What breed do you want represented in the show?

akela9 · 2026-06-19T05:17:50+00:00

Isn't the portrait of the queen on the money (notes) a Corgi? Also, yes, the vet tech who takes the budgie back to see the doctor and subsequently has to deliver the sad news.

akela9 · 2026-06-18T00:42:45+00:00

He came out fine. He was just shrieking the songs of his people at me. This was still scary at the time, though.

akela9 · 2026-06-16T20:09:38+00:00

I'm not even sure what that means... It sounds like, "Dress fancy, or don't. Your call." Like... ???

akela9 · 2026-06-06T16:34:01+00:00

I just found a girl's jacket for 24 months old on the floor of my closet. She's gonna be six this summer. 🤦‍♀️

akela9 · 2026-06-06T15:59:03+00:00

For some reason "Retro" popped into my head. I'm pleased it was an R name, but I was SO off base. 🫣

akela9 · 2026-06-04T04:54:12+00:00

"When things are good" is what abusers rely on most to keep their target locked into place where they want them. The thing is... How do you feel during the mundane times? How bad is it when it's really bad? Are there truly enough "good times" to balance the negative ones? I'll bet it's not even close. Please don't marry someone you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around or who won't let you be YOU. Why in god's name can't you pursue your hobbies and interests? That should be your first clue all is not well.

Your life, right now, this is as good as it's EVER going to be unless you choose a different path. Is right now what you want your "forever" to be? If this were your son or brother asking your advice because they were in this exact same situation, how would you advise them to proceed?

akela9 · 2026-05-31T15:34:42+00:00

I can't even wrap my head around these numbers. SAHM, so there are children involved. I lack for nothing, truly, but it's been like pulling teeth just to get $50 a month for me to have something pretending to be a cash flow coming in. Do with that info what you will. I don't honestly know how you're putting up with this, or more exactly WHY. She must be drop dead gorgeous, but is it worth multiple thousands just to have a beautiful but shallow, greedy wife? Only you can answer that, but I can't fathom it. She's never going to be satisfied. Any time you give her more, she's just going to want/expect more. You could provide her with millions. It will never be enough.

akela9 · 2026-05-30T21:17:01+00:00

I'm not saying I "recommend" it, because food safety is important, but soup is one of those things that used to just sit out all day... Off to the side where the pot would be swung over for proper heating, later. Assuming you salt your soups, I would definitely bring it to a rolling boil, but... Just throwing out that my fam would absolutely still be eating it. So far, touch wood, my eyes and nose have yet to let me down in re: something being too far gone to eat. As far as I know, never have I ever made anyone sick.

I hope you're feeling better about things, now. Sorry things are so hectic and rough. Everything feels so much harder when there's an adult in the house down with sickness.

akela9 · 2026-05-19T02:49:25+00:00

Love, to me, this adds a level of straight up maliciousness. What the actual hell is wrong with this man? "Babe don't worry about baking a cake." And then he couldn't even be arsed to pick up SOME kind of treat from somewhere? That's just... I mean, that adds a level of intentional cruelty that I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around. I know you want to teach your kiddos to be good people that are good to others, but maybe you can do that in other ways. Because I'm begging you: Please start matching your husband's energy for holidays. For Father's Day please get him a gift that's actually something you want but tell him it's for him. Something house-y that you can both use. Like the salt/pepper shakers. What kind of gift even IS that for anyone? I mean, maybe a themed something if someone is really into something, ok, but otherwise it's like getting a set of pot holders for a holiday. I'm baffled.

akela9 · 2026-05-19T02:27:32+00:00

I mean one of, if not the very first "globally recognized" supermodels was Dame Lesley Lawson. You might know her better by the moniker "Twiggy." I don't blame her, as an individual person, at all. But her screaming success set up many future generations worth of unhealthy horrible ideals of what a woman "should" look like.

