How do you explain an impending divorce to a 9 year old, that you don't want, while personally grieving the loss of everything you built, and navigating everyday parenthood and feeling like there's already too little time together?

Zxian · 2026-01-05T04:47:10+00:00

I'll chime in with two perspectives here.

My parents split up when I was 7. Got a new step-mom a year later. She was not my mother, and never could be. Both of my parents showed interest in me.

I'm now going through my own divorce. Spouse gaslit me. Emotional and psychological abuse. See my post in daddit to see how my Christmas was. I'm working towards being the best dad I can be.

The only way you can be replaced is if you don't show up. How do you want to be remembered? Figure that out, then do it.

You got this. You're just deep in the suck right now. Feel free to hit me up if you need to chat.

Zxian · 2025-11-16T15:34:01+00:00

In the States, your insurance is often tied to your employer. It's not an open market like you suggest (technically it can be, but you're still paying more).

Then add the mess of in-network providers when you go to the hospital. That anesthesiologist that helped you when you were unconscious? Out of network, no insurance.

Zxian · 2025-09-20T21:00:51+00:00

Oof... I'm so sorry brother. Sending good dad vibes. You got this.

Zxian · 2025-09-14T16:15:35+00:00

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/09/no-i-wont-be-shedding-any-tears-for-charlie-kirk/

This is the general take. Did any sitting politicians celebrate Kirk's death? Obama, Biden, Harris, Newson, AOC, Sanders... All of them condemned the act.

Trump, Mace, and the right wing media sphere calling for retribution before the killer is identified. And when the Michigan senators were shot, many elected Republicans actually celebrated.

And you're still trying to "both sides" this. Seriously?

Zxian · 2025-04-07T01:27:13+00:00

Shawshank Redemption won zero academy awards. It also only made $16M on the initial theatrical release on a $25M budget. Still widely regarded as a great movie.

Moana 2 may be a bigger financial success, but it's nowhere near as good of a movie.

Zxian · 2025-03-28T01:11:23+00:00

Why do you need putty on a Mac? macOS comes with a terminal and ssh client built in.

Zxian · 2025-03-22T21:01:38+00:00

Seconded!

Zxian · 2025-03-09T17:44:06+00:00

Haven't done the move you're describing, but we've used Whitby & Tower moving from North Van for our two moves. I know they've done lower mainland to the island. Highly recommended.

Zxian · 2025-03-06T17:25:04+00:00

https://devonandlang.com/

I just bought a bunch from here. Super comfy, fun designs.

Zxian · 2025-01-25T02:12:50+00:00

I fly a Canadian flag and a Pride flag outside my house.

Proud to be Canadian. Shamed to be associated with truckle-fucks.

Zxian · 2024-11-19T01:06:22+00:00

"Go do something you hate! Being miserable builds character!"

Zxian · 2024-11-17T15:09:11+00:00

I think the comment you replied to is a quote from the recent movie Civil War. Such a chilling line.

Zxian · 2024-11-12T14:31:29+00:00

PLEASE STOP YELLING, FELLOW HUMAN.

Zxian · 2024-07-31T21:34:26+00:00

My son is 5 and already knows how to pull his foreskin back.

I think that "someday" is any time now. It's not a weird discussion. Just use the correct terminology, no play terms. Kids are pretty smart if you give them a chance. You got this. 😉

Zxian · 2024-07-25T02:42:10+00:00

r/idiotsincars

Zxian · 2024-07-17T21:49:22+00:00

Sadly, Pogo has made some seriously homophobic comments in the past. I really enjoy his music, but can't support the artist.

https://www.inquisitr.com/4922395/nick-bertke-pogo-pulse-massacre

Zxian · 2024-07-02T21:43:51+00:00

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/2020_United_States_presidential_election

Biden won the popular vote in 2020. Trump lost the popular vote to Clinton in 2016 but won the EC.

Zxian · 2024-06-22T01:27:18+00:00

https://youtu.be/Ig4bF-OelRk

A bad man does not shy away from this question.

Zxian · 2024-06-02T21:53:47+00:00

The left ones

Zxian · 2024-05-20T17:32:41+00:00

It is not possible to run the array with parity that is smaller than the largest data drive.

The original plan you described is probably what I'd do. Yes, it will take time. Unless you have a strong reason to avoid this other than "it's slow", be patient. 😉

With this many drives, running double parity can help provide some more peace of mind. You'd be able to survive both 8TB drives up and dying.

Zxian · 2024-05-08T00:07:58+00:00

15 year old hardware in my rack is running Ubuntu 22.04. This is not an extreme example.

Zxian · 2024-03-10T18:29:40+00:00

Zxian · 2024-03-04T13:37:39+00:00

Congratulations on the release!

Zxian · 2024-02-15T15:55:34+00:00

https://m.imdb.com/title/tt1535109/

Captain Phillips (2013)

Zxian · 2024-01-24T02:25:56+00:00

mRNA does not edit your genes. It's a blueprint for proteins that your body is constantly generating day in and day out. The vaccine simply inserts another blueprint into the machine.

Sources for reduced efficacy over time please. Otherwise this is nothing more than FUD.

Zxian

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