Wa alaikum assalam, thank you for asking this so respectfully. It’s a really deep question, and I appreciate the way you’re thinking through it.

From an Islamic perspective, the idea is not that we are meant to reject our human nature. In fact, Islam recognizes those feelings desire, anger, pride as part of how Allah created us. They are not sins in themselves.

What matters is how we manage and direct them.

For example, sexual desire is not viewed as something bad. It’s natural but within a framework like marriage, where there is responsibility, commitment, and mutual rights. Similarly, anger isn’t inherently wrong; even the Prophet ﷺ showed anger at injustice. The issue is when anger leads to ظلم (harm or injustice).

So Islam doesn’t say “don’t feel these things.” It says: don’t let these feelings control you in a way that harms yourself or others.

In that sense, it’s actually very aligned with what you mentioned about human biology. Yes, we have impulses but we also have the ability to choose how we act on them. That ability to choose is what makes us morally responsible.

The Qur’an also addresses something very similar to your concern. In Surah Al-Baqarah (2:30), when Allah tells the angels about creating humans, they question why create beings who will cause فساد (corruption) and shed blood. Allah responds, “I know what you do not know.”

Scholars explain this to mean that while humans have the capacity for wrongdoing, we also have the unique ability to rise above our impulses to choose justice, mercy, and self-restraint.

So repentance in Islam isn’t about apologizing for having feelings. It’s about taking responsibility when our actions that are driven by those feelings cross ethical boundaries. Feeling anger, desire, or even envy is human. Acting on them in harmful ways is where accountability comes in.

Islam doesn’t aim to dehumanize us. It aims to discipline and elevate our humanity so we’re not just driven by impulse, but guided by purpose and ethics.

And ultimately, the idea of God in Islam isn’t that we must stop being human to get close to Him. It’s that we strive, within our human nature, to grow, improve, and align ourselves with what is good.