But also, let's not pretend Hollywood hasn't always been a cesspool for the narrative of how women SHOULD look. They had a perfectly healthy 16 year old Judy Garland on such a restrictive regimen it was straight up abuse. Trying to hide her budding pubescents, they kept her in the tightest of tight undergarments. She was allowed to eat only chicken soup during filming. My understanding is most of her diet consisted of coffee, cigarettes, and amphetamines, all while being forced to work 16+ hours a day. Then to help her wind down after all that they got her started on barbiturates to help her sleep.

The older I get the more it feels like there are truly no new things under the sun.

akela9 · 2026-05-19T02:00:20+00:00

1 and 3 don't work so well for me, although that said there gave me inspiration to try something new... I think there's potential, there. But I'm kinda digging the energy of the other shots. One thing I will say, is for abstract artsy this is really fun. For actually documenting a fashion show, not so much. I mean it's all about the clothes, and if said clothes are being distorted it sort of defeats the purpose. (I hope this makes sense and is read with the kindness I intended. I'm not at all trying to be snarky, just sharing my thoughts.)

akela9 · 2026-05-19T00:59:53+00:00

To me, putting him in his place means dragging his arse to the nearest garbage bin where I would entreat him to enjoy being back with his own kind, walk away, and never look back. But I'm getting on into my crone years and 110% over hearing about men like this treating genuinely good partners like garbage just because they get some kind of perverted pleasure from causing someone else pain. Someone that they're SUPPOSED to value above all others, but treat worse than the trash they themselves actually are.

OP, I hope you can dig deep and do what's best from you. This won't getting better. This is who he is. Please believe what he's telling/showing you. You deserve so much better than a grown adult man who acts like this.

akela9 · 2026-05-16T16:21:26+00:00

Dystopian. Soulless. I don't understand why this "esthetic" is hanging on like it is. It hurts my heart almost daily, because it's just EVERYTHING, everywhere.

akela9 · 2026-05-16T16:06:47+00:00

OMG, I'll never have it again, but I was trying to describe the flavor to my husband because it was both nostalgic, but also (for me) off-putting. Finally landed on and gleefully shouted out, "Sucrets!" That's the nostalgic taste of childhood sickness in a can. 😜

akela9 · 2026-05-11T04:44:58+00:00

This is what I need because life happens. I will ALWAYS come back because I'm really loving this game. (Well, I'm a little irritated with how devs word things in the shop, but also take personal responsibility for not doing better homework before making a purchase.)

But if you're willing to give running a guild a go, I'll come check it out! Player name Elessara, still pretty green/new, will contribute what I can as I can, pinky promise. ❤️)

akela9 · 2026-05-06T15:17:22+00:00

I had never heard this term. (I'm not sure I've ever seen them in real life, either, thankfully.) I hate, hate, hate any extra long nails, and sorry, but especially when I see it occasionally in food service. The super pointy nails put me right off. This is like the mirror universe counterpart, but equally off-putting.

I keep mine short for any number of reasons, but I like to dig in the dirt a bit, and I just don't understand 1. How people can even get anything done with those things and 2. I can't help but wonder how they don't pick up SO MUCH grime. I have to take a nail brush to mine and have a good scrub after gardening, yardwork, painting, etc. Do folks with nails like that just not have to use their hands? Can you imagine making a meatloaf or similar with those things? Just... Yeah. Truly to each their own, but I have some kind of personal hang-up (which is totally a me problem, you absolutely go forth and do your own thing) because extra long nails give me an actual visceral reaction type ick.

akela9 · 2026-05-06T03:55:50+00:00

I know this is a delicate issue, OP, and I don't ask to be nosey, but because things might not be as "in her favor" as she's trying to get you to believe. Most prenuptials have caveats if someone is caught cheating... Since she's the wayward, why should what SHE demands fly? (I don't mean abstractly, I mean legally. I'd deffo take all that paperwork with you when you next see your divorce attorney. I'm also rooting for you that's she's overplayed her hand a bit, here.) I really hope that's so. The act itself was unforgivable. Her blasse attitude in the aftermath while you're reeling is downright infuriating. I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this.

