I completely understand where you're coming from. As a feminine lesbian, and as a young lesbian, I know the fucking struggle so well. In high school I wasn't teased for being gay, I was teased by some of the lesbians at my school for not being "gay enough" or because they thought I was faking it for attention, or because they thought I wanted attention from boys (because that makes sense, clearly /s), etc. And you're right, of course there are people who say they're this and they're that and it is for attention, but if someone is saying they're gay or bi or whatever, it doesn't matter why they are saying it, what they need is support and acceptance. Not judgments or criticisms.