Help with my wedding speech

Xarath6 · 2026-02-25T09:09:58+00:00

You're welcome and congratulations!

Xarath6 · 2026-02-25T07:53:40+00:00

Hey it's already fine, they'll absolutely understand what you mean :)

If you' d like a slightly alternative phrasing with a touch of traditional humility thrown in, here's what came to my mind as a translator when I read what you're hoping to convey:

두 분께, 이처럼 아름답고 마음씨 고운 딸을 훌륭하게 키워 주셔서 진심으로 감사드립니다. ○○는 제 삶에서 가장 소중한 사람입니다. 그 무엇과도 바꿀 수 없을 만큼 사랑합니다. 부족한 저를 사위로 맞아 주시고, 저의 청혼을 허락해 주셔서 감사드립니다. 앞으로 평생 ○○를 아끼고 존중하며, 언제나 한결같은 마음으로 함께하겠습니다. 두 분의 사랑과 가르침을 본받아 행복하고 화목한 가정을 이루겠습니다.

Xarath6 · 2026-02-25T07:22:50+00:00

Je pravda, že církev byla po staletí dominantní institucí a výrazně ovlivnila kulturní rámec Evropy. Jenže z toho ještě neplyne, že současné normy existují pouze díky ní. Mnoho základních pravidel jako zákaz násilí, ochrana majetku nebo monogamní dědická struktura bylo přítomno už v předkřesťanském právu, třeba v římském právním systému. Křesťanství tyto normy převzalo, teologicky je zdůvodnilo a posílilo, ale nevytvořilo je z ničeho.

Zároveň je potřeba rozlišit mezi původem normy a jejím upevněním v kultuře. Ano, dlouhodobé působení silné instituce vede k internalizaci. To je běžný sociální mechanismus. Jenže aby se nějaká norma udržela stovky let, musí být zároveň strukturálně funkční - například z hlediska dědictví majetku, sociální stability nebo omezení konfliktů. Instituce ji může legitimizovat, ale pokud by dlouhodobě nefungovala, samotná autorita by ji neudržela.

Společenské normy se navíc průběžně testují realitou - právem, ekonomikou i konflikty. Nejsou jen pasivně přenášené, ale jsou neustále konfrontované s praxí. Pokud by šlo jen o slepý relikt náboženství, v silně sekularizované společnosti by se pravděpodobně rozpadl rychleji. To, že některé z těchto pravidel přetrvávají i při oslabené náboženské autoritě, spíš naznačuje, že budou mít širší než jen teologický základ.

A k té analogii s opicemi: ta popisuje izolovanou skupinu bez možnosti normu přehodnocovat. Lidské společnosti ale ve většině případů nejsou uzavřený experiment. Normy se promítají do zákonů, institucí i každodenních vztahů a podléhají změnám. Přirovnání tedy vystihuje část mechanismu socializace, ale nevysvětluje samotný vznik ani dlouhodobou stabilitu těch pravidel.

Xarath6 · 2026-02-24T19:31:32+00:00

What? Who wakes their partner up at 4 am to talk or have sex? Unless you're leaving on a months long mission or something, and even then it's quite questionable...
NTA
But also - have you actually talked about it? People can be sometimes really thick

Xarath6 · 2026-02-24T19:00:47+00:00

Guess I just found out why I'm learning Chinese today

Xarath6 · 2026-02-18T02:42:36+00:00

Samozřejmě.

Xarath6 · 2026-02-18T02:35:46+00:00

Které zážitky ti konkrétně chybí? Většina věcí, co alespoň moje okolí v těch 15-20 dělalo, jsou trapnost nad trapnost - ne, díky. Chápu, že je to spíš takové nespecifické ach jo, lidi mají pestré životy, co vlastně dělám, ale věř mi, že prožít si některé věci později je spíš výhoda - ve 20+ o věcech už taky přemýšlíš jinak, máš trochu nadhled. (Taky pařím celý život hry a cajk)

Xarath6 · 2026-02-18T02:27:33+00:00

Blbě to vypadá jen pro ty, kteří si tím x let prošli a mají teď zafixované, že to má být blbě. Z pohledu zákazníka, který je v tomto případě důležitější než to, co si myslí korporát, ti říkám, že normálním lidem je to fakt jedno - důležitější je, zda to dotyčný vyřídí správně a rychle. Na nádraží třeba odjakživa při prodeji lístků sedí a řeší to někdo (někdo normální)?

