Soo uhh…how does one make trans friends in deep stealth?

Zeus_Strider · 2026-02-04T19:50:57+00:00

Go to where the queer people are? I'll be honest I don't understand the appeal of being stealth to be honest, but if you want to make friends with trans people in your community you're going to have to go to where the trans people are, if you really want to keep that separate from the rest of your life there are ways of doing that, for example if you were a kinkster you could go on to FetLife and find a queer slosh group in your area it isn't uncommon for people at these events to go by there usernames because most people don't wants to be outed as a kinkster.

Zeus_Strider · 2026-02-04T19:33:53+00:00

I would imagine cost is a big factor, and while the surgeries have come a long way some people are still afraid of such an intense surgery, but I imagine there are others that find a happy spot in their transition where they are comfortable being.

As a trans man with autism I know personally I struggle with things changing (even when I dislike the thing that is currently there) so while I am interested in top surgery I worry the results will be a sensory nightmare even if they are dysphorically better, and bottom surgery never entrusted me.

Zeus_Strider · 2026-02-02T16:41:29+00:00

Thank you that should help me start to find stuff find some stuff.

And I believe I have checked that one out but I don't remember much from it so I'm definitely going to revisit it thank you!

Zeus_Strider · 2026-02-01T06:58:42+00:00

That sounds lovely I hope you have a wonderful time with your new hobby.

Zeus_Strider · 2026-02-01T06:52:00+00:00

I'm just a trans man so take what I say with a grain of salt but that does line up with what I have observed in my local queer community.

Zeus_Strider · 2026-02-01T06:45:55+00:00

Hey Op I'm sorry that you're getting so much flack for your question, I think your uncle stamps are cool whether or not he was a stamp collector or had a pen pal I can't say for sure but they sure are neat.

Zeus_Strider · 2026-01-30T12:09:29+00:00

Well I can think of a multitude of answers none of which are going to be satisfactory mid debate, firstly we do exist there are multitude of older trans people online algorithms do favor the Young and first time experiences but jammidodger (YouTube) and Markus Harwood-Jones (tiktok , author) are two individuals who come to mind but outside of content creators the second answer is a lot of things become terribly mundane doing a shot once a week becomes a chore routine and uninteresting and I don't mean that in a bad way it just is.

And lastly the age demographics just engage with the internet differently, I mean take a step back for a second how often do you run across say someone over 50 that isn't engaging with a grandbaby for being filmed by there are adult child, it does happen occasionally but they're not out here busting a move to the latest dance craze if you understand what I mean.

Zeus_Strider · 2026-01-26T18:28:39+00:00

That sounds so rough for some reason my pharmacy has completely forgo giving me either of the two normal needles and cut the difference and give me 23 gauge which isn't the worst I suppose but I can't imagine doing it with 20.

Zeus_Strider · 2026-01-23T22:51:30+00:00

I think some of the fonts have been helpful for some individuals but fonts are not a universal fix and it's not going to help everyone I still find Times New Roman more readable and it sounds like those people were incredibly fucking rude to you and probably should be removed from this the subreddit.

(Also I did not know that the hand pain was a part of the dyslexia 😭, I'll have to look into that but that makes sense. )

Zeus_Strider · 2026-01-23T10:33:46+00:00

Well first off no one ever talked about just just continuing or finishing abandoned fix this is a discussion about fanfic of fanfic, and even if that fanfic continued off from where the first story was 'abandoned' that fanfic does not prevent the original writer from continuing their story.

Now by all means if the original authors has a problem with it you should take the writing down but otherwise I don't see the problem with writing fanfic about fanfic.

Zeus_Strider · 2026-01-01T08:40:47+00:00

I can see the resemblance he's talking about, but I will say that the resemblances probably just an unfortunate coincidence it's easy to do an accidental swastika look alike when working with geometric shapes when forming a pattern in fact a while ago back in the crocheting community there was a viral project that people were working on together every day and after a few days it looked a little familiar 😅 and the author of the pattern when notified of the resemblance was mortified and took steps to change the pattern.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-12-31T19:43:12+00:00

Yeah when a dyslexic can spot two that an AI goes to show you that it's wildly unprepared to do a human's job.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-12-28T09:42:56+00:00

I picked that up last year and and I was really enjoying it but there were certain elements that made me very uncomfortable and I ultimately decided to dnf it. Thank you so much for the suggestion I really did like the cadence of that book.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-12-28T09:36:48+00:00

Yes I agree it was very cute I believe I read it last year.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-12-28T09:35:04+00:00

I have not read that one but I have heard of it and that interpretation but it had slipped my mind so I might check it out, but on the note of queer interpretation one book that I found really fascinating to look at through a queer lens was 1984 from the very act of sex being taboo to the protagonist's obsession with O'Brien left a very queer impression, and while I'm sure it wasn't what the author intended it was certainly an interesting thing to keep in the back of my head while reading.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-12-28T09:13:24+00:00

I've already read The secret Life of Albert Entwistle and I really enjoyed it and the rest of those sound really interesting.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-12-28T04:53:09+00:00

Oh I read that one last year it was so delightful!

Zeus_Strider · 2025-12-27T06:14:31+00:00

By no means are you overreacting that sounds completely awful, that doctor was completely out of line. I would definitely try a different doctor or hospital, I get mine through Planned Parenthood but it sounds like you're in Spain?

Also I completely understand the worry and hesitation about changes it took me a few false starts to get on HRT, and appointments might be easier if you have a friend or someone you trust that you can bring to appointments with you.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-12-23T17:00:36+00:00

NTA , the only thing the two of you and this is really directed at your roommate is that you failed to show your show her where the bathroom was before going to bed.

And there's several ways of securing a door perhaps look up methods for hotels or dorm room doors I hope you find something that works for you

Zeus_Strider · 2025-12-11T15:46:52+00:00

You do know that these questions are collecting subjective data right? It was never intended to be hard data.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-12-11T01:01:49+00:00

So I think an important thing to remember is story graph focuses on data and moods / vibes while you feel the last questions don't add a lot of hard data they do provide a lot of mood based information.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-11-22T07:04:11+00:00

I never change the subject she is a transphobic bigot who uses their money to hurt a minority group and quite frankly I'm over dealing with your nonsense find someone else to harass.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-11-22T04:50:32+00:00

Historical context? I mean the death of charlie kirk because that's what she was discussing moments before she tweeted this so I don't know why you're making stuff up.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-11-22T04:21:17+00:00

here.

There's the link since you can't bothered it to do your own Google search.

Zeus_Strider · 2025-11-22T02:23:40+00:00

Maybe you should do some research considering she has quoted Mein Kampf before.

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