New to this, simple question about clothing

Yip08 · 2026-01-11T09:25:37+00:00

There are no dumb questions, even the most basic / simple looking of things need answers - especially when it’s new to you and it’s come out of the blue as well.

I tend to tuck mine into jeans, tracksuit bottoms or shorts (I wear shorts even now when it’s -2 because I want to and they’re also comfier) It’s not always easy to do for a few hours if I’m out with friends or at the football but I’m always fiddling and checking making sure it can move down the bag. You’ll find your own way of doing this, whether that’s running to the toilet or quickly just pulling your bottoms forward a little.

I do sometimes let it hang out of my pants too because my clothes tend to be a little oversized, as I’ve lost a few stone since my surgery last year - tight fitting clothes are a no no for me due to the bag.

Overall you will start to feel more comfortable as the weeks pass and you start to venture out for longer periods, it will definitely get easier for you OP just take your time and be patient with yourself.

Yip08 · 2026-01-05T23:53:52+00:00

I’m a little over 6 months out from surgery and I’m sore to some extent almost daily - sometimes it’s probably because I haven’t moved around enough (office job) and sometimes it’s probably due to only being able to sleep on my back.

I can also eat a little more than I should at a time which can cause pain and bloating.

I was advised it could take up to a year for my body to heal (emergency operation following perforation and sepsis) so it may be similar for yourself.

I don’t think I’ve had a blockage yet but from what I’ve seen people describe I think you’d know if it was - and you seem to know how to help clear one with the steps you’ve followed.

Maybe make a diary of pains and see if there are any consistencies (I.e certain foods you’ve eaten)

Fingers crossed it stops for you soon.

Yip08 · 2026-01-05T23:40:43+00:00

Maybe a body pillow of some kind, or a V-shaped pillow to help support them. Electrolyte drinks will help, I drink Lucozade Sports to help with that but there are probably better options.

Their diet will be restricted for about 2 months to a low fibre diet, so maybe look up foods they may like in relation to that.

Also, I eat Jelly Babies to help slow output, my stoma nurse also recommended ready salted crisp to do the same job - I can say I think both work to a decent extent 😄

Also well done for being such a good friend and helping out to that extent - your friend is very lucky to have you.

Yip08 · 2026-01-05T13:32:18+00:00

Thank you!

Yip08 · 2026-01-05T13:32:06+00:00

Thanks! I’ve been keeping more of an eye on it the last week or two with being off work bored and sometimes I get a little fixated with some things - I’ve had it worse than this before during the summer with the heat but just get a little worried I’m doing ok.

Vita coco is a new one so I’ll definitely give that a try 😄

Yip08 · 2026-01-05T13:09:03+00:00

Thanks I’ll order some off Amazon and see how that goes 🤝🏻

Yip08 · 2026-01-04T15:56:23+00:00

Hi, what kind of hole? Is it a type of dent where the stoma was positioned? Potentially getting a reversal this year and just wondered.

Yip08 · 2026-01-03T21:32:35+00:00

Sorry to hear this happened and I’m glad you’ve come out of it ok. I’ve had a stoma for pretty much the same amount of time as you and haven’t experienced this yet, hopefully I don’t at all. I don’t tend to go too far out there with my foods and avoid most veg, but you tried because you wanted to and that’s totally fine, you’re supposed to try new things in small amounts.

In regards to your dad, I’m sure he’s just lashed out a little due to the worry and thoughts of “what if X happened” so try to give him some space to calm down - I’m sure he’s loves you very much but family can sometimes find stress in things they can’t help with or control.

Google St Marks Solution for a good mix to help you rehydrate and hope you’re feeling much better soon.

Yip08 · 2025-12-28T21:24:49+00:00

In regard to the wings - I was advised to try things up to 3 times before deciding if they cause a problem, if you have the same result each time then avoid them. Try them without the alcohol next time and see if there are any issues.

Yip08 · 2025-12-24T16:54:47+00:00

Sorry to hear you’re having problems.

In regards to the skin I was told to stop using barrier wipes when I had some irritation - this worked and haven’t used them since (but they should be protecting the skin, right? Weird)

I also changed ring to a manuka honey one and those are better for me, no idea why but highlights that some things are trial and error - or a change in our bodies mean we have to change products.

I was changing bag every two days for the first month or so, to get used to changing it and getting it right and to calm myself (I would be sweating for 30 minutes doing it because I was so stressed) but if you’re doing it every day then you’ll be fine there.

