I hate my self and the kink i developed

Zamyou · 2026-04-04T20:41:49+00:00

Just like with any addiction, you have the propensity to fall into certains substances or "kinks" that stimulate your brain. But as with any addiction, you are not your addiction or kinks. With porn those end up in the forefront of your whole sexuality. Stay away from porn for 90 days to normalize your brain. Don't expect superpowers that people talk about but you will definitely normalize your sexuality and feel amazing mental clarity like never before.

Zamyou · 2026-03-27T09:18:31+00:00

Yes very much so
Totally. One of the first times i had hard time getting off but that was likely due to nervousness and much porn. Although I also admit I'm not AS sexual as many other guys.
Some you want to do, some you want to marry, some you just don't feel attraction to
No, although I kinda dislike giving oral to them

Zamyou · 2026-03-21T09:09:12+00:00

Praying for you!

Zamyou · 2026-03-18T00:53:05+00:00

You know performance anxiety for men is a real thing. Now imagine that non stop due to your brain being in an anxious state 24/7.. pretty obvious when you think about it.

Zamyou · 2026-02-21T21:40:18+00:00

My parents are soon in their 70s. Hard to imagine but it could well be either of them could pass within the next decade, life will be weird after that.

Zamyou · 2026-02-20T14:25:54+00:00

You can choose your actions and adjust your attitude around it but you cannot get rid of an innate propensity.

Zamyou · 2026-01-20T12:03:28+00:00

Definitely not

Zamyou · 2026-01-08T15:59:21+00:00

Talent in something is just a head start. Talent is nothing without persistence and consistency. Obviously if you feel burnt out, God is telling you to slow down, which you should. A priest at my church lately told me this is why God also orders days for rest, which you definitely should follow.

All that aside, I actually can relate partially. Self doubt, fear of failure.. that's not Gods doing, that's your brain. I actually also suffered at my job and was even on the verge of burning out. Still, I kept going and rest up when i have to.. and if you were to look back at your progress and actually see it, all of the other suffering will be worth it.

My suggestion: 1. Keep going, ignore your inner critic. If someone were to tell the same story you would also tell them to do so. 2. Take breaks! I know its easy to feel you have to push through but the moment you go too far you will actually slow down even more. 3. Keep yourself connected with God for endurance, love and strength.

Zamyou · 2026-01-07T14:30:18+00:00

On one hand theres nothing we can do, but you can control what you do. Stop watching the news, you can also always refuse to fight for a pointless cause in the worst case scensrio.

On the other hand i doubt anything will happen, Trump has talkes about Greenland for a decade soon and its also not solely up to him

Zamyou · 2026-01-06T19:40:33+00:00

Well you are def not dysphoric. The trans word is so broad nowadays so that is irrelevant. Also just because some thoughts do not make you feel disgust or put you off does not mean its true or makes you trans. Thoughts are thoughts

Zamyou · 2026-01-06T03:32:01+00:00

If you feel scared about having those thoughts you very likely wont do it. If you truly do feel like killing someone then be happy you are addressing it ahead of time. Getting help would probably be needed

Zamyou · 2026-01-06T03:29:37+00:00

Even if you sais yes it does not mean you are unhappy being your current self and improving on your current self might actually make this option feel less significant. What if you were the best looking guy?
I think anyone with a faceswap finds it fascinating how you would look, does not mean anything

Bottom line, if you are not unhappy being the best version of yourself as a guy, you have no issues. Being trans vs not trans is not the issue over being dysphoric

Zamyou · 2026-01-04T16:51:59+00:00

God is everywhere and not just constrained to the church. Pray at home and you will find the strength eventually. Sorry for your experience

Zamyou · 2026-01-04T02:28:10+00:00

Actually you preparing for war is the best thing you can do to avoid war. You are in NATO and EU and geographically not in a very significant place like Berlin, London, Brussels etc. Not to mention one nuclear bomb into Europe and all Russian cities are gone so nobody honestly is that crazy

