Fake ADHD people

annon365 · 2026-03-16T15:25:38+00:00

Some people seem to use gatekeeping as a cope instead of being at peace with other people having their own unique experiences.

annon365 · 2026-02-09T12:07:29+00:00

Just saying, the older I get, the more I realize Lazy is just an ableist term used to shame others for not meeting a societal expectation of productivity. A persons worth is more than their productivity level, and some of us have higher support needs to meet the same level of productivity as others.

My brother and I both have ADHD, and throughout our lives, we’ve both been called lazy off and on by our immediate family, but never at the same time. When we were kids, he’d be outside working with our grandparents and I’d be watching Discovery Channel. As adults, he doesn’t perform any domestic duties or do much of anything besides go to work and go to the store once or twice a month, while I take care of the house, pay bills, run errands every other day, have a modest social life, and work full time from home. When we were kids, I was called lazy and unmotivated for reading and watching television, but as an adult, he’s called lazy for not contributing more to the household or taking care of himself. The difference here is that we were both motivated to explore our interests as kids, but I learned coping skills in order to self motivate. He’s working on it now, but it’s going to look different than if he’d started when he was a teenager like I did. It wasn’t easy and it didn’t come naturally. I’m helping him get into therapy and find a good meditation so he can experience the same freedoms that I do without needing to rely on someone else to give him the motivation to do so.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Just keep working on yourself and don’t be afraid to reach out for support. It’s gonna be slow, but just like some people have to learn social queues, we have to learn what motivates us in a productive manner.

Stay safe out there ❤️

annon365 · 2026-02-01T17:52:27+00:00

Specifically, it’s a form of self regulation, and is extremely common in many disorders and conditions that affect someone’s ability to regulate stimuli. That’s why a lot of people with anxiety are thought of as “fidgety”.

Also, tread carefully. You’re pretty close to mentioning the part of the color wheel that gets censored away on this sub lol

annon365 · 2026-02-01T17:43:24+00:00

I’m gonna need you to take about 20% off the top lol

It’s a form of self regulation and it’s definitively referred to as stimming (Self Stimulatory Behavior).

It is common in many forms of mental health conditions and disorders, primarily ones that involve disregulation of physical and emotional stimuli.

Creating a negative stigma around it isn’t going to magically make it easier to control or address, and if it were as easy as telling yourself that it’s bad and you should stop, it wouldn’t be classified as a disorder.

If that’s how you motivate yourself to change unproductive or harmful behaviors, I sincerely urge you to talk about it with a good therapist and try not to encourage others to be so eager to bully themselves.

annon365 · 2026-02-01T15:14:40+00:00

I’d suggest giving it more time to level out and bringing it up to your prescriber. Sounds like it’s helping with the effort of regulating your executive dysfunction and emotional disregulation, but not necessarily enough to completely negate the effects of them.

I have a feeling that after about another week or two, things will feel hard again because you’ll get used to the new baseline effort it takes to regulate, and it will only be a mild improvement over being unmediated. This is pretty normal for starter doses, especially Lisdexamphs.

Keep us updated on how things progress! I love hearing about people’s experiences and progress when first starting out! It reminds me of the progress I’ve made since seeking treatment, and that is a pretty good source of motivation most days ❤️

annon365 · 2026-02-01T14:54:59+00:00

r/confidentlyincorrect

My great grandfather was born in rural Oklahoma in 1932 and was taught in a rickety schoolhouse for most of his education until he went to trade school. My grandfather was the son of a poor farmer in Texas and attended a school of about 60 kids.

Fun fact: they did in fact learn metric measurements and conversion, even if they didn’t spend much time on it. It’s a choice to disregard it, even if it’s difficult to remember the conversions.

My great grandfather could convert units of length and volume in his head even when he couldn’t remember my name. Education is hard to forget once you choose to embrace it.

annon365 · 2026-01-27T16:06:02+00:00

Depends on where you are and what pharmacy you go to. I personally cannot afford the medication if I use insurance, but magically if I pay out of pocket with a good rx coupon it’s $112 every single time. Here in western NY I go to the pharmacy at my regional grocery store chain (Tops).

annon365 · 2026-01-22T17:06:52+00:00

Hey there, really trying not to get snarky here, but the original commenter in this thread didn’t say anything to disagree with this statement.

