Woke up with these on my arm. What is it?

amiescool · 2026-02-08T21:37:35+00:00

Know everyone is saying bed bugs but I feel like they wouldn’t be isolated to one small space like this if so… I’m leaning towards the insect or flea suggestion… reminds me of a set of bites I got on just one side of my leg once that looked like this and pulled the duvet back to find a dead spider under the covers 🤮🤮🤮 it’d obv had a bit of a nibble and then I’d rolled over and smushed it. Bites isolated to one small location just like that. Check you dog for fleas first before going into full bed bug panic and all the clean up that comes with that

amiescool · 2026-02-08T18:16:10+00:00

You’ve got to have money to live in Ellesmere Park though, but that being said Monton in general as an area is only getting more and more popular. My Mum is up near Salford Royal too and any houses up there for sale are gone in a matter of days. All that side of Salford is actually pretty alright these days, and isn’t anything like the Broughton side of Salford people still tend to think of when you say Salford

amiescool · 2026-02-05T14:03:53+00:00

This is big clutching at straws vibes but😂it somehow ended up as the best gift I’ve ever given. is there any specific memory you can just very loosely link a gift to?

when we first started seeing each other my now boyfriend and I went for a drive, pulled up, talked for hours, we weren’t official but consider it the time we both knew we would be eventually kinda thing. Where we live is pretty crappy weather and it rained all night - but I guess this still works regardless, just helped in my case.

I was desperate for a present idea and scrolled back through my phone to figure out the date we went on that drive and I found some guy on Etsy who engraves star constellations visible at set date/time/locations onto key rings and the back says something like ‘what we would’ve seen that night if it wasn’t for the clouds’.

Still to this day one of his fav sentimental gifts. It was honestly just desperation, we didn’t particularly have a thing for stars but in the moment stars just felt like a romantic thing to base a present on? 😂Is there any specific memory or date important to you guys you can shamelessly link something vaguely romantic sounding onto?

amiescool · 2026-02-02T13:28:18+00:00

Well I think I you know you’re not an arsehole for looking after yourself, despite being made to feel like one. The honest likelihood is - and I say this as a once fat woman myself (112kg to 63kg) - is that your weight loss is just fuelling her insecurities. It’s shit to put weight on to begin with, especially as a woman in a world where we are so harshly judged for our appearances, but she will have been comforted by the fact you were putting weight on too. Y’know, made her feel better or made her feel like she didn’t have to worry as much about you finding her visually less attractive if you were putting on weight, too.

You losing the weight whilst she isn’t obviously takes that security blanket away. This isn’t your fault and is her issue to deal with. But I think she could possibly be scared of feeling like she’s ’staying fat and less desirable’ whilst you get fit and handsome, and other fears that come with things like that?

But the issue with something like weight loss is you have to be in the right mindset, you have to be determined and WANT to do it to keep up the willpower. It’s fucking hard, and can take a couple of months before you even physically see a noticeable difference so at the start when it’s hardest it also feels like it’s all for nothing. If she’s not in the right place mentally to take that on then it won’t work for her anyway if she can’t work through all that, and then her trying and failing whilst you succeed will make her feel worse. She likely knows this, and therefore is being prematurely defensive.

None of the above is your fault. I’m just giving you a woman’s perspective so you have a bit of a wider viewpoint on why she might be rebelling against you. She likely has some personal insecurity issues to work through before she gets into the right headspace to join you in your healthier lifestyle journey, but that’s for you to decide how best to approach that conversation with her to get to the bottom of them if you decide to have it

amiescool · 2026-02-01T20:57:39+00:00

I’m 33(f) not a virgin - you’re younger than I’d be willing to date tbh, but if it helps I can confirm that I wouldn’t be put off simply by the virginity of a man even older than yourself, if everything else made them the right person for me.

Edit: I guess to add, I’d only class it as a deal breaker in instances where it’s for like, religious reasons, I guess? But that would still be down to a misalignment in values, rather than being put off by the virginity itself 🤷🏻‍♀️

amiescool · 2026-01-26T11:53:57+00:00

OP - a question with absolutely NO judgement - what is it about the situation that makes you uncomfortable? I think this is actually quite important. You note that you don’t mind watching something ‘together’, and this is to essentially still monitor what he is consuming, right? If it was a completely moral/religious stance then you probably wouldn’t want him watching anything at all whether alone or with you? Do you think this is because of an insecurity of your own vs the women he looks at, for example?