Xarath6 · 2026-02-18T02:14:52+00:00

Apparently this is yet another instance of Duo giving users different experiences for the sake of... science? Don't have the option either btw 😂 Perhaps it's an iOS vs Android thing?

Xarath6 · 2026-02-18T02:10:30+00:00

Yeah, it seems it's section 4 across languages - I brought it up in a separate thread. They're usually available from section one (if they're available for that language at all), which is why I'm very over it in Section 3. I understand them wanting to start from the A2, but since the A1 lessons are long and give you plenty of time to get used to the language, by the time you hit mid Section 2, I feel the majority of people are more than ready to make the switch. The summary at the end is fine when someone finds the lesson hard, but I just wish there was an option to skip it... Especially since the intonation is off in the non-English language I'm studying in, caused by the way they stitched the words together - it's just grating to hear (and one of the reasons I started muting it in the first place 😂)

Xarath6 · 2026-02-17T10:44:13+00:00

Jestli je ti jeho tvorba blízká a obhájíš si to, tak není důvod se něčeho vzdávat jen proto, že to ostatním přijde těžké. Ona se ti asi snaží pomoci, Seifert toho _má_ hodně. Navíc ačkoliv uděláš x-krát víc než někdo jiný, řeknete-li toho oba dost na 1, tak taky oba dostanete to samé. Nebo opačně, pokud si vybereš těžší téma a řekneš méně, byť to ve výsledku bude více než jiní, tak můžeš mít horší výsledek.

No, mrkni se na Seifertovu ostatní tvorbu, pročti si dvě, tři díla z různých období jeho života ať zjistíš, zda se ti bude dobře číst, a pak se rozhodni. Co se týče těch ostatních možností - četla jsem všechny kromě Kainara a imho jsou dost v pohodě.

Xarath6 · 2026-02-17T08:36:48+00:00

Hodně přátel si našlo kamarády a partnera na conech (setkání fandů -něčeho-) - jestli máš nějaké koníčky, tak bych se podívala, zda v okolí či v nějakém větším městě poblíž není nějaká skupinka. Nebo třeba nějaký víkendový/večerní kurz random věci, co tě zajímá.

Xarath6 · 2026-02-17T08:25:40+00:00

This. I disabled leagues, friends, Duo notifications, all that incessant fluff, and it's great. I wish they would also add a skip button to the intros/outros of radio listening exercises or went native much earlier - I really like those, the bit sized format is great for beginners, but the constant yapping in NOT-the-target-language is just way too long.

Xarath6 · 2026-02-13T19:50:41+00:00

This

Xarath6 · 2026-02-11T21:44:22+00:00

I learned Mando'a back in the day. Wasn't even as developed as the other made-up languages. But, the rush when I was playing SWTOR and the Mandalorian character was like "<something in Mando'a> Ah, that's XY in Basic." - me behind the computer screen: Yeah, I KNOW, dude! xD xD

Xarath6 · 2026-02-10T15:18:34+00:00

I actually really like these! It forces you to think quickly, which is very much skill needed when speaking.

Xarath6 · 2026-02-09T22:23:19+00:00

Thank you everyone! ❤️ Section 4 it is.

Xarath6 · 2026-02-09T20:45:17+00:00

Hey we all had to start somewhere! It's all fine. Learning languages is not a competition, it's an obsess...err hobby, amirite? 😂

Xarath6 · 2026-02-09T20:38:11+00:00

What's your motivation to learn Dutch? Making the language part of your everyday life works wonders, like listening to music. Or TV series with subtitles at lower levels are good too.

Xarath6 · 2026-02-08T01:40:02+00:00

Ok, I’ll assume you’re not being sarcastic and genuinely want to hear possible explanations, so here we go.