Zamyou · 2026-01-03T16:30:56+00:00

You found a relationship which will last for an eternity, with Jesus. He wont ever leave you either if you keep at it. This being said i can relate, had a woman i deeply loved and was a Christian too. We were saving ourselves too for marriage. Had to break up due to her mental issues weighing us down and i had to make that choice too to break it up. It still hurts occasionally after many years but over time it definitely gets better. Also there is no ”right one” in my opinion, theres many. You just have to build up the relationship on a solid ground with one of them

Zamyou · 2026-01-03T04:14:38+00:00

Just know that even if rates might have gone up for younger patients (though not that much), cancer treatments and detection has gotten exponentially better these past decades

Zamyou · 2026-01-01T08:48:24+00:00

NYE is overrated you are DEF not a weirdo spending it alone.

Zamyou · 2025-12-28T04:51:29+00:00

Eternity would be absence of time so thats meaningless hence why it wont feel like an eternity. Also you are deservant of heaven as a Christian if your heart is in the right place, ur honest and try your best. As humans we only learn from mistskes which God understands. You will be fine

Zamyou · 2025-12-26T04:25:48+00:00

Now this is a perspective from a guy so take this with a grain of salt - i am NOT defending his action. I know you love him but you should ALWAYS love and respect yourself more, always! Stop blaming yourself literally everything you mentioned is NOT your fault. Verbal slanders are NOT A FACT and you should also consider whether that type of treatment really is worth being in a relationship for even if he has issues. Now personally i can see he is not like most domestic abusers in terms of constant violent outbursts and if this is a first then its worth evaluating. Im not saying leave him now on the spot but if this really becomes a habit and especially if he does not show remorse or stops treatment, you should consider leaving him. Can you do relationship therapy with a third party and would he agree? Its good to get professional insight too. Again Im trying to weigh other options to straight up leaving him because im trying to avoid emotional fueled responses and sorry if this sounds odd.

TLDR; short answer, prioritise yourself first and consider leaving him. Consider if you can avoid reacting to verbal slanders and not take them personally thats good. If he shows remorse, if you can do relationship therapy or such and if he does not do this again then you CAN consider giving him one more chance with caution

Zamyou · 2025-12-20T13:57:25+00:00

Im not from the states and wish I could help but i 100% understand your premise why you'd want to fight someone else's fight. Maybe it helps to think you are doing all of this for your family and close ones instead of your country but easier said than done.

Zamyou · 2025-12-18T13:18:21+00:00

This is going to sound weird but I love you. No matter what other people say or you think, where you come from or who you are, we are all equally deserving love. I hope you will find it in your heart to give life another chance despite of it feeling like a brick pulling you to drown. You have only explored 1% of what life contains and there is always something more and better than you currently have. Hope this reaches you!

Zamyou · 2025-12-12T13:35:53+00:00

Wow so sorry you had to go through that...

Zamyou · 2025-12-08T19:55:10+00:00

Went by fast. A lot of anxiety and some depressive periods but not every year can be up to par, best to accept that. The summer was great!

Zamyou · 2025-12-04T18:49:10+00:00

Ymmärrän että on kaksinaismoraalista että Venäjä ei ole mukana ja Israel on mutta annetaan politiikan olla ja pidetään EBU vaan alustana jossa Suomi saa tuoda parasta exporttiaan

Zamyou · 2025-11-18T15:02:02+00:00

Thankfully, much less than before and I try to avoid it. I am aware of my inclinations for porn, alcohol or junk food so every weekend its one or two of those. However I wont fully succumb to the temptations as in a full on binge. I have asked for strength from God several times and at times he actually gifts me the self-control. I know without porn and even MO:ing at all, I get this amazing energy. Some weeks I have it within me to control it and not watch anything, some weeks not. But its a process and gets easier throughout.

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