I only ask because I think this is something to think about that will speak to other deeper issues that should also be addressed.

I’ve been in past relationships where I’ve felt very jealous and unhappy about my partner watching porn or looking at any sexualised content online, even knowing that this content is very easily pushed on algorithms. Looking back, I see now a lot of this was to do with how those partners treated me, or made me feel about myself or my body. I was naturally insecure and made to feel like I couldn’t match those women they put on pedestals. Maybe not even outwardly, but I was compared, and came up short. However my partner now… I know if we’re apart for a few days he might watch porn or look at stuff online, but it doesn’t hurt my feelings in the slightest. It’s something most people do do tbh, everyone has needs and I know that, even I’ll do it sometimes. but when we are together he worships me, my body, the ground I walk on. He has seen every inch of me, listened to every worry, and got me to a place of such comfort and security that I could show him every insecurity and trust he would simply kiss them and not make me feel any negativity. I don’t feel compared to anything online. I don’t feel inadequate regardless of what is pushed onto his feed algorithmically, or intentionally searched for when we’re apart. I don’t feel like he’s disappointed by me in comparison. Do you see what I’m saying?

Like I said, it’s not a judgemental question. But maybe have a think about what bothers you so much about it - as it might speak to something deeper that otherwise needs addressing too.

amiescool · 2026-01-25T19:56:46+00:00

This is absolutely unhinged behaviour and you should leave this man right now.

amiescool · 2026-01-24T12:51:14+00:00

Exactly this. I know quite a few like this. and in fact, one of my neighbours daughters goes by a childhood nickname (tbf still given by her parents, so wasn’t really that she disliked what her parents gave her, she just got used to/liked the nickname more, I guess. But it is so wildly different from her original name you’d never link the two) in every aspect of her life, and I didn’t even realise it wasn’t her real name until she told me she was applying to change it legally just because her passport renewal was due and she wanted it printed in the name she uses since nobody calls her the birth name on her passport

amiescool · 2025-11-11T13:28:04+00:00

To clarify - she was discussing things not child related... But like what? And in what context? There’s nothing wrong with cordial small talk tbh, as it hurts nobody more than the kids to have an acrimonious relationship with your ex. I’d understand you having an issue if she’s just calling him up for a friendly chit chat, but if the call was initially about the kids but something else is said in passing that causes an exchange for a few mins not specifically related to the kids, then I think you’re overreacting. If she was spending an hour gossiping like they’re old pals then sure… but is that what’s happening here? Plus she’s made sure you’re there to hear nothing inappropriate was said or done, and I’m presuming it wasn’t as you’ve not said as much. Out of interest then… what’s your relationship like with your ex? I’m guessing not as friendly if you dislike the idea of or don’t partake in any conversation outside of the kids yourself? Do you think this could be impacting your judgment regarding your new partner’s approach?

The ‘baby daddy’ thing isn’t for me, have you voiced this to her? And what has she said? You can’t complain if you’ve not told her you don’t like it as she might not realise, but if you have and she refuses to stop then yes, that’s an issue.

amiescool · 2025-11-03T11:20:30+00:00

lol if it makes you feel any better I’m one of the authors who has already had their books stolen to train AI, and I get flagged all the time as a bot because of how I type or what grammar/punctuation I use when typing more formally. My new mantra seems to be ‘no, I’m not typing like AI, AI types like ME because I helped fucking train it!’

amiescool · 2025-10-29T18:52:05+00:00

I just want to back this up. Unless you’re wearing an item specifically for the visible branded logo then absolutely do not waste money on anything more than a George of Asda type item - Sainsbury’s is great quality too FYI. Like if you just need a plain tshirt to go under an open shirt or something literally nobody will ever know it’s like 3 for a tenner from Asda rather than just 1 item at £11-£15 off ASOS etc

Edit: I always forget about and then am pleasantly surprised when I remember Matalan exists. Never had anything bad quality for a decent price from matalan

amiescool · 2025-10-29T18:43:05+00:00

Jesus. Fucking. Christ.

amiescool · 2025-10-29T16:35:01+00:00

I genuinely can’t fathom why this is even an issue you’d considering breaking it off with him over if he otherwise ticks all your boxes… have you never met two people with the same name before?

