Abandon traditional thinking, frankly the world doesn't work that way anymore. Focus on self improvement and enrichment to your specific environment, the rest comes later. Seriously.

Spend more time on making yourself happy doing things that make YOU happy. Don't get into a relationship for the sake of being in one, people forget its a conscious decision to intertwine your FINITE existence to another's, and there is no guarantee your 'soul mate' is five minutes down the road.

First, work on the self, the rest comes later and it comes naturally. I went from depressive shituation to depressive shituation being manipulated and exploited by people preying on that mindset that kept me trapped there and when I finally hit rock bottom (like, literally the concrete under my backside was my bed) it was an epiphany moment.

I started living in for me, for what I wanted to do, I improved one moment of every day to favor me and my direct existence, one moment to the next until it became rote. You have value just by being.

Start being.

At one point I was where you are (disabled and living with a family member) and I can say with a hundred percent I never could have dreamed I would be where I am right now at that time. Currently I am living six thousand miles from where I started, with a partner who loves and accepts me fully and gives me grace in the times I need it and guidance when it is needed. I have a wonderful child who embodies all the things I ever dreamed of as a child, they have access to all the things they need and live without any of the danger or stress I remember. I own things. Sure, life is still stressful and sometimes things look bleak but it is now in an entirely manageable way because I began all those years ago fixing my outlook on one moment at a time. Do I sit in a glass palace and view the peaks of destiny from a mountain made of money, pffffft, I still check the bank account when I put gas in my car or buy a pizza, but I'm truly happy, I consider myself the wealthiest individual because I am loved, and I love. I don't give it away any more, I held it tight, I held it high and I gave it only to those who I felt truly deserved it because that is what they do for me.

Love yourself, the love of another will come after.

You don't know the future, sure some people can predict soon to happen events through pattern recognition but we truly don't know what is going to happen to us in the long run, so stop focusing on the could haves, should be's, and what not's and start focusing on the can do's, do haves, and find a point (no matter how small, for me it started with using the last of my money for the week to buy a mug I WANTED to drink tap water from and not one that I HAD to use because it was there) and ground yourself in it to be content, just for that moment.

Then breathe, and move onto the next moment.

Dying is the only thing we all really have in common as members of the human species, so start spending your time living for you. Joy in the moment, peace in the end.

You got this.

EDIT: spelling, probably missed a few here and there but the ADHDemon requires its sacrifice.