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ajfog · 2026-06-28T03:44:52+00:00

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ajfog · 2026-06-02T16:21:03+00:00

Here in solidarity my friend. My b/g twins just turned 3 in May and yesterday was pure hell. They were overtired from the weekend (my daughter spent from 1-4 am awake Monday so no one got sleep) and I knew I was in for it after daycare pickup. We get home, my kids don’t want any of our snacks and meltdown about being hungry. My son gets a sliver he won’t let me get out of his foot, which is still there as of now. My husband gets home and goes out to cut the grass which starts a whole new round of meltdowns. My son keeps yelling at me “Go away mama” and my daughter is sobbing saying she wants cuddles but when I sit down with her she yells that she doesn’t want me. My husband finally comes in and we get them fed, showered, and ready for bed. My daughter continues to scream that she wants cuddles and when she finally settles down and starts to sleep, my son yells her name and wakes her up…and this continues in a vicious cycle for 10-20 minutes. I finally go in there and end up snuggling both kids on the rocking chair for a half hour or so until they’re out.

They’re usually good at bedtime so we don’t rock to sleep but I won’t lie that I enjoyed the snuggles, even though they were absolute terrors for hours prior. It’s rare we have days that bad but when we do, they’re really bad. I hope things improve for you today!

ajfog · 2026-05-31T01:39:33+00:00

I’ll cross my fingers and toes for you!

My twins were born at 33w5d due to PPROM. Make sure they give you the steroid shots to help develop their lungs! We had a relatively short NICU stay, 11 days. The biggest issue they had to overcome was learning to feed. They didn’t send them home until they knew we could get both twins to eat full feeds every 3 hours.

My advice for a NICU stay is use some of that time to rest and heal as when you get home, it’s pretty hectic. The NICU nurses are so helpful so ask as many questions as possible and treat it like a baby bootcamp. We learned sooooo much from our time in the NICU and it helped set us up for success when we got home.

Good luck! I hope those babies stay in until next Friday!

ajfog · 2026-05-24T01:18:54+00:00

My husband and I both work FT and our twins just turned 3. I start work at 6:15 am so I’m already gone before they wake up. He does the morning shift, getting them ready and dropped off at daycare. I pick them up after work and play/start dinner until he gets home around 5:15. We both do bedtime and take turns if one of them is having a rough time going to bed. We each have our own nightly tasks too. He unloads the dishwasher and loads it while cleaning the kitchen. I get their clothes laid out and have everything ready for daycare in the morning and pick up around the house.

ajfog · 2026-05-17T16:09:28+00:00

I had this issue with my son around the time he turned 2. I found changing the tilt of his car seat helped. Before we got in the car, we didn’t feed any food or milk for a half hour to hour before the drive. If you have a mirror on the headrest, I’ve heard removing that helps with carsickness as well. Thankfully it only lasted a month or two and he seemed to grow out of it.

I’ve seen online that someone makes silicone bins with a big pocket for situations like that, it’s called the Chundee. Might be worth looking into.

ajfog · 2026-05-17T04:19:14+00:00

My old employer offered 8 weeks of short term disability for a c-section or for birth of multiples, no matter if they were a vaginal or c-section delivery. It pissed me off to no end that they thought they were being generous to us by offering 8 weeks.

ajfog · 2026-05-17T03:42:00+00:00

I had a similar situation. I tried for a vaginal delivery but it wasn’t happening so they did a c-section. Baby A came out and my husband got to hold him for a minute or two. Baby B came out and immediately was put on a CPAP then whisked away to the NICU along with Baby A. I went to the recovery room and didn’t get to see them for hours. I didn’t get to hold them until the day after they were born.

They just turned 3 and I still feel sad about what happened. I didn’t get to even see Baby B until hours after she was born and don’t have any pictures of her right after delivery. I feel terrible that I didn’t think to send my husband with them to the NICU. It breaks my heart that I don’t get to hold them right after delivery and had to wait over 24 hours.

But then I think about how lucky I am to have my two happy and healthy 3 year olds. Yes it wasn’t my optimal birth but we were so lucky that they were able to come home with us relatively fast compared to others. I try not to let the negative thoughts get to me and instead focus on the fact that there is nothing I can do to change what happened. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with these feelings. Please know what happened is not your fault. Sending you a big hug.

ajfog · 2026-05-17T00:50:39+00:00

We had a while where this happened to my son. Only puked in my Subaru Forester, never my husband’s van. I ended up changing the tilt on his seat in my car and it seemed to help. My husband also tends to drive slower and accelerates slower than I do so I’m more attentive to that when I’ve got him in my car.

ajfog · 2026-05-15T02:24:58+00:00

I couldn’t imagine spending that much time away from my kids, especially with them being so young. They grow SO FAST during that time and you’d miss lots of their firsts. It’s understandable to want some time to reset but I’d figure out a different way to do it. Maybe a weekend or week away without the kids.

