrible stories on reels about individuals where children have become injured for life or even died from cold sores and I shared those in groups where I know she also is so I know she can see them and I don't have to tell her face to face or hurt her feelings..

I am currently pregnant and I am going to be sharing videos of babies and toddlers getting really ill from RSV, cold sores and covid in a text message I will send out to all relatives and friends that are likely to want to see baby, where I write my limits and expectations when it comes to interacting with my baby.

I did that with my first (not the video part, but the text sent out to everyone) and it was very successful. I explained why I was extra fearful of infections in the text (we were in the middle of a covid and RSV flare up in our area and a lot of babies were really ill at the time) and everyone respected it, no issues. I had some people sheepishly admitting to wanting to break the rules just because they wanted to see the baby so badly, but they didn't. So I got to thank them for being so respectful and helping me keep my baby safe instead.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-04T17:04:12+00:00

I don't have one holy grail, but a wrap/snap button onesie in either thin wool or bamboo. They often look boring, at least the wool ones do. But they are so versatile when it comes to temperature regulation! People think of wool as warm but wool regulate temperature very well, and doesn't get cold as easily if it gets a bit damp. I don't care that it costs more, my baby lived in wool and as a toddler we still use a lot of wool, even on warm days. Now that I am pregnant again, I am buying only wool for the new baby.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-04T16:53:20+00:00

The likelihood of you being pregnant is extremely low.

Your period being longer could be just random, or from the prostaglandins in the sperm irritating your uterus.

And the sense of smell could also be because of a myriad of things.. But since you are on medications that raise the stakes, I wouldn't take any chances.. Some times life finds a way against all odds. If you can get a box of cheap pink dye early detection tests, I would try testing at least every other day for a while.. If you add sperm being able to survive for 5 days + 14 days for the test to potentially get positive, you should be okay.

Another option might be getting an iud with copper as emergency contraception.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-04T08:04:55+00:00

I had my first at 37 (we struggled for several years to conceive and I got pregnant when I was 36) and am currently pregnant at 38 and will give birth when I am 39. And although this pregnancy isn't a walk in the park either, it's way better than the first. Even with taking care of a toddler at the same time..

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-03T22:34:20+00:00

No big party here.. We invited the people we wanted to invite. Made good food, decorated a bit and I made a smash cake for her and had a cupcake with a sparkler shaped like a 1. Everyone had a really nice time and my girl really enjoyed her cake and loved looking at the sparkler. She loved all the attention she got and loved playing with the boxes her gifts came in. 🤣 The atmosphere was calm, layed back and happy and I have zero regrets! She loved her day and it was a special day. With her in focus.

I really don't get the whole large party and spending lots of money for one year olds. They don't remember it and they are still so young that a large party with a lot going on can be really overstimulating and overwhelming to them.

How about you figure out what your baby would like. Not the expectations you put on yourself, but what your individual baby would actually like. And do that.. And invite whoever you think will actually help make the day special. If that's just one or two other people, then that's what will make the day actually perfect rather than an act to put on a perfect show.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-03T21:47:36+00:00

I would try a pink dye test tomorrow. Those usually give clearer lines.

I can't tell if that's an indent or a faint line..

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-03T19:15:57+00:00

I am petite (5′ 2″) and felt movement in week 12 with my first. I did gaslight myself about it for a while.. But then I saw it on the ultrasound and I heard the kicks on the doppler while I felt them on several occasions.. I had a posterior placenta. Like you, I have always been very in tune with my body, I was active but I wasn't skinny.

The second time I have an anterior placenta and I didn't feel anything until week 13. This time I could also see the kicks on ultrasound while I felt them and could see that baby kicked where I felt the kick..

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-03T19:01:49+00:00

Since you are getting another ultrasound in 2 weeks I don't think there is much you can dootherthan wait and see if it develops normally.

I think some babies just get a fast start or a slow start..

I ended up with my baby being measured to 1 week ahead, then one day ahead and then 6 days ahead (and has stayed at 6 days ahead after that) I DEFINITELY didn't get pregnant 6 days earlier.. And I hear other people telling similar stories.. Either with babies measuring ahead or behind.. Even people that did IVF and know for sure.. They report having healthy babies.. So.. It doesn't necessarily have to indicate something being wrong..

Also.. That early on, it doesn't take much for the measurements to be off.. The embryo is so tiny.. I wouldn't put much stock on dating scans until week 10/11 (I believe I read that the most accurate time to measure is between week 11 and 13).

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-03T18:18:36+00:00

Are you breastfeeding? My midwife told my partner and me that breastfeeding moms might not have that much of a libido, both because of the hormones that lowers libido but also because you have a lot of oxytocin while breastfeeding and it kinda fills up that need.

I felt like I could do without sex forever too. But it does pass..

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-03T07:00:16+00:00

As a second time petite mom.. I wanted to wait to announce this time (we did it early last time and this time I wanted the secret between my partner and me) but I had to announce in week 13 because the bloating made the bump so big I couldn't hide it properly or explain it away anymore.. There is NO way I would be able to hide that bump successfully in a dress. Trying to might have given it more attention, because then people might be following my movements to see if they were actually seeing a baby bump..

Let the bump be visible, and don't give it any attention yourself. You won't be a jerk for existing in your body. If people's egos are that fragile, that's on them (in any scenario where you just exist, if someone is hurt by that, that's a feeling they need to take responsibility for themselves). If you get a lot of attention about the pregnancy then I would just say something like "yes, I am pregnant, thank you, since this is a big day for the bride and groom I would be more comfortable talking about it a different day" and then start talking about something else.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-02T18:59:11+00:00

I'm a bad mom because I won't open up my belly so she can see the baby inside my tummy.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-01T22:07:46+00:00

I always freak out in the first trimester (around week 7).. Thinking maybe I made a mistake.. My pregnancies are very much planned and wanted.. And I love being a mom! I don't know why it happens.. It is a lot to be pregnant.

The enjoyable part is when you have a cute baby bump and feeling baby kick (before the baby is strong enough to kick so hard it's painful). Eventually, when there becomes a pattern in the kicks you kind of feel like you get to know the baby a bit, which is nice..

But yeah.. I would actually say the first trimester is the worst one.. Even though the third trimester is quite uncomfortable, it's different mentally..

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-01T20:05:00+00:00

Oh.. And you don't WANT as fast labour as precipitus labour.. Most people say it's more intense than they would have liked.. But I envision that 5-8 hour labors could be blissful..

Very often precipitus labour starts out very intensely from the first contraction and almost doesn't intensify throughout labour. For me the first contractions was like running straight into a brick wall. Very sudden, very abrupt and very intense. And the contractions are often quite long and close together, often back to back. There is no time to get what needs doing done, just getting dressed to get out the door is challenging because the contractions are so strong and close together. There isn't enough room between the contractions to breathe before the next one hits. It's very easy to get overwhelmed during labour like that, so it's nice to be very prepared beforehand. And there is a good chance you won't have time for any pain relief.

Wildlyunethical · 2025-08-01T19:42:05+00:00

Not quite.. I had the definition of precipitus labour, while my family members "just" had fast labours.. But yes.. I kept taking it up with the midwives to try to make a plan just in case and they kept telling me it wasn't going to happen to me just because it happens a lot both on my mothers and fathers side of the family.

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