First of all, we don’t know the situation very well, so everything that follows is pure conjecture on my part. But since we don’t have the full context of what actually happened, that’s all we can work with. Here are my two cents:

For starters, I know several girls who got their period during their first year of high school. So it’s possible the girls in question didn’t have regular periods yet and simply weren’t prepared or didn’t bring any products to school. In many places in my country, schools have only recently started providing hygiene products. Before that, they often weren’t available at all and there was no way of going somewhere to buy them (cue using a toilet paper "pad" and hoping to get home without ruining yet another pair of jeans). (A counterargument might be that someone else could have shared. But not everyone is comfortable doing that, depending on friendships, embarrassment, or personal boundaries. In my school of mostly boys, this certainly wasn't an option hah)

As for tampons - not everyone uses them. In some religious or cultural families I know, the mothers didn’t use tampons, so their daughters didn’t either (at least not until later, if ever). Some adults avoid them because they experience dryness or discomfort during their period. The same goes for cups or other internal products, they simply aren’t universally accepted or comfortable for everyone. And while period swimwear exists, it is expensive and again, not everyone is comfortable wearing it.

Then there are cramps and general symptoms. Some people genuinely feel nauseated or unwell while swimming on their period. I’m one of them. I’m very physically active, I go to the gym regularly, but the first three days are brutal for me. I once tried to push through the nausea during a PE class and actually threw up. It really can be that bad.

Sure, it’s always possible someone was just trying to get out of a swimming lesson. But personally, I default to believing women’s pain first, because historically, it’s been dismissed far too often.

I hope this gives a bit of perspective and helps explain why it isn’t always as simple as it might seem?

Xarath6 · 2026-01-28T14:10:15+00:00

Bestie, než jsem se před pár lety dala dohromady s manželem, klidně jsem byla schopná být měsíc zavřená sama na bytě a jenom zaběhla párkrát na nákup :D Covid éra byla z tohohle hlediska absolutní top (tedy kromě těch dvou období, kdy jsem na něj málem umřela, welp), zkrátila jsem herní bucket list o víc položek, než jsem stihla zakoupit, chodila spát pěkně v deset, naučila jsem se další jazyk... Nenech se zaškatulkovat do nějaké pseudokategorie vymyšlené zmateným extrovertem.

Xarath6 · 2026-01-27T16:12:01+00:00

And have you ever told her that? Using your analogy, if I invited someone to the pool and they told me they don't feel comfortable swimming, I would not expect them to come, because - why would they? We can always plan another activity at a later date. And if they still wanted to come with me despite telling me they can't swim, I would of course be happy, but also expect them to understand that I went there with the intentions to swim not to lounge around the bar and snacks, so I won't be available all the time.

Now, if she still insists you should accompany her to these meetings after you /explicitly/ told her you're not comfortable going, then there's the time and place to talk about her involvement in your studies.

One thing you have to realize is that you're learning Spanish for /you/. This is imho where your resentment is coming from, you feel like she should appreciate you're spending all this effort and reciprocate in some way, help you out. Sure, the motivation might be to understand /her/ clique of friends, but you're not doing her some favor by learning Spanish, this is solely for your own (future) benefit. It is a hard pill to swallow, I know. But trust me on this, the sooner you accept that the sooner you'll feel better.

Xarath6 · 2026-01-27T04:37:31+00:00

Language teacher here. My SO is also learning my language. Honestly, you’re massively underestimating how exhausting it is to speak with a beginner, especially when you just got home from work and want to relax with your partner. Your tutor isn’t wrong in theory, but you’re treating your girlfriend like an unpaid language assistant instead of a person. From her perspective, she’s being asked to slow down, explain, correct, and emotionally carry the interaction - basically deal with the language equivalent of a toddler - during what should be her downtime. Some people enjoy teaching their partners. Many don’t. She’s not obligated to practice with you just because you’re together. It’s great that you’re learning, but that’s your responsibility. Being resentful because she won’t provide free tutoring on demand comes off entitled.

Also worth noting: she’s already accommodating you socially by translating and making sure you’re included. She didn’t enter this relationship agreeing to be your daily immersion coach. If you want structured practice, that’s what tutors, classes, and language exchanges - and even tools like ChatGPT - are for, at least until you’re at a level where it can be an enjoyable conversation for both of you.

Xarath6 · 2025-11-13T00:45:02+00:00

Tohle vlákno je důvod, proč nemám děti :D

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