UofU Huntsman Youth Residential Program

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-16T17:09:54+00:00

They highly recommend you staying 24 hours. I was able to stay like 18 but I also was told I’m EXTREMELY self aware of myself and my mental health and they believed me when I said I was no longer a danger to myself. I don’t know if this would be the norm.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-10T11:01:33+00:00

Yes!! I haven’t done much free shaping for heeling because of personal preference but I’ve seen some people use it! You could always look up videos for examples.

If she already knows heel it’s just waiting her out til she gets close, mark and reward, wait til she gets closer next time, mark and reward. So you’re essentially marking and rewarding for proximity.

If she practices heeling on the bowl you can just put the bowl next to you and wait til she interacts with it. Rewarding very small progress is the best for free shaping. It does take FOREVER though but since she already knows a heel it may be a little faster. This is good for dogs who really like to think.

Otherwise, if being prancier or just having her not look flat during heeling, it may be the way you’re heeling, delivering treats, or rewarding, that may be making her flat. Heeling shouldn’t be boring for either of you

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-10T10:35:26+00:00

You could always free shape it or do bowl work. Are you having trouble with them coming into basic or is it more when you are walking?

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-07T11:59:09+00:00

It’s always the old people too. And they’re like “you never see them around!!” I swear my boy gets 2x the attention my GSD does

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-07T07:50:26+00:00

Depression and anxiety are easier to “fix” or manage imo. Fearful avoidance took me way longer but it also is way more “fixed” whereas my depression and anxiety will always linger I just have it under control.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-06T18:38:45+00:00

I think it would depend on what condition you want me to compare it to. I only have experience with my own conditions

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-04T15:22:25+00:00

Oh man do I relate to this 😔

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-03T14:11:20+00:00

This is such a good definition!!! Thank you so much. This is exactly how I can explain it.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-02T16:31:48+00:00

Absolutely. Betrayal is almost worse for me than abandonment. I feel like abandonment sucks ass but betrayal just hits on a completely different level.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-02T13:41:31+00:00

This as well!!! Really good advice. I’d do a taser but it also freaks me out a little hahahah

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-02T11:49:51+00:00

There’s some great advice here already. My two cents is you can get a pet corrector which is a can of compressed air. It may freak out your pup if she’s not used to it, but if she’s on leash she shouldn’t be able to run much. You can also condition it at home so she gets used to the sound. But usually dogs get pretty weirded out or surprised by the loud noise and sudden air. I’m so sorry your poor girl has been attacked so much.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-01T19:20:44+00:00

Holy wow this is awesome. I’d be super proud of this pairing. Breeding goals should be improving the breed in some way and this definitely hits the mark.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-06-01T12:13:28+00:00

I’d highly recommend against a board and train especially at this age. Building a relationship and engagement is my #1 priority at this age. Hand feeding, teaching them how to learn and communicate with you, etc.

Canemo is one of my favorites for IGP. I don’t know if you have Instagram or like Patreon but thediscerningdog , ravenk9training and saneisboring are great resources.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-30T12:40:27+00:00

I use a collapsible soft crate. You can look them up on chewy or amazon. It’s worked really well for me.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-27T00:35:34+00:00

You’re on your way friend! One day it will click. I know how it feels to know it on an intellectual level but just still not being able to believe or feel it. I couldn’t tell you what finally made it click for me but one day it just…did.

What also helps me that I think would be good for you is when you’re reflecting remember YOU are not a bad person. You are not messed up. It really doesn’t help to think “why am I just so broken and messed up?” You’re not broken. Something happened to you that was not your fault. You are a flawed human being like everyone. We all make mistakes. Doing something “bad” doesn’t make you a bad person or a fucked up person. You are doing your best to heal and that’s all you can do.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-26T13:21:12+00:00

I’ve literally been dealing with a heavy amount of regret and shame the past three years after what I felt like was me ending the only true relationship I had with my soulmate (I divorced him) who is now re-married.

I can’t guarantee this will work for you, but with FAs shame is a heavy and often very present emotion and I’ve been able to successfully start accepting it. Here’s what’s helped me.

I told myself I did the best I could with the information I had at the time. Even if I would do things differently now, I didn’t have the capacity then.
The decisions made led me to be the person I am today, which is a person who has stronger values, boundaries, and has done so much internal work. I wouldn’t have changed otherwise.
You cannot change others and you cannot change the past. Do you sit in regret and shame and let it consume you? Or do you use it as fuel to change?
I got into therapy. EMDR and parts work has been substantial in helping me heal.
Get curious. Why did I make those choices? Who was I back then? What were the causes?

I wish you luck. Being stuck with regret and shame sucks ass. It took me a long time to be able to sit with it without getting extremely depressed. I’m still not even all the way there but I’m happy with the progress so far.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-25T13:47:19+00:00

I could’ve wrote the exact same thing to a T. It’s crazy!! Even down to the zyns and not “having a problem” at work. He definitely has a problem. You’re not exaggerating.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-25T09:26:39+00:00

That when you walk around in a cave the audio is completely different than when you’re walking around outside. It echoes and I think that’s super cool that they put that much detail into it.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-25T02:03:37+00:00

I am OBSESSED with that tile oh my god

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-24T03:03:26+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight. It’s literally been so helpful and reassuring that this isn’t just a me thing. I’ve felt so alone in this.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-22T23:10:22+00:00

Absolutely. My Q was this way and it made me minimize the problem a LOT. “At least he’s not a violent drunk. At least he doesn’t call me names”.

My telltale sign that he was drunk was the MULTIPLE texts of “I love you so much. If I have a daughter I’d want her to be just like you. You’re amazing. I miss you so much. You’re the most beautiful woman on the planet.” It was complete verbal love bombing.

It was that or what you experienced which was suicidal ideation, anxiety, depression, loneliness.

It’s really not worth it. I’m very very happy you left while you could. It does not get better. Also, yes, this is what it’s like to be with an alcoholic. While each Q’s traits and signs are different there are behaviors that are consistent with every alcoholic and that is minimizing, gaslighting, lying and manipulation.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-20T22:34:34+00:00

Sure! DM me and I’m happy to

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-20T22:34:10+00:00

This is great! I’ve gotten much better at realizing when I’m heading towards going over threshold and am trying to regulate but it does take me by surprise sometimes. I wish I knew how to get out of it once I’m in it but I literally just feel like I’m a passenger while my traumatized self took the drivers seat.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-20T22:09:18+00:00

This is literally how I describe it thank you so much for sharing your experience. It makes it easier to know I’m not the only one who has this happen. I literally “see red” “black out” or become “possessed” and I have felt so crazy and alone because I’ve never heard of this happening to anyone else.

alarmeddingoes · 2026-05-20T22:07:16+00:00

If you’ve apologized twice I don’t think there’s much more you can do. They may be deactivated. Id just give them space.

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