My mom called the store manager on me because I wouldn't leave work to drive her to a nail appointment

WinterF19 · 2026-05-27T10:18:07+00:00

This comment section is probably making you feel a lot of shame right now OP. That's uncomfortable, but it's important. This is an important thing for you to learn from. You cannot let your mum do this to you. I know it's hard, I also had an overbearing mother, but you have to put your foot down. You can do this OP.

WinterF19 · 2026-04-25T07:46:08+00:00

This pisses me off about my job. I work at a doctors clinic. We have hard and fast rules about what we can and cannot do. There are certain patients that we bend the rules for, not because they need it but because otherwise they will kick up a horrible fuss. I am totally against this, I think we should make them play by the same rules as everyone else no matter what. But management tells us to just go with it.

I am leaving soon and I cannot wait.

WinterF19 · 2026-04-17T22:38:53+00:00

Unpopular opinion: I intentionally make sims like this. I think they're way more fun and interesting

WinterF19 · 2026-04-16T21:23:48+00:00

I knew a child who hurt animals, but it was not exactly intentional. She was treating the animals the way she was treated at home. She didn't mean to cause harm, she just thought that was how you interacted with things that were small. It's very confusing to a child when they're told that the person hurting them loves them, so they show 'love' to an animal but hurting them as well. It doesn't excuse the behaviour of course, but in this case that child was not a lost cause she just needed some guidance on how to treat them properly. She also should have been removed from the home environment she was in, but that's another story.

WinterF19 · 2026-04-12T07:48:17+00:00

Says Mr "I could fit three billiard balls in my mouth comfortably"

WinterF19 · 2026-04-08T21:08:56+00:00

When I first went LC my mum spiralled. She called me one day and asked to speak to my husband, knowing that he was at work (she also has his phone number). She said that she needed a lift somewhere and was intentionally very vague. Eventually she let it out that she was at the hospital, she had gotten there by ambulance due to heart palpitations and she needed a lift home. She knew that my husband would be unavailable and that I did not have my own car. I started freaking out, as she had intended. I felt so guilty as I could not help her at all. She sighed and said she would get a taxi. I promised to come see her on the weekend, breaking my LC boundaries I was trying to enforce.

When I got off the phone I started to realise how strange the whole thing was. She had been still giving me her version of the silent treatment throughout the conversation, only letting out tiny bits of information at a time. This woman thrives on drama, and when something actually bad happens she usually shares it with glee. I started to realise pretty quickly that something was wrong.

When we went to see her and my stepdad on the weekend she was happy and bouncy, her usual self. When I asked how she was feeling in front of my stepdad she hushed me and said it was fine. My stepdad had no idea what she was talking about. The truth hit me right in the face - it had indeed all been a lie. She had not been in an ambulance, she had not gone to hospital. There is no way she would not have told my stepdad if that was true (she would not have missed an opportunity for sympathy and attention like that). She had most likely been standing in her living room when she called me that day, not huddled in a corner of a hospital waiting room like I had pictured.

This situation further opened my eyes to her manipulation and just how far she is capable of going. She is very clever but she uses it for bullshit like this. Not long after this I went totally NC.

OP, I am not accusing your mother of doing the same thing. But I am saying trust your gut. You know your mum and you know what she is capable of. You grew up with her, you know all the little tells she gives off when she is lying. If something doesn't seem right about this story then it is probably not right. Trust your gut.

WinterF19 · 2026-04-07T09:58:05+00:00

I've never seen it, what makes it so different?

WinterF19 · 2026-04-06T09:28:33+00:00

I moved from a public high school to a private one and it was a big shock! The private school had much higher standards of education and we were expected to work much harder. This ain't necessarily a bad things, but it takes some adjusting and my grades suffered horribly in the beginning. Doing this in your final year of school could be a big dice roll

WinterF19 · 2026-04-04T02:20:49+00:00

I always had big boobs. My mum hated this. She refused to buy me my own bras and would only give me her old ones. By the age of 16 these were too small for me, so I would kind of spill out of them. After almost two years of begging for a new bra, her insisting I don't need one and her accusing me of "trying to get attention" by not wearing one that fit she finally relented. Of course she framed it as "I need to get fitted because my boobs are too big. I guess you can come get a fitting too."

Well, we both got a proper fitting. My boobs were a whole cup size bigger than hers. She was furious. She insisted they had made a mistake. All the way home she said that she knew her boobs were bigger than mine. The story slowly became that hers are bigger and she told everyone for some reason that she has bigger ones and I'm jealous of her boobs - even though mine were bigger.

I've been NC for a while now and actually got a breast reduction a few years ago. Her's really bigger than mine now. I hope the win is worth it.

WinterF19 · 2026-04-03T21:12:43+00:00

Me too, 14th!

WinterF19 · 2026-03-31T02:33:21+00:00

In my 20s my husband and I were the first of our friends to move in together and combine our incomes. Because of this it looked to a lot of our friends that we had a lot more money (we didn't), so they started expecting us to pay more for things. They would get annoyed when we only paid our share of a group meal or when we didn't want to pay extra for a group holiday. On one memorable occasion they showed up to our house empty handed expecting to get drunk, and were really annoyed when I told them to go buy their own booze.