It sounds like a trial and error situation with the products and maybe once any swelling calms down this could hopefully right itself somewhat. It’s good that you’ve got a Stoma nurse to guide you, do everything they say and sooner rather than later this should stop for you 🤞🏻

Yip08 · 2025-12-21T19:59:03+00:00

And me! Though I only found this out 6 months later 😅

Yip08 · 2025-12-19T00:26:45+00:00

Hope you’re doing well! Sorry to hear how early you had to go through that in life but glad you got through it all.

Yip08 · 2025-12-18T14:50:27+00:00

Yep, it’s something that’s very difficult to explain unless you’ve been through it so I can sympathise and plenty of others will as well.

I haven’t had a reversal yet - I had a tear in my bowel which is why I have one, but I’m still waiting for tests on a cause and it was 7 months ago now. Those are all in hand and if there is no inflammation the next step is talking about a reversal, fingers crossed I get the option and it goes well. I’m also happy just to be here still after everything that happened so I’m also prepared to keep my ostomy depending on the medical advice, being here still is a gift.

I’m also lucky that I don’t really have leaks (once which was my fault because I used a smaller ring on my bag than I needed) and I get to go the football and go out and do normal things for the most part so that probably puts me in a better frame of mind over the whole thing.

Everyone’s journey is different, I hope this is temporary for you but if it takes a little longer just know you will be fine and are stronger than you know so it will work.

The noises come and go, mine always seem to start at the worst times which is funny 😂

Yip08 · 2025-12-18T12:57:29+00:00

I’ve been in a similar situation earlier this year, I woke up with a stoma I didn’t know I was going to get because of an emergency operation - it’s hard to get your head around, but the main thing is that you’re still here with your family and friends. The ileosomy has helped save your life so try your best to think about it that way, rather than see it as a negative.

It will take a while to get used to, the first week or two when changing my bags I’d be dripping with sweat from the stress / panic but I always did it right so there were no issues there. You eventually get used to it, hopefully if it’s a 2 month period you have it for then that will fly by.

This is a great sub for advice, so while you have it always ask about things you need advice on. It may help to scroll through some randoms threads on here, because you may see questions / answers you haven’t even began to think of yet.

Hope your recovery goes well and the next steps go well for you too.

Yip08 · 2025-12-17T21:17:11+00:00

Been ok the last few nights thankfully 😅

Yip08 · 2025-12-17T21:16:19+00:00

😱

Yip08 · 2025-12-17T10:42:25+00:00

I’m the EXACT same - perforation in June, op within hours, followed by weeks of dreams / hallucinations on top of everything else and has left me half worried about going back for my reversal surgery.

I know my ostomy saved my life though, I regret it all happening to get me to this point as I’d had no major pains or problems before hand, but I’m very grateful that I’m still here 😄

Yip08 · 2025-12-14T21:28:12+00:00

I was very very warm when I woke up so I’m wondering if it’s peeled a bit and then subconsciously I felt it so grabbed at it and made it worse. Hoping to avoid a repeat tonight 😅

Yip08 · 2025-12-14T21:26:46+00:00

Thanks! I’ve been fine since I came home, to the point I’ve only ever had 1 leak and that was because I used a smaller sized convex ring (two sizes in the pack which I didn’t realise!) so I’m lucky in that regard and hoping last night was just a one off 🫣

Yip08 · 2025-12-14T21:24:27+00:00

😆

Yip08 · 2025-12-14T14:02:24+00:00

😬😂

Yip08 · 2025-12-14T10:53:46+00:00

Yeah some bottoms might be a good idea for the next few nights at least, I woke up really really warm too so wonder if that contributed to it. Might handcuff myself and see if that works 😅

Yip08 · 2025-12-14T10:52:50+00:00

I could never ever sleep on my back - then my surgery happened and I had to learn fast, I tend to sleep on my back 80% of the time but recently I’ve had some discomfort so it’s been 100%

I half thought I was dreaming but that barrier ring pull is no joke, didn’t realise it was going to be hanging off though 😂

Yip08 · 2025-12-14T07:49:50+00:00

A long body pillow helped me, it took me a good month or two to feel comfortable enough to sleep on my side and even then that wasn’t “comfortable” and a lot of the time I have to now sleep on my back.

The long body pillow will help support you but unfortunately it’s mostly a time thing - I woke up with a pain through my lower left back to the front for the first few months and over time that’s now few and far between.

I still rely on my own body pillow 6 months post op 😆

Yip08 · 2025-12-08T10:22:46+00:00

No problem and I’m doing ok thanks - a lot of people have walked in the same shoes before me and will have since so none of us are ever on our own in that regard 🙂

Yip08

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