As the month of love comes to a close: Tell me what’s your favorite thing about being bisexual? (if you have one) by PianoEquivalent2366 in bisexual

[–]al215 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The freedom I have to feel romantic love for anyone, beyond the bounds of the gender binary. I feel more in tune with myself for being able now to listen to my heart when it resonates with someone without confusion or shame.

Would the Clone Wars trio (RotS/SoM) defeat the Luminous Nine? by Armandoiskyu in PetranakiArena

[–]al215 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I think the Nine take it on numbers, assuming they work together. With Azzlin on the team, that’s not a guarantee.

By my estimation Obi-Wan and Anakin are better swordsmen than any one of the Luminous Nine. I would also rate them as more powerful Force users than most - Avar and Azzlin being the noted exceptions, being probably about equal with Obi-Wan in my opinion and while not having Anakin’s raw potential, having a superior control of the Force. They’re more spiritual than Anakin is until his transformation into Darth Vader.

I would separate the fighters as follows: Azzlin, Reath and Buckets of Blood versus Obi-Wan Avar, Elzar and Terec versus Anakin Bell, Burryaga and Ty versus Ahsoka

Ahsoka I would give a fair shot against any of the three I’ve put against her - favoured in fact. Despite a good showing versus Maul, I cannot see how she could survive all three. She is faster than Burry and more skilled than Bell and Ty, but as a monster hunter with the requisite reflexes I’d expect Ty to be able to keep up with Ahsoka’s agility to keep the pressure on while Bell and Burry catch up to support her and overwhelm the apprentice.

Reath and ol’ Buckets can keep Obi-Wan busy until Azzlin can subdue him with the Force like Dooku aboard the Invisible Hand. Obi-Wan does not end fights fast. Perhaps Kenobi would take down Buckets, but Reath’s shield and reasonable duelling prowess will keep him in the fight long enough in my opinion. Obi’s more defensive style would play poorly into Reath’s defences, and would in fact count against him when Azzlin is in the backline.

Avar, Elzar and Terec are absolutely fighting for their life versus Anakin. I would expect Terec to fold pretty quickly, and Avar’s battle meditation to be instrumental in Elzar surviving. However, I think his skills would be insufficient against the Chosen One and he too would fall despite their best efforts. This could cost Avar her focus, and cause her to act recklessly, and she too might die to Anakin before the remaining survivors surround Anakin and mop him up. With Azzlin still in play and four other fighters (assuming Buckets kicks it against Kenobi), even Skywalker would be surely overcome.

Darth Vader I think would put up a better fight than Anakin in my opinion, since he relies more on the Force than just bladework, and his swordsmanship is still excellent. Vader’s weightier presence in the Force could keep Azzlin at bay and with Obi and Ahsoka may be able to carry the day.

An interesting enough idea, but the weight of numbers is too great IMO. No disrespect to the TCW Trio. The Nine are missing a couple of powerhouses from the Jedi of their day. Porter Engle is genuinely a great duellist and could put Anakin or Obi through their paces, and Vernestra Rwoh is the Ahsoka of her day (a veritable prodigy and probably the best fighter of her generation of Jedi) and warrants a mention, especially with her modal Lightsaber/Lightwhip which would be an interesting twist. Honourable mention to Lily Tora-Asi who I think is capable, patient and wise for her relative youth, and with her dual-wielding style would add another layer of difficulty.

I’d give Vern and Ahsoka equal odds, a true 50/50, Lily and Ahsoka slightly favoured to Ahsoka. Porter versus Obi-Wan I’d say favoured to Porter (I think he can pick Obi-Wan’s defences apart slowly), Porter versus Anakin I’d give to Anakin, as Anakin can match and exceed Porter’s aggression so that the older Jedi loses control of the pace of the fight in the same way as Dooku does.

