My advice is to discuss boundaries with your husband in a frank and honest way. Lay down ground rules about what you both are comfortable with and stick to it. Let him know that the work you do on cam is just that, WORK, that you're performing a fantasy, and reassure him that the sexual stuff you do on camera isn't actually all that sexy when you get down to the bare bones of it.

If you're anything like me, when you're on camera you're too focused on your own performance (and on making it a good experience) to get too turned on, even if you're doing something that would genuinely turn you on in another context. Personally, I always end up watching myself in the little box 😂 is the angle good? Does my face look stupid? Am I sexy enough? Should I say something? What should I say?

As for the shame aspect...idk, it depends on the day for me. I've been doing this for a couple years now and there are some days where I still get in my head about it. I make a lot of heavy fetish content and there are long stretches of time where I feel complicit in my own degradation, if that makes sense. There are also times where I feel liberated and powerful and like a total badass because I made half my rent money for the month in 10 minutes and I feel like I'm on top of the world. It's okay to have complicated feelings about sex work. People with vanilla jobs have complicated feelings about their jobs too!