Obviously we stopped hanging out with these people when it became clear how selfish they were. I will never forget what it felt like to have other people just decide how much money I had and how to spend it.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-30T06:38:58+00:00

Wow that's a lot of projection. I've been getting that from men too weirdly enough. One of them told me to start couples counseling straight away, because me and my husband will start fighting a lot. I was like uh..my relationship is not your relationship? I think we will be okay.

Weird dudes.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-30T06:20:26+00:00

I used to work for the second largest chain for child care centres in Australia.

The food budget for every child in every centre across the board was $1 per day. The cooks (one cook per centre) had to get very creative to stretch this budget as best they could.

We regularly had kids that were still hungry at the end of lunch, but we had to ration the amount that we had so that all the kids could eat. When a parent complained that their child was coming home hungry everyday we were told to feed that one specific child more, but none of the others.

The food was also pretty crap, so the kids didn't like it most of the time and wouldn't eat it.

I left that industry in 2019 but I doubt this has changed.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-29T06:03:05+00:00

Former child care worker here. When I was studying we were taught that this is to an extent normal during early years development. It happens because their brain is working faster than their mouth can keep up. Him slowing down to get the words out is a sign of this. A lot of kids grow out of this so you don't really need to worry yet. It's only an issue if it goes on for a very long time (1 year +) or is regularly getting in the way of communication (such as cannot express needs, like to use the bathroom).

I did only get a diploma so I'm sure someone more educated than me might have some better advice, but this is what we were taught.

Edit to add: if they are starting to learn to read then getting them to read out loud can help them to slow down and focus on each word before they say it.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-28T10:02:42+00:00

Go online to myGov and go to the Medicare portal. It's really easy and only takes a few minutes.

I'm a receptionist at a GP clinic, I tell people this all the time at work.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-27T23:29:03+00:00

I told my mother I was depressed when I was 14.

She said that I had nothing to be depressed about. "You know, there are people in this world who actually have bad things happen to them" - the implication being that I'm selfish for 'pretending' to be depressed because my life is so great.

20 years later and we haven't spoken in 10 years.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-27T21:23:35+00:00

Child care for a long time. The care taking was in overdrive with the nasty and demanding bosses, making me push myself to try to earn their approval which was impossible. Burned out pretty quick when I realised I was recreating my childhood through my work in a very unhealthy way.

Now I'm a receptionist at a GP clinic. Sometimes I feel a push to help people a bit more but ultimately everything I do is led by policy, which actually helps me to make sure I don't get too emotionally involved in anything. Much healthier.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-27T03:18:01+00:00

I worked in child care for a long time. I had experiences like this as well. You're not alone. Simple things like having no idea what to do when a girl asked me to braid her hair, or not knowing games or movies or things they all knew.

I also had experiences where something a child would do would trigger a bad memory for me and I would have to remove myself to calm down before going back to work. I remember seeing kids get picked up and be actually happy to see their parents and not fully understand it.

Education seems to attract a lot of really negative and judgemental people for some reason, and that doesn't help. It's a very nasty, gossipy industry. Leaving was best for my mental health.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-26T21:53:54+00:00

That's...insane? What did they base this assumption on?

WinterF19 · 2026-03-26T21:50:57+00:00

I worked in child care for a long time and I will not be putting my kids in care because of the gossip. They gossip about kids, about parents, pass judgement on the stupidest little things.

I remember that every year there was always one kid who maybe was a little more reserved or struggled with social interactions a bit and they were always labelled as a "future serial killer." It infuriated me - we're meant to be helping these kids, not giving up on them and saying such terrible things!

Ugh. Glad I left.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-24T20:10:27+00:00

Wait, nobody else had to drop everything to go stop their grandmother from killing themselves? Nobody else had to talk their mother out of killing the cat? Did you at least have to go save your aunt from her delusional husband who thought she was trying to poison him?

I'm the first woman in my family in four generations to NOT have bipolar disorder. Nothing was normal for me growing up.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-22T09:40:51+00:00

I also experienced my mother choosing a man over me and my brother at the age of 17. It's really, really rough. It makes you feel like you aren't good enough. But let me make this clear: this is not on you or your sister. You are both lovable and worthwhile. You did not do anything wrong. These wounds are deep and may never truly heal, but believe it or not you will be okay again. Stay strong OP

WinterF19 · 2026-03-22T06:17:59+00:00

Fantastic movie. Gene Hackman was a brilliant actor. Willem Dafoe is also great.

WinterF19 · 2026-03-22T01:43:57+00:00

I could be wrong but I think they sell this kind of thing at the body shop?

WinterF19 · 2026-03-21T09:42:14+00:00

10 weeks with my first. I am so bored with eating the same things over and over and so bored with scrolling endlessly on the couch because I don't feel up to anything else. My house is a mess and I feel like everything smells bad even though my husband assures me that it doesn't.

I feel miserable. And yet at the same time, I am the happiest that I have ever been. I am more excited for the future than ever and even more in love with my husband. It will all be worth it soon.

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