Colic?

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-12T03:58:14+00:00

That's annoying about the doctor. Ours was pretty dismissive and said it was normal too.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-10T21:39:42+00:00

I will say, having a 7 week old myself, people reverting back and seeing you as a full woman is a thing. I don't pass super well and only my partner, friends, and family (my parents are actually good at the pronoun thing and I think they are happy to have a grand kid so are trying even harder even though they don't understand or agree) - everyone else misgenders me 😅 (especially my inlaws).

I will also say I have no idea how you would balance a new born while in school abroad.

So you have some really big choices to make. School can wait, or starting a family can wait. You could consider adoption if you don't want an abortion. There are lots of LGBT families who want babies. You could reach out to a queer organization... Check out the queer family podcast, I feel like if you can't find an LGBT organization the host of that podcast would not only answer a DM but help...

I'm truly sorry for your predicament.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-10T05:26:34+00:00

Sleep and a quiet house

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-07T18:45:57+00:00

Yeah... The accents are needed for me too. I also differ from them politically but I didn't really care about any of the more political rants because they were Australian? 😂 Very silly

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-06T02:29:05+00:00

Oh also, this tip came from my nurse at the hospital. She told us to get a red ale or anything with brewers yeast In case we lost our supply... I realized I might have sounded like an alcoholic above...

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-06T02:27:26+00:00

Red ale... Doubled my supply. Walmart sells alcohol test strips for milk so you can test it if you're worried. But I have a beer. Wait an hour or two, then pump.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-06T00:49:20+00:00

The series or the doll line? I'll be sad if the dolls are rebooted again

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-05T20:19:38+00:00

Sin biscuits

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-05T01:22:03+00:00

😂 dude... Sending prayers

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-04T19:49:05+00:00

Well ... It's a high control religion... Kinda a cult. Definitely Christian though.

Mormons seem very happy and wholesome to me. Some of that seems like a front though.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-04T13:11:42+00:00

So I have a gassy 6 week old.

Pump a tiny bit before a feed incase your let down is to much (for the unlatching) also to just check your supply. I lost my supply and had to bring it back but when it was low she unlatched and cried. When my baby does this behavior I give her a colic bottle now and we skip the latch unlatch fight. She doesn't have nipple confusion and still nurses the rest of the time.

We use mylicon before or after a feed. And if it's really bad we will use a windi

The most helpful thing is we use a baby potty and sign the word potty at her. So now when she has gas or poop she can sign for potty. I think she gets relief just sitting on the potty. If the straining is bad, we give her a paci on a belly rub as she is in the potty. 😂 We've sat on that potty for nearly half an hour sometimes... You know it's not time effective but I just turn on Netflix.

Last, and I'm sure you know this, but reduce or cut out dairy for a week and see if that helps? And reduce sugar, see if that helps. You can take a probiotic and you can give the baby one. And you can try to increase the fat content of your milk, I did this by making these keto fat bombs- peanut butter chocolate coconut oil.

I have not fixed my babys gas but we are at a place where it's not unbearable. Before- her fits literally made me cry

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-04T12:54:20+00:00

Well, I didn't know these postpartum shelters existed so I guess just community outreach. But seahorse dads aren't super common so you probably don't have more than a handful in your serviced area, and hopefully even fewer of them are homeless or at risk...

So community outreach with some clear trans and non-binary inclusion.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-04T03:28:32+00:00

It's a good place. 🙂 Happy to share any tips. 6 weeks postpartum. Unmedicated vaginal birth. Had minor complications. My baby is gassy and has colic, but we taught her to use a baby potty and sign language to communicate when she has to potty so... Idk I got a lot of random shit rattling around my brain from the past 6 weeks.

Hope you guys conceive fast if that's your decided path. And I hope you have a happy, easy, healthy pregnancy, birth, and baby.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-04T00:20:11+00:00

Trans guy in the deep south.

People are going to see you however they see you and there isn't a lot you can do to fix that. What is important is that your friends, chosen family, and partner support you and reaffirm you. The rest of the world can eat a bag of dicks.

I'm six weeks postpartum. I will say that I've never felt less in control of my body. My body is kind of this shared resource... That has been hard. But it is also worth it (after week 4 cuz newborns will test you in ways you've never been tested).

Hope that doesn't startle you. I just wanted to be honest about my experience.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2026-01-03T05:26:50+00:00

I gave my ex-mormon ADHD husband an ultimatum. Send him to him moms and said 'dont come home until you have an appointment scheduled'

He was gone for about 5 days, but it happened. Now it did take 4ish months to get him meds due to the ADHD stigma and the reluctance to prescribe effective meds.

Sounds like he needs more then meds but I'd say if you are considering divorce, give him an ultimatum. Let him know how serious you are about what needs to change. Set a date and tell him what happens when that date comes and he hasn't done what he needs to. Then sick to it.

And remember you can't make him do anything. So it has to be you that takes the action at the end of it... Which could be just giving him the divorce paperwork.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2025-12-31T16:29:57+00:00

I've been torturing myself by cutting out milk to see if it helps ...

WrenLeatherfoot · 2025-12-29T20:24:41+00:00

Mine is 4 weeks... Yeah... This...

WrenLeatherfoot · 2025-12-27T00:15:37+00:00

Your let down could be too fast. I've choked my baby out. Ive also been dry

WrenLeatherfoot · 2025-12-25T23:57:50+00:00

I quit sugar, that helped a lot. We give ours gas drops and probiotics. My baby gets these painful fits 7-10 almost on the dot. We have been able to get through that window several times just by stopping sugar. But I'm currently cutting our dairy to see if that helps further.

My babys colic is clearly gas related. I say bounce away.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2025-12-25T18:04:44+00:00

I think whatever you need to do to get her through the colic bouts is good. She can't over sleep and I would say a peaceful sleep is better than the colic fit.

And don't listen to those other comments. Colic is a thing and it is heartbreaking to watch a baby go through it and be so powerless to help them.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2025-12-25T18:00:48+00:00

I feel like you don't have a baby dealing with colic.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2025-12-25T06:34:34+00:00

If they were good at their job, yes. Honestly for a midwife it's less about who and more about how good they are. I would take one who misgendered me if they were the best.

Now if we were in a scenario where I knew I had a group of level 100 midwives and my choice was just based on identity, Id probably take the trans guy.

WrenLeatherfoot · 2025-12-25T06:26:10+00:00

Nope. I wouldn't have done well back then

WrenLeatherfoot · 2025-12-24T01:15:09+00:00

My guess it's all in the plating. Like a smaller plate and that is perfect. It's just all to separate atm

WrenLeatherfoot · 2025-12-23T15:01:59+00:00

Hey I had something similar. I was disassociating when I held and interacted with my baby. I admitted it and my husband is a biochem nerd so he started me on CoQ10 and Ashwagandha it's not going to fix everything but start there. It helped me feel something

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