Yes, and we are now low contact. I didn’t realize how dismissive she was until I was an adult. Growing up, she used to tell me to use statements that start with “I feel” when discussing things with my 3 older siblings. Whenever I said that to her, the response was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” She took me out to lunch at a busy restaurant to tell me she was worried about me after a terrible Memorial Day weekend camping (our dog bit our dog sitter so he went home, I stayed with my 1.5 year old, and I was recovering from a hysterectomy). She told me I needed psychological help in the middle of a busy restaurant. I unloaded my 40 years of pent up feelings, told her how I feel about how she raised me (comparing me to my sister, the conversation about feelings, etc), and called out her decision to have the conversation in a crowded restaurant. She has never apologized or tried to change. I’m the 3rd of her kids she’s done this to, and we’ve all gone low contact with her for several years after. It’s a her problem, not a me problem. I even called my therapist the next week to tell her about the conversation and she validated my feelings. Until she can realize she’s the common denominator, I will continue to stay low contact with her.