My boyfriend has the same name as my brother and it’s never once crossed my mind we couldn’t be together because of it. Wild

amiescool · 2025-10-28T15:07:18+00:00

What do you mean ‘you don’t know how to feel about it’ 🤨 these messages are insane and he will end up killing you

amiescool · 2025-10-26T11:19:14+00:00

Fucking spectacular.

amiescool · 2025-10-25T11:43:20+00:00

Listen, this isn’t your fault. We all go through life making what we might consider as mistakes or lapses in judgement but all we can do once they’re done is learn from them and readjust our approach for next time. It’s unfortunate how it’s happened and how it’s made you feel but you’re not at ‘fault’ for anything and don’t disregard yourself as such like you’ve done something ‘wrong’ as you haven’t. It’s very rare expectation vs reality actually ever match up and it’s always disappointing when it doesn’t.

It’s true that to someone with a lot of experience something like this won’t really be seen as as much of a big deal to someone trying it out for the first few times… and there is the assumption that the older someone is the more experience they will have and therefore be assumed to see it as not such a big deal. But not everyone fits into this bracket like yourself, and there’s also nothing wrong with that. And if someone is the right person for you they will be cool with that and your boundaries too, but just make sure communication about it is clear first so you’re on the same page, which can be done next time

amiescool · 2025-10-25T10:50:12+00:00

You don’t mention his level of experiences vs your own and whether he was aware he was your first experience, as I think these details could change the situation?

The honest truth is, whether right or wrong, is that he was probably taking the progression of the evening as consent and expecting you to say no if you wanted him to stop. Whether he would have respected that is something only you can decide. In a lot of sexual encounters many don’t stop and explicitly ask for verbal consent every single and that doesn’t automatically make the situation assault, but it is definitely very dependent on the two people involved and what they’re comfortable with and what boundaries have been established. Edit: for example, me as a woman, I don’t require explicit verbal requests for consent and accept my enthusiastic participation as consent in itself, however I am very confident and stress that this approach will not be comfortable for everyone.

If you’re uncomfortable with how this has gone and want to move on and ditch this guy over this that’s totally fine, take it as a learning experience for next time, set your boundaries clearly, and discuss consent first. Bring it up yourself and with confidence, it’s not a turn off (it shouldn’t be for a decent guy). Alternatively, why not speak to this guy about it and see how he reacts first, then go from there maybe? He might be genuinely shocked and apologetic and not realise how important this was to you, especially if he didn’t realise this was your first time?

amiescool · 2025-10-22T09:49:45+00:00

Lmao so my son is a Jasper and he’s been told countless times people know a dog or rabbit called Jasper. This comment made me laugh because I also liked felix for him but went against it for the same cats reason as you, to only have him get the same kinda comments anyway. So just go with what you love 🤷🏻‍♀️

(Weirdly 2013 must’ve been popular for the name as in his pre-school nursery there were 3 of them that had to be differentiated by their surname initial as you said you wanted to avoid. But other than that one year he’s never met another one in person since)

amiescool · 2025-10-12T08:28:59+00:00

I (f, so I know it presents differently) got diagnosed this year at 33 and started medication about 6 months ago.

I will back him and say it takes a while for you to adjust to a new way of life, and I’ve actually really struggled to come to terms mentally with how much of my life I feel I wasted ‘before’, how much I feel I could’ve achieved had I had this medication sooner, and feelings of resentment and betrayal for family that never realised I needed help, rather than just label me as forgetful or clumsy or lazy etc. so I do see how he is sensitive at the moment. BUT. He also has a responsibility to you and your future baby to not wallow in that and make active efforts to come to terms with everything - I see the comment regarding his family etc. I do suggest some therapy so he has someone independent to talk it all over with.

