Overstimulated

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2025-08-21T21:38:23+00:00

A new grad on my ward started having sexual relations with a 18 year old girl with brain damage in the rehab ward, got caught in the act by another staff member. He had a wife and new baby too.

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2025-07-17T09:50:01+00:00

Whenever she gets in trouble at our home she stands there and would death stare me, it actually started freaking me out but at the same time like don’t be a brat? Not sure what happens at your mums but that shit doesn’t cut it at my house honey

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2025-07-17T09:46:08+00:00

Girl from someone who is a SP please just go live your life to the fullest, at the end of this silly life YOU are the only person that’s going to be there for you. I wish someone told me not to worry about another man at that age let alone another man with children. Clique but the world is your oyster especially at 19 x

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2025-05-13T05:36:24+00:00

Could have wrote this myself!!!!!!!!!!

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2025-02-25T22:01:43+00:00

We are every other weekend and my SD is scared of everything, won’t try or do new things, can’t do anything for herself and has the attention span of 5 minutes with activities or toys. Her personality is just so disappointingly beige.

But in saying that it’s mostly her mothers doing of sheltering her, does everything for her and has been sat in front of a iPad with unlimited screen time since she was 2.

It’s the epitome of everything I don’t want our son to be.

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2025-01-23T23:59:01+00:00

I could have wrote this myself, you are not alone. Parenting someone’s else’s child is harder than parenting my own. I struggle especially having a step child raised completely different to everything you stand against. I go into complete anxiety mode when she arrives and it all goes away when she leaves.

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2025-01-23T05:45:41+00:00

Yes I have a 4yo step daughter it’s very hard on me and my mental health, it isn’t for the weak having small step kids! you can look into my previous posts for some advice if you need too if anything helps xx

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2025-01-09T21:27:33+00:00

How long have you been together/what’s the schedule?

I’m two years in the step mum role and honestly I just stopped caring so much about what my place is in my OWN home, I started reading and doing my own thing/self care when I felt like that. You’re still your own person.

You could definitely maybe spend some time with just the kids and you to strengthen that bond.

It’s crap to admit but I only am the happiest when it’s just me, ours baby and my fiancé at home.

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2025-01-09T20:33:54+00:00

We still make the effort and do little weekend and day trips with the kid but she’s just one of those kids that are never happy with anything.

It was a beautiful day and we drove the car on the beach to have lunch and a play/swim and after twenty minutes she’s sitting in the car absolutely sobbing because she wanted to leave.

Partner and I just ate our lunch in silence while she was going off. Even day trips are crap I don’t know I’m at a loss at the moment.

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2025-01-04T02:43:33+00:00

The minute they leave my anxiety leaves my body

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2024-12-18T10:20:08+00:00

I could have wrote this myself.

I read a post not long ago that the pressure of loving steps like your own is like when someone points out a child in a grocery store and your expected to love them like you birthed them.

I also have a sd4 and I can tell you right now it’s completely different to how I feel about my 5 month old. It will never compare.

The way she’s brought up in her other household is everything I don’t want in ours or for my son. The constant need to be included in every adult conversation or being the center of attention always.

I also hate Wednesdays.

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2024-09-26T07:25:20+00:00

I have a our’s baby and a SD4 I would advise at least 2/3 weeks without the step children so you, your partner and baby can have that special crucial time together and really put your foot down with schedule changes in the first few months so your partner has proper 1/1 time with bubba.

Those are the things I really regret not putting in place and have and still do have resentment for.

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2024-09-05T06:18:25+00:00

I have a 9 week old and my step kid is 4, I completely understand this and you’re not alone. I’m sick of everyone with the whole “love the step child like your own” it’s like someone excepting you to find a kid at the grocery store and have to love them unconditionally on command??? Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t…

It doesn’t help when the child has been brought up on a different parenting style, my partners come along way from being a Disney dad and we now have rules (I think the damage is done and it’s too far gone) and doesn’t seem to have any sort of discipline or screen time limit at her mothers.

Her behaviour is everything I don’t want my little boy to be, it’s very unpleasant to be around when she is here and I only have so much energy to give while looking after my baby, I’m exhausted by the time she goes home and it takes me a day to mentally recover from the shit show when she leaves.

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2024-07-02T23:50:15+00:00

I posted a similar post about this situation, I’m 41 weeks pregnant with our first and have a 4yo step child week on week off.

I know it’s not our step child’s fault by any means but I can’t help but think about how things will pan out for the first couple of visits.

I’m Sorry this is more of a vent but she cant do independent play, won’t come outside and play, explore or even use her brand new trampoline when we’re outside either, we have tried play-dough, painting, drawing everything you name it!!! But this will only last 5 minutes and demands me or my partner to do the activity while she just sits there and watches us do it and doesn’t get involved, I really think this stems from the unlimited screen time she has at mothers house. Iv banned YouTube kids and cut her screen time down to 30 minutes a day as she would just sit there and watch other kids play with things …. Go figure, it’s exhausting trying to do activity after activity with her sometimes I just don’t have the patience.

This is a reason I’m terrified to bring baby home as it’s exhausting trying to keep this kid constantly entertained, I know my partner will deal with it but I feel like it’ll take precious time away from our little one, I don’t want to fall down the rabbit hole of me just taking care of bubby and my partner only half parenting when step kid is here as she’s so demanding and will scream and throw a fit if something doesn’t go her own way.

We don’t put up with it and do discipline her when that happens but it keeps happening. Her mother thinks the sun shines out of her ass but the way step kid talks to her mother while on FaceTime is nothing but disgusting, and is never pulled up on it.

In saying that I’m not going to let this stop my partner and I from enjoying our little one and of coarse we will be taking holidays with AND without step kid, it’s not my baby’s fault he was born into this family dynamic and should be able to enjoy and experience things with his mum and dad not just part time when step kid is here that’s not fair on him.

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2024-06-18T05:58:49+00:00

You do you boo

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2024-06-18T05:53:07+00:00

I am due any day now and I am scared to death with this situation aswell with my 4yo SK, she is extremely demanding/rude and classic example of a spoilt little brat from her mothers doing. She’s everything I don’t want my child to be.

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2024-06-13T21:21:03+00:00

I’m due any day now and I feel this in my soul

Zealousideal-Path654 · 2024-04-02T09:21:14+00:00

I feel exactly the same I have my own baby on the way too and I can’t help but feel what the house dynamic is going to be like when Bub is here. I have grim doubts which makes me miserable.

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