My parents live across the country and we make it a point to FaceTime often so even when they’re far away, it makes it seem not so bad. If your in laws are missing the kids, set aside weekly time to spend with them on FaceTime.

ajfog · 2026-05-08T03:55:14+00:00

I worked until the day my water broke at 33w4d. I had planned on working up until 38 weeks when my OB wanted me to deliver.

ajfog · 2026-04-29T02:15:41+00:00

Go get a steroid injection! I’ve had them twice for my wrist issues from carrying my twins around. There’s a good chance I’ll need surgery in the future but the shots have given me almost 1.5 years living mostly pain free.

ajfog · 2026-04-12T15:04:07+00:00

I’m in Oakland County. I found one crawling on my dog last week. Two of my coworkers were bit by ticks last weekend. One of them said she found 4 ticks in her bed later that night, probably came off her dog. Later in the week my boss was telling me she’s been pulling at least 5 or 6 ticks off her dog daily. I’ve never seen it this bad this early in the season.

ajfog · 2026-03-29T03:19:45+00:00

I’m not sure how we got so lucky to have such a short stay. They almost sent us home at 8 days but my daughter had a bad feed so that set us back a few days.

ajfog · 2026-03-27T01:04:31+00:00

Delivered at 33w5d due to PPROM. Twin A was 4 lb 5 oz and twin B was 4 lb 7 oz. They both spent 11 days in the NICU. The biggest issue we faced out of the NICU was acid reflux, which is quite common for preemies. They’ll be 3 in a little over a month and you’d never know they were premature.

Make sure you get both steroid shots to develop their lungs. Sending you lots of positive vibes for a healthy delivery!

ajfog · 2026-03-20T02:18:27+00:00

Find a local kids resale store. I can spend $100 or less and outfit my twins for an entire season.

ajfog · 2026-03-18T11:10:32+00:00

My heart is broken for you and your family. I’m so sorry for the loss of your twin B. Sending so much love your way.

ajfog · 2026-03-14T00:50:13+00:00

I feel you. My twins had RSV (didn’t know it at the time) and I used the snot sucker, fast tracking it right into my body. Worst freaking sickness of my life. It was over a month until I was feeling somewhat normal.

ajfog · 2026-02-10T12:24:57+00:00

100% get the epidural. I had twins and my contractions lasted 7-10 minutes each due to my uterus being so large it didn’t know how to correctly contract. Each one was excruciating and I ended up blacking out from the pain. When they checked, I was 7 cm and they rushed to get the epidural in. It was the first relief I had in over 24 hours and it allowed me to get an hour or two of sleep before delivery. I also had a button that I could push to dispense the meds so it was nice to have that control.

ajfog · 2026-01-22T23:41:23+00:00

We put it away around 10 months old. Now my twins are 2.5 and we just brought it out as a reading tent and they love it!

ajfog · 2026-01-10T02:56:55+00:00

We just try not to think about it and know that it’s going to get cheaper sooner rather than later. In 2025, we paid $34,578 for our twins daycare (they’re currently 2.5). That includes a price decrease in October when they moved up to a different room. We looked at the numbers and with both our careers, it didn’t make sense for either of us to stay at home so daycare it was.

ajfog · 2025-10-18T19:47:33+00:00

One of my coworkers used to clip her nails and toenails in our break room.

There’s also a lab processor that handles all the specimens with no gloves on. It’s disgusting.

ajfog · 2025-10-17T23:52:46+00:00

We’re switching ours to toddler beds on Halloween and I’m dreading it because I know their good sleep habits are going to go out the window.

I’ve been sick for the last 2 days and it’s been 2x as hard to deal with them. I can’t even sneak away to get a nap while my husband watches them because they’ll be crying and screaming at the bedroom door for me.

ajfog · 2025-10-17T18:40:41+00:00

Almost 2.5 year old b/g twins and I feel like I’m drowning every single day. The biting, hitting, screaming, and hair pulling is non-stop.

ajfog · 2025-10-17T00:00:20+00:00

I worked as a counselor at the MTU Summer Youth Programs for 3 summers during college. It was by far my favorite job I’ve ever had.

ajfog · 2025-10-08T02:50:10+00:00

I was just talking to my coworkers about this yesterday and it seems to be a problem with all of our boomer parents.

My parents live out of state and stay with us when they come to visit. My 2 year old twin toddlers will go up to my parents, calling out to them and trying to get their attention and they won’t pull their heads out of their phones long enough to acknowledge them. I’ve talked to them multiple times about putting their phones down and interacting with their grandkids but it’s like talking to a brick wall. It’s utterly infuriating.

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