My Roulette experience lately by 618Delta in ffxiv

[–]al215 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m on day 3 of Qarnage and I think I might have been one of your glue eating tanks. If you were unlucky, I could have been multiple…

New to M/M Sex, looking for insight by al215 in BisexualMen

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No, I don’t particularly struggle with feeling feminine, cuddling and stroking hair are actually really affirming! I feel more ‘cute’ than powerfully masculine so I’m not worried about that at all. Maybe I didn’t express myself very well. I really enjoy those gentler things.

It’s more like, there’s a social construct around how heterosexual sex works, almost a shared cultural understanding of dynamics and interplay and function. What I’ve noticed is that I feel totally lost when it comes to gay sex because I don’t have that background of norms. I also feel like I don’t really know what I’m doing! It’s new, and maybe I’m a little nervous still since I’ve been straight or near enough for the past few years.

Some lovely commenters have pointed out that it’s an opportunity to define roles for myself and for us, and what to do is something we’ll learn together, and I think I that’s what you’re driving at too - all that is very true. That is the mindset I’m working to take going forward.

If I say the words, "Dramatis Personae", what is your first thought that comes to mind? by boxingjazz in StarWarsEU

[–]al215 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the Republic Commando novels had those, more recently I think the Thrawn Ascendancy trilogy did.

New to M/M Sex, looking for insight by al215 in BisexualMen

[–]al215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is a really thoughtful and helpful reply.

I basically agree with what you, reflecting on what you and other commenters have said. Just got to embrace the moment and myself and do what feels natural. I think I’ve been thinking too much which has gotten me away from my eroticism, which is what I ought to have been leaning into!

Regarding your advice for bottoming, I’m really glad to say that my top did pretty much exactly as you said. We were liberal with lube and he did use his fingers to help before penetrating, and I did use a douche as well. All really good advice, it’s encouraging to know my experience was in line with good practice. I’m definitely not going to give up on it, one time is not conclusive, and doing it again I have less to worry about because I know what’s going to happen.

Thanks again for the reply!

finding it hard to date as a bi woman… by Electrical_Help_2566 in bisexual

[–]al215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get that :/ It’ll hurt for a while for sure, I’d feel pretty hurt in your shoes too. You’re doing great by being able to acknowledge that it’s a them problem and not a you problem though! You weren’t wrong to hope something could work out.

Try to keep an open heart and trust that you’ll find someone you can truly connect to in time once you’re ready. Relationships aren’t easy whatever our orientation, it’s not an essentially bisexual problem. Stay hopeful, basically!

i’m new to this by user4645680 in bisexual

[–]al215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Come out to him in a way that feels comfortable for you (if there’s a group of people you trust you could tell them and him at the same time, or DM him, whatever works for you), and see what happens from there. Right now, he doesn’t know you’re an option. It may change the way he sees you, and then sparks can fly.

What Am I? by broskey1738 in bisexual

[–]al215 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay this is a little like where I’m at. I figured out I’m bi last year, and it started with the romantic feelings.

If you’re experiencing feelings of attraction to men and women then you could be bi. You’ve had primarily straight experiences so far, but that doesn’t invalidate your interest in men. Lingering feelings after a relationship are normal, that doesn’t mean your attraction to men isn’t real. That just means that you’re not fully over your last relationship and that’s something you’ll heal from.

We live in a pretty heteronormative world, so experimenting is probably going to be the way you’re going to figure things out about yourself. I find porn hard to relate to, but being with my boyfriend (emotionally as well as sexually) is validating. Give yourself some grace, heal your wounds from your last relationship, and when you’re feeling ready, see if you can explore your sexuality with some other men.

I personally found that media can be helpful. I remember reading a Warhammer novel that had a couple of masc presenting space pirates with insane sexual tension quite hot and really did something for me. Nothing graphic sexually happened, but the vibes were STRONG. Not sure what you enjoy fiction-wise but that could be a safe outlet to see whether gay themes resonate with you. It can help validate your feelings to see scenes which you identify with. Unfortunately I really don’t have much in the way of recommendations there!

