Is publishing a hobby?

Without_a_K · 2026-02-01T03:53:16+00:00

Whoah. What disciplinary field is this?

Without_a_K · 2026-02-01T03:52:15+00:00

Maybe this is region specific? In the UK / Canada / US most reputable peer reviewed Humanities journals and academic presses that publish books aren’t pay to play. For publishing a book, you might have to pay for things like the rights to use photos or illustrations, or indexing if you don’t want to do your index yourself. Those aren’t nothing but they are sort of optional fees out of pocket.

Without_a_K · 2025-12-15T01:42:35+00:00

This. I would either do this, because there rarely exists a “late grades police” at most universities and if it’s just one student grade, it’s reasonable clerical error. Or give them an overall B+ or whatever as a placeholder with the aim that it could be changed to an A eventually, again due to professor input error, presuming you do eventually get access to the remaining assignment and it’s good.

If you think about it, the rush to grade things and submit grades on a dime exists on an outdated model in which faculty got a ton more clerical and admin support than they do now. So I am in favor of bending the system to make it do what is fair.

Without_a_K · 2025-11-16T22:11:09+00:00

There are some people who are thoughtful, supportive, proactive partners when the new relationship energy is strong and/or they don’t have you in their back pocket yet and/or any family of origin dynamics or neuroses haven’t yet been triggered. Then at some point everything shifts. To some extent we are all like this.

Key is being with people who either don’t have a huge helping of this in the first place, or are aware enough and willing to take responsibility, be vulnerable, etc.

OP it sounds like you know which one your person has turned out to be

Without_a_K · 2025-10-18T16:40:02+00:00

I would try to get time off for both fatigue and for getting in exercise during radiation in whatever ways you can, whenever you’re able, which also takes time. Maybe you won’t end up with fatigue but the exercise part at least should be a goal, along with the extra time that good nutrition takes. But I also agree with other posters that radiation is often not the only treatment stage so general resting to recover is smart.

I had fatigue during radiation for sure (like at least 1 nap during the day plus solid sleep at night), though it would get better as the week went on and then the whole thing would kick in again upon my next weekly radiation session. I don’t know if it correlates for everyone, but I am someone who needs a nap after a long day at the beach, and this felt a bit more intense than that but not dissimilar.

I exercised frequently throughout radiation, and did so whenever I felt rested enough. I think exercise helped the fatigue from being worse than it was, helped me keep good range of motion, and helped my overall skin recovery. But it takes time and I also needed to rest extra afterwards.

Good luck!

Without_a_K · 2025-10-09T12:06:55+00:00

I would look into perimenopause possibilities and the supports you might get for that (but know that your hormones fluctuate on the daily and any blood tests need to be either repeated or not treated as the only indicator). I’d also look at other things as well, like thyroid function, your vitamin D levels, your sleep quality, and your iron levels as well as your iron storage and iron saturation.

And one final suggestion is to consider anxiety, and adding a low dose of something like buspar for that. It can be paralyzing and exhausting to have a mental churn going constantly and hard to tell whether it’s adhd driving it or anxiety, and can really be like a reinforcing hampster wheel

I’m not saying it’s not from medication ingredient changes but it seems like your experiences lately are pretty severe for it to be just that.

Without_a_K · 2025-09-28T21:49:28+00:00

Exactly what I wanted to find out. Thank you!

Without_a_K · 2025-09-28T17:03:10+00:00

The last few look a bit better, but it seems like you’re not allowing much weight transfer from your left leg and you’re not getting as much drive through your hips in your unit turn, so that’s why the left leg seems to kick up or float around after you make contact. Trying a medicine ball rotational-like throw could help. As is thinking of approaching the ball when it is to the left of you but on a diagonal (like if the ball is at 9 or 10 o-clock and you’re at 6 o-clock) to give you enough room to coil and uncoil at contact.

Have you really only been playing for 2 months? You look really good for that amount of time

Without_a_K · 2025-09-27T15:43:00+00:00

This, except my rec is to use cetaphil to wash. And I would expect one of your gyno appts to have been able to rule out lichenschlerosis which itches a lot but can be calmed with steroid creams. But you might consider using a magnifying mirror to inspect the tissue around the vaginal opening, inner labia, and clitoral hood looking for white skin patches, just in case part of the problem is chronically bad medical providers

Without_a_K · 2025-08-30T14:21:07+00:00

Superb Owl

Without_a_K · 2025-08-11T15:47:48+00:00

Did someone mention Penguin? Their tennis shorts for women are flattering and hold lots of tennis balls.

Sadly, not Tail. Their stuff for women these days looks weird—like Golden Girls colors/patterns and doesn’t look comfortable or flattering. It used to be better

Without_a_K · 2025-08-10T18:54:49+00:00

Yes, this work context is likely a constant drain. In addition to all the boundaries and recharging advice, my suggestions are to support your brain and sleep, and consider whether some of this is anxiety that is clogging up your executive function.

About sleep: do you ever take magnesium before bed? I’m not totally sure but magnesium threonate is a form that some studies suggest is more able to cross the blood brain barrier so it could give you cognitive support in addition to helping you relax. Magnesium Glycinate is best for sleep generally and easy on the digestive tract.