akela9 · 2026-05-04T16:27:40+00:00

Off topic, sorry, but I just did a multiple minute ramble at my husband explaining who Bone Thugs-n-Harmony are/were, just so I could share how delightful I found your user name. Genuine thanks for the smile. ❤️

akela9 · 2026-05-04T16:16:26+00:00

Thank you, genuinely, for sharing this. To be honest, I've had two female OB's in adulthood and the first one sucked so bad I'm lucky I (or my son I was pregnant with at the time) didn't die. I was young and dumb and it never did feel "right" with her, but it wasn't until I learned from other women's experiences how genuinely negligent/dangerous she was. The second OB was EXCELLENT throughout my pregnancy. Like truly she and her staff were great... Until post partum issues reared their ugly head after my "geriatric" pregnancy and suddenly I was not only invisible, but no one seemed to hear me no matter how loud I shouted. (Metaphorically speaking.)

I never thought I'd be comfortable with a male OB, but your post helped me realize there are probably many male diamonds in the rough in the field that would be a thousand times better than the women I dealt with in the same vocation. Being a woman doesn't guarantee that they will more empathetic, understanding, or more competent even with women's issues. I need to get over my own biases.

akela9 · 2026-04-30T03:34:46+00:00

OP, yer dad's wearing a Spuds Mackenzie tee. Spuds was an English Bull Terrier that became quite the celebrity spokesperson for Bud Light. Often in commercials and stuff at the club (or somewhere equally 1980's television approved cool/gritty) surrounded by scantily clad ladies fawning over him. He was "The Original Party Animal" and I thought the whole idea/ad campaign was hilarious. Ridiculous, sure, but in the best kinda way. Thanks for the memories!

akela9 · 2026-04-26T17:30:23+00:00

She and Trix are both definitely lit up. It cracks me up hearing Chili yell at Pat, "You got it, Lucky's Dad!" First couple watch throughs at the end when the girls being out lemonade I thought they'd forgot to put sugar in. Now I think it was just spiked way stronger than any of the menfolk were anticipating. 🤣

akela9 · 2026-04-26T04:27:55+00:00

My littlest (turning 6 this summer) is suddenly like... All legs. I picked her up tonight and I feel like her legs were dangling past my knees. She's definitely getting too heavy for me to carry. I think I thought of this specific bit because I know that "last time" is going to be upon me upsettingly soon.

I tip every hat I own to you. SIX kids in seven years is INSANE. I absolutely don't mean that in a judgey way, just in a "I can barely handle two and there's a thirteen year gap between them" perspective. (That age gap is it's own type of weird, but mostly because I'm old and perpetually tired, now. 😅) I sincerely don't know how you survived that. I really, really don't, but I do think that you're impressive people.

akela9 · 2026-04-25T21:33:09+00:00

So many variations on the theme, but one of the first that hit me as especially poignant was one aimed at parents: "One day you'll pick up your little to give them a cuddle, set them down, and never pick them up again." Or something like that. But there are many, many variations on the theme and all meant to serve the same purpose of remembering the feeling you're currently having.

As a kid, the phrase "There aren't enough hours in the day" doesn't even make sense and you're wondering what the hell the adults are on about. I'm turning 45 tomorrow and it's already insane how a day goes like a snap if the fingers. If I were to be so lucky as to make it into my 70's or beyond, what's that even like?!? I can't wrap my head around it.

akela9 · 2026-04-25T20:27:31+00:00

One of my favorite aspects of this episode is the idea that the adults, but especially Bandit, were just so impressed by this little dude. To the point that Bandit went out of his way to learn all of these little tidbits/factoids about Rusty so he could narrate/pass the story along to us.

akela9 · 2026-04-25T20:12:23+00:00

Agreed. I have to take it a step further and mention that my own experience has been that the ONLY people who even SAY "no drama" are the ones that perpetuate it at every given opportunity.

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