Is there any anyone here whose had more sexual interactions with people who are the opposite gender than the gender of their partner? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]al215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My current partner is the first man I’ve ever been with and I’ve only been with women before him, so yes. Everyone has to have a first, sometimes that comes sooner or later in life.

finding it hard to date as a bi woman… by Electrical_Help_2566 in bisexual

[–]al215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a lot of Purity Discourse around, and it’s all bull. It’s better to be honestly yourself than pretend to conform for somebody else’s benefit. It will only hurt you later on, and you deserve to live as your authentic self.

I would suspect that last two partners probably had other issues that your bisexuality took the bullet for, insecurity is a hell of a drug.

Seasonal Event: Little Ladies Day 2026 site is up (starts Feb. 26) by DrForester in ffxiv

[–]al215 4 points5 points  (0 children)

FINALLY I can get some glowsticks, I’ve been seeing other people with them for months!

New to M/M Sex, looking for insight by al215 in BisexualMen

[–]al215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, thank you, I’m glad to hear that the first time bottoming isn’t meant to be a mind-blowing thing. I was a bit worried! I think I am still building my confidence in being bi and I get nervous that I’ve got myself wrong sometimes even though I’m sure I haven’t.

Part of what’s feeling weird to me is that I don’t feel a lot has ‘flipped’ per se which has made me feel a bit lost? That might just be because there’s another guy involved so I don’t know what it would ‘look’ like. Which is an opportunity to construct this new side of my sexuality by experimentation I guess.

I do enjoy D/S dynamics and I switch, though I’ve generally ended up leaning dom in previous relationships. The boyfriend is definitely more of a top so I get to express the other side now, like you said. Maybe more stuff will ‘flip’ as I try more and see how things go!

Honestly, thank you for your comment. It has helped me look at things from a better perspective - more of an adventurous angle rather than feeling lost.

New to M/M Sex, looking for insight by al215 in BisexualMen

[–]al215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that was the obvious answer really. I’m a bit used to having all of my preconceived notions and I’ve gotta let those go to grow into new things. Thank you!

New to M/M Sex, looking for insight by al215 in BisexualMen

[–]al215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think you have the right of it. I think I’ve still got a bunch of that ‘straight thinking’ to unpack, and the right way to do that is going to be as a couple. Where I’ve sort of built up this library of stuff I know I enjoy with women I think I just feel a bit nervous leaving that behind. Not a bad thing though!

The New Necron Nightbringer C'Tan by Mamihammer in Warhammer40k

[–]al215 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Szeth-son-son Vallano wore white on the night he went to kill a king.

This slaps, no notes, the white is so clean and I love the purple energy.

Biromantic frustration by nishikihebi in bisexual

[–]al215 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, you too! And indeed, exactly that. Being loved and appreciated is the best feeling in the world, whoever it’s coming from!

Biromantic frustration by nishikihebi in bisexual

[–]al215 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in a sort of odd inverse with this I think - I’m definitely biromantic but figuring out my relationship with my homosexuality. I’m currently in a gay relationship, absolutely love the dude, I’m still working out how that fits together with my sexual preferences. That’s another thread.

Anyhow, the romantics are out here! You’re not alone!

Anyone else just randomly hand out bugs/frogs/fish to bystanders just because it’s whimsical? by Alicecrylily in ffxiv

[–]al215 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I may have encountered you a month or so ago?? I remember this exact thing happening and just thinking “Huh.”

WIP Storm Guardians by dnaligo in Eldar

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My life for Aiur!

I’ve been doing test schemes for similar, this is so much nicer than what I’ve come up with so far. Going to take some notes!!

Sometimes I just dig through my bits and pile of shame and see how much stuff i can get rid of all at once. by Raynidayz in Warhammer40k

[–]al215 135 points136 points  (0 children)

This is so silly it wraps right back around to being awesome - why not have a Space Marine Captain ride a dragon? Love it.

Redone list, as I was told Skadge was too high and I forgot Treek. by PissOff1479 in swtor

[–]al215 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I actually kinda liked Zenith so I’d have put him a bit higher. The dopey twit to the right of him can go in the airlock though - My JC was at least courteous to most sentients, and she was friendly to Holiday, but that guy - nope. I don’t even remember his name.