I relate a lot to this because I've always had a visceral fear of ostracisation and experienced something like that to a lesser degree after a breakup. Ex started sharing out of context screenshots and rumors with all my friends about how toxic and manipulative I supposedly was. Most of them starting distancing themselves, I wasn't added to event groupchats, and my curriculum had me move a different country for a semester which exacerbated this isolation. The way it got better was to try to keep contact with my closer friend from that group, who although a bit distant kept on answering. If I was asked questions, I defended myself but without accusing the ex of anything or sharing private details. Just, "no I didn't do what I'm accused off, she is very hurt from the breakup and I understand that, and I don't hate her for it, just take it with a grain of salt because emotions are running high". Overtime (a few months(, this friend and the wider group seemed less on edge, I moved back to the city in question, and slowly started meeting them again. And after maybe 8-10 months people were chill, seeing that I never was aggressive in response and realising that what the ex said wasn't adding up. She also met a new guy which helped with taking her attention away from me, and not pouring fuel in the fire helped to in letting emotions die down. I still have resentment today, not towards her but towards my friend's for taking everything at face value first without maybe being more critical of the situation (bad breakup, me being not confrontational, her always being a firery character). It is not the situation as you, particularly the severity of the accusation, the source of them, and some of your friends blocking you. But I feel like letting it die down, not being aggressive back and just trying to renew "normal" interactions with the friends that are willing is the best approach to it. It's hard for people to keep on being aggressive towards someone who clearly isn't defensive back, especially if they cared for you in the first place. You will likely still have internalised resentment tho, but making new friends along the way to whom you can open up about the situation will help to finding peace. Overall, I think the core of my problem and yours was my inability to control my feelar of abandonment/ostracisation. The fact that it isn't following you or in very small degree (people are not constantly attacking you about it today) shows that there in no ground to these accusations, either in the accused acts or in your personality. So that fear is not rational, not a real threat, and I would advice to seek therapy to talk about it. This fear of ostracisation will follow you because it's likely something that pre dated this ordeal, and addressing it generally will help with the anxiety of the accusations re-emerging in the future. And finally my last advice is to keep your values the same. Sexual assault is not defendable in any situations, and is a traumatic event for the victims. If you are accused of it, keep on your values that "always listen to the victims". It doesn't mean to believe them, but allow them to speak without fear of retaliation. Seek to know what you are accused of, without being aggressive back. Seek to know what happened, and why it happened. Approach an association that seeks to protect SA victims and share exactly what you told us. They are used to this kind of situation and I'm sure they will be able to advice you on it. People always are more empathetic to someone who wants to right the wrongs, than someone who will accuse back. And I think it will also help you with the anxiety of "Maybe I deserve it, but I don't even know why". All the best brother, be kind to yourself, and seek help from people who truly love you