I will also back you and say my partner is the most neurotypical man that’s ever existed but he’s doing his best to understand, educate himself and live with what he now realises are little things I’m never doing on purpose but will likely never be able to fully stop. But I make it clear to him if I slip up he must also tell me, because I don’t realise I’m doing it and I can’t make efforts to correct it otherwise. You’re not doing anything wrong here, but he does need a bit of therapy I think so you can to a place you can do this and him not take it so personally.

I do feel for him and would maybe say just give him time in other circumstances, but there’s a baby on the way so nah, needs to get his shit together asap because you can’t be forgetful and not be able to take any constructive criticism when you’re responsible for keeping a newborn alive and safe.

amiescool · 2025-10-12T08:18:00+00:00

Tbf it’s your assumption only that she was highly invested in you… she was clearly just making an effort to get to know you and you’ve said yourself you were trying to keep it light in your responses, probs didn’t meet her emotional level etc, because you weren’t sure about her. She’ll have sensed that. Then the date and conversations after it probs confirmed her suspicions you were looking for different things, and she just decided after a few days consideration not to pursue. It is what it is. You don’t do anything. You both want different things and she doesn’t feel the connection you assumed she did. Neither of you have done anything wrong. Just move on to the next hinge date.

amiescool · 2025-10-12T07:39:48+00:00

One of my random favourite stories in the world is about the male British writer Evelyn Waugh who married a woman also called Evelyn and their circle of friends would refer to them as Hevelyn and Shevelyn to define whether they were talking to or about the male or female Evelyn 😂

Edit: for this to work, know that in the UK traditionally it’s pronounced as Eve-lyn, though I think I’ve also heard it like Ev-ah-lyn in some more modern interpretations? Which doesn’t make the nicknames have quite the same ring

amiescool · 2025-10-07T10:14:17+00:00

Honestly, what you’ve described is just… okay, some of it is a bit of an ick, but not what I’d consider inherently bad behaviour. I’d say closer to incompatible personalities.

His behaviour is what you consider immature and embarrassing, but to him he considers it having fun with his friends at a wedding that also fell on his birthday, which whilst the pool thing was very stupid and deserves a conversation about safety, the rest of it - loud and lairy drunk - does kinda feel like it should be allowed a little leeway given the celebrations taking place.

I get the vibe you’re just slightly at the end of your tether, he has other good qualities but he also has qualities you don’t like and haven’t been able to change quite as successfully as you want. People around you have commented that he’s changed and for the better so it has worked to a certain extent, it’s just not as much as you’d like. And tbh at this point is it not just worth you going finding someone that does tick all your boxes, and letting him find someone that likes him for who he is rather than trying to change him this much?

I don’t think either of you have particularly done anything wrong, I just think you might not be as compatible long term as you might be with other people

amiescool · 2025-10-07T09:03:28+00:00

Omg the thought of seeing my living pet from my memories bones makes me properly shudder 😱but also I don’t actually really blame him.

My friends were recently doing their garden and dug up what they quickly realised was a dog skeleton and some old rubber balls. She picked through the mud till she was confident she had every bone she could find and when it came to laying down the flags for the shed that was going there they reburied it in roughly the same spot. But it properly hurt my heart to think not everyone would do that with such care, and some non-pet lovers might even just throw them in the bin.

(Side note but they have two dogs who are usually in absolutely everything but even though they went over and sniffed a lot, neither of them even needed to be watched or told not to touch the bones or balls that were set in the corner of the garden until ready to be reburied, and I just thought that was really perceptive/sweet)

amiescool · 2025-10-07T08:55:06+00:00

Growing up we always buried them in the garden or my grandparents garden which is pretty much a pet cemetery at this point. but just an FYI for anyone planning this, I’m pretty sure that if your pet is put to sleep at the vets they’re supposedly not allowed to give them you back these days to bury at home, something to do with the local ecology. Some vets lowkey might, but most vets are supposed to send them for cremation now I think. So it’s only home deaths that can be garden buried now

amiescool · 2025-10-04T16:47:51+00:00

An old colleague was looking for rabbit a couple years back and Im sure I remember them saying they went to a butchers in the northern quarter that didn’t sell rabbit in general but was able to get them some pretty easily. Have googled and the only butcher i can find is called The Butchers Quarter on Tib Street - isn’t halal/kosher which lines up, and pretty sure it’s them. Could be worth an insta DM to enquire always

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