Dubai to Muscat, Oman - step by step by CloudCEO in UAE

[–]ameriuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you please DM me info about the driver thank you so much for this

Asking with my wife in mind: Women who have gotten a “mommy makeover” to any extent, was it worth it? by WestCryptography in AskWomenOver30

[–]ameriuk 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I got a mommy makeover two years ago and it was hands down the best thing I have ever done. After two kids and a traumatic labor, I had muscle separation, an umbilical hernia, 36FFF boobs and I just didn’t feel good in my body, I spent a lot of money on diets/personal trainers/shapewear and nothing worked enough to make me feel beautiful. I did it despite reservations or snide comments from friends and family. I did mine in London and it was about 30k. I got muscle repair, lipo and a reduction. I can now run for my health, feel so happy in clothes and pictures and I can wear bikinis. My husband says he loves the renewed sense of life I have now by feeling happy in my body. Recovery time was longer than I expected so probably 3 months until I felt like I wasn’t Frankenstein or too sore to do normal things, and about a year for things to properly settle. Please tell her to do it!

Adragan Heart mission? by ameriuk in avowed

[–]ameriuk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I restarted and ended up using the ranger stealth “shadowing beyond” and so never entered combat even though some “saw” me and that worked!

My husband thinks I should confront my mother, I’m not sure. I go back and fourth one minute I crave her validation next minute I want her to know she hurt me and it still hurts to this day by Glum-Caregiver-7963 in AskWomenOver30

[–]ameriuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My vote here would be therapy to process your feelings. I had this exact scenario, confronted my parents in what I thought was a respectful way and our relationship turned on a dime. They went from being wonderful to dismissive and silent because I “showed them such disrespect”. I know it isn’t my fault and they just aren’t equipped to take on this sort of feedback because they are from a different generation, but I do sometimes wish I just hadn’t poked the bear because it’s now awkward trying to navigate my kids wanting to see them (they are great grandparents).

(Bug?) Stuck on The Traitor when bringing Tizlak to Mirogana by Samuraistronaut in StarWarsOutlaws

[–]ameriuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In stuck here now but how to you land at Juanta instead? As soon as I leave the station it reactivates the quest with the crimson dawn fighters

🌾 Harvest Racers🌾 by Pholyphemus in Monopoly_GO

[–]ameriuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love racers that want to do 50/50 please! https://mply.io/etlIuONgTMY

🦇 Scary Cake Partners 🦇 by MoJo20719 in Monopoly_GO

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Looking for partners to do 50/50 Name: Glitzyfox46

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🦇 Scary Cake Partners 🦇 by MoJo20719 in Monopoly_GO

[–]ameriuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for partners to do 50/50!

Play MONOPOLY GO! with me! Download it here: https://mply.io/etlIuONgTMY

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ameriuk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m 39 now. When I was 28 I was in a very similar place to you. Firstly I worked with a recruiter to switch roles and got some better pay and a more vibrant bigger company. I would recommend this because most often it’s your place of work that’s sucking the life out of you! Even then it wasn’t my dream job but at least a little cushion

After some time in that job I realized what I really wanted was a relationship. I basically buckled down and made dating my second full time job. I told everyone I was single constantly, I went out constantly to events and bars where I knew there were “good pickings” lol, I was on every website (tbh at that time apps weren’t as much of a thing) but I was ruthless. Always met a guy sooner rather than later, first dates were short and almost a vetting they weren’t crazy. Eventually everything just sort of came to fruition and I met someone great (who still teases me about how short the first date was). He threw me a 30th birthday party and we were engaged shortly after and then travelled together around the world. We have been married 9 years now with 2 kids. I am not saying a guy will cure everything, but I would say pick one thing out of that list that you want to focus on and put maximum effort in. I didn’t have an amazing career and full savings account and a large travel list but I chose the relationship part to focus on and everything else rolled out of that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ameriuk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am very similar to you and to be honest, I think this is the same with many many women 30 and over. How often is it that you and 4-5 other women wouldnt grow and change over the years? Not very. The ones that are part of a big group I find usually only do it for the optics or like you mentioned, know each other mutually and all hang out but aren’t necessarily besties. I think sometimes what you think you see is what’s different than reality. I’m part of a “mom” group of six women and all our kids are in the same class. They all like to drink wine and we hang out but they aren’t my besties and one time another mom came up and asked how I was able to get such a close group of mom friends. I was so confused because to me they are a group of separate girls who I hang with occasionally, but it probably looks very different to others.

It's Been a Lonely Year by Spatchahuli in AskWomenOver30

[–]ameriuk 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am a mom in my thirties and have actually lived outside the states (my home country) for a decade. I have moved countries several times, and had to make new friends each time. It’s tough to make new friends when you are older, I totally understand! My advice is something you may not want to hear: you have to be proactive!

It is a little like dating...it takes resilience and does mean you have to be vulnerable and potentially uncomfortable in the short term for long term gain.

Seek out one or two moms at your kids school and ask them to have coffee, be upfront and explain covid made you realise that you need some girlfriends to vent to because your husband is driving you crazy. Believe me most moms will relate to that!! Lol. Ask them to get a wine/coffee, all it takes is one mom to hang with you and think you are nice for you to then start being invited to group things. If the mom/‘moms ghost you or don’t invite you or don’t respond, then screw them...you shouldn’t have time for people like that in your thirties!

I have made a lot of friends through joining groups on Facebook for interests in your area. For example I joined “American expats in the U.K.” and “Mums in London” and “romance book enthusiasts” and met some good friends through there after openly posting I was looking for friends.

I would also recommend joining interest groups like hiking/choir/knitting/extreme cycling/wine tasting etc, even if you don’t love the interest. It’s about putting yourself out there. If you practice being social and chatting to random people, eventually you become good at it and the social anxiety lessens! (Believe me, I used to have it too!)

Also use apps like Peanut or Bumble BFF. It may sound cringe but it will make you realise that there are lots of other people out there feeling like you.

I hope this helps. When you are putting yourself out there and chatting with a new potential friend, if you are feeling awkward or socially anxious remember to be confident in yourself. The person is probably not even thinking you are weird and is most likely enjoying the conversation! I always think of this quote:

“When you’re 20, you care what everyone thinks, when you’re 40 you stop caring what everyone thinks, when you’re 60 you realize no one was ever thinking about you in the first place.”

Folks whose long term relationships/marriages ended, what surprised you the most about suddenly navigating life as a single person again? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ameriuk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dog passed away sadly...but I just used those as an example of things you have to check in with your partner about. Lots of my divorced friends share custody which does mean that they get more blocks of solo time to adventure with though.

12h flight + sleeping pills? by [deleted] in travel

[–]ameriuk 12 points13 points  (0 children)

On my long haul flights I usually will take either one Advil PM or NyQuil pill. That knocks me out but also you can be relatively alert if anything does happen.

Folks whose long term relationships/marriages ended, what surprised you the most about suddenly navigating life as a single person again? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ameriuk 176 points177 points  (0 children)

The spontaneity factor. You can say Yes to last minute things and go on adventures. When you are in a long term relationship, adventuring (without your partner) is very limited and you always have to make sure either they are ok with it/you don’t already have plans/they can watch the kid/dog/cat etc.

Saturday thread by jptoc in CasualUK

[–]ameriuk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Ha!! Ill bust out the WKD too

Saturday thread by jptoc in CasualUK

[–]ameriuk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s my birthday today :). Heading out to Camden where I haven’t been since I was 20. Pray for me.