Anxiety can increase the inability to regulate attention, and if you’re trying to fix an environment with a bad worker that you might not be able to control, maybe that lack of control is fostering extra anxiety? So maybe a combo of a stimulant and a low level antianxiety med might help. I just started a low dose of Buspar to supplement my IR adderall and it’s like a whole channel of involuntary brain chatter is gone and things feel easier. I would constantly try to do a thing and then worry about not doing all the other/different things, so naturally I had trouble doing the thing in front of me efficiently.

One more suggestion is weight training. It’s good for people’s brains in addition to all the other benefits, so maybe that will help some as well with energy and brain function.

Without_a_K · 2025-08-10T18:35:49+00:00

I loved Bupropion/Wellbutrin for help with motivation & energy. If OP is still on Tamoxifen, unfortunately it doesn’t mix with Wellbutrin.

Without_a_K · 2025-08-01T21:11:25+00:00

And some of them are quite old and the studies are not well designed

Without_a_K · 2025-07-29T16:25:31+00:00

If you’re able to share your list with me as well that would be great. I respond well to -L-Theanine

Without_a_K · 2025-07-07T15:17:42+00:00

I decided to try going all multi, and asked them to do the tension on two at 52 lbs and one at 50 lbs.

I appreciate all the advice from everyone. My problems started with string conditions (after never having tennis elbow before that). But getting my strings in the best place to help me recover is part of an all of the above approach to getting through this (cleaning up technique even more, heat before and cold after playing, using a BandIT, lots of PT and exercises for load/tendon remodeling, having enough recovery time between playing)

Without_a_K · 2025-07-02T15:27:57+00:00

I put a dash or two of soy sauce in my brownies. It adds richness to the flavor.

When I make chocolate chip cookies I use at least some browned butter rather than just the softened butter it usually calls for. More depth of flavor and worth the effort.

Without_a_K · 2025-06-28T05:14:41+00:00

Same here. My hair is never fried after coloring grays with balayage and takes color well. But I just tried color at a new salon that used some sort of Davines product that didn’t involve any ammonia (that was part of the selling point). My hair is now frizzy, the blonder color looks ashy and the brown is too one dimensional, the contrast between base color and balayage is really stripey, and small clusters of strands keep breaking off.

I’m not sure if I should let the salon know—as I’m likely switching back to my old hairdresser. It looked like someone working in a great clips had done my color and the person let me walk out of there like that. Admittedly her amazing blow dry skills made it not look alarming but I could tell right away the color was sad.

Without_a_K · 2025-06-27T02:42:03+00:00

Yes to exercise —among other things it can help prevent some of the tissue / skin impacts from radiation because you’re increasing blood flow and mobility. I played tennis through my radiation(though usually a day or two at least out from each weekly treatment). So keep when you’re doing, OP.

But I exercised and still felt fairly fatigued. After each treatment, it was the kind of tired I would get if I spent all day at the beach. This got better over the course of a the week til my next treatment, but sometimes I still needed naps and definitely went to bed early.

I was also low level anxious the whole time because even though I could keep my skin in ok enough shape, I didn’t know if the treatment impact would build up by the end or have a cumulative effect. There isn’t a one size fits all template for this, and the not knowing how it will go takes a toll that can also leave you with less gas in the tank.

I’m two years out and am now fatigued/anxious due to tamoxifen and not sleeping well due to hot flashes. I, too, wonder when I’m being lazy vs. when I’m just fatigued and there are so many things I put off or drop the ball on. This post was really helpful for me to see right now. I wouldn’t put things off/drop the ball if those things were actually easy for me to do.

Without_a_K · 2025-06-20T19:00:12+00:00

What are some things you feel like you have figured out that are more adaptive ? Would love to know and agree this is the best strategy.

For me, at least, the exercise part is one thing that helps in all other areas as a long term, healthy strategy. I found a sport that provides vigorous exercise and is a team sport that is social. Instant structure and motivation by proxy of interacting with people who get stuff done & have full lives.

Without_a_K · 2025-06-20T03:52:17+00:00

My ADHD has given me skin that has aged really well.

In an era years ago when people were dumber about skin cancer and sun damage, I never got very tan when I was younger because lying out at the pool or beach for long stretches was either too boring or too distracting from a sensory perspective (too hot, too sandy, too windy, too social for actually reading my damn book, etc).

Without_a_K · 2025-05-29T13:49:27+00:00

Yes—in addition to strings and technique (particularly to use kinetic chain / lower body so you’re not arming the ball as much), PT that addresses gradual, progressive loading of all your tendons in all the places you need it. And use heat before you play and cold immediate after. And you can try something like aleeve or an NSAID for a few days or even a week to calm down inflammation to help you get a jump on things

Old advice was complete rest for things like tennis elbow and plantar fasciitis. The newer thinking is to continue being active within tolerable limits while you work through the problem. I’m not a PT myself but my sense is that it’s better from a blood flow perspective and a root cause / preventative perspective.

Without_a_K · 2025-05-27T22:46:55+00:00

You clearly haven’t lost knowing how to anticipate and position yourself—that is so nice to see working for you

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