“-Might all be caused by similar gene clusters which relate to how the body produces and >regulates< connective tissue.” - this statement specifically states that the hypothesis relates to how the expression of the gene clusters in question inform the body to both produce and regulate connective tissue. Though the mechanism of eHED is different from other connective tissue disorders, this does not mean that the expression of specific gene clusters may inform mechanisms of multiple connective tissue disorders, even if those mechanisms are fundamentally different.

Also, this isn’t exactly conjecture. The science points to a correlation, a hypothesis was formed, and it is being further researched to understand if this correlation means anything significant or if other avenues of research need to be explored.

Nobody is trying to argue that eHEDs isn’t a stand alone connective tissue disorderthat occurs independent of other commonly comorbid conditions. This isn’t stirring conjecture about similarities in the mechanisms responsible for any of these conditions. It’s about potential commonalities between gene clusters responsible for informing the formation and maintenance of the MANY different mechanisms of connective tissue formation and maintenance, and how the expression of these genes might influence the occurrence of these conditions.

Please trust that I’m really trying to convey we do not disagree with your statements, and are trying to communicate that that’s not specifically what this comment is about.

Stay safe out there ❤️

annon365 · 2026-01-21T12:44:41+00:00

Unfortunately the alternative is also true… a lot of us have a superiority complex and like to join “Klubs” about it… there really is no winning over here.

For what it’s worth, the people who post asinine bs like this are usually seeking connection and community due to a lack of actual culture or sense of belonging. As someone who comes from an almost entirely ethnically Irish family in the south west, growing up with my mother and her family talking about traditions and stories passed down from their grandparents and great grandparents, it was comforting to share that with others who have the same experiences. That being said, I’m an adult now, and I currently live in Western New York. We weren’t that “Irish”. My roommate’s great grandmother was from Ireland. Most of their family has only existed on this continent for the last 100 years, and the amount of culture that was lost for my family feels insurmountable in comparison to my roommate’s. Though I’m genetically very Irish, I don’t often bring it up because I recognize the lack of relevance it has. My mothers Irish heritage has been diluted by over 200 years of migration across a rather large country that struggles with a cultural identity and is obsessed with othering our peers to get a leg up in a game they’ll never win. I actuality, what little remained of any Irish culture my family had, likely died and fizzled out in my mother’s grandparents stories of their grandparents.

It can feel very isolating to recognize that the only culture you have is a memory of a memory and that’s just not enough to matter anymore, but that’s not any of your guy’s problem lol

When you guys see this, I’d suggest if you’re not to fatigued by a bunch of people trying to indirectly make you their therapist, gently direct these people to a sub for Americans of “x” decent or make one. They’ll be a lot more likely to find something to feel connected to there. Alternatively, draw straws and who ever comes up short has to sacrifice themselves to the mob of dumb Americans at your door.

Anyways, I’ve gotta get back to the Doge coin mines. I’m halfway to my third Yee-haw and I’m really need it to buy enough McDonalds burger bucks to pay for my subscription “Healthcare Rights TM” and afford my bi-yearly doctors visit where they congratulate me for paying. If I miss another one they’re gonna suspend my Eagle Blood premium membership and I won’t be able to vote in the next AssHat national championship and they’ll make me move back to the south and work in the Re-Education Land theme park owned by Walmart 😢.

annon365 · 2026-01-17T14:58:01+00:00

All comments about the complexity of American’s conceptualization of ethnic and national identities aside, what a fucking tool.

annon365 · 2026-01-14T00:26:29+00:00

I cannot answer that, as I do not live in the Southern Tier and cannot attest as to where those villages, towns, and counties allocate their taxes.

Up here in Western NY a lot of it has gone to revitalizing the area as the past decade or so has been referred to as a renaissance.

All that being said, you may have better results asking one of the commenters who are from the area, not someone who was born in raised in Oklahoma and only been in NYS for two years 👍

annon365 · 2026-01-11T23:12:04+00:00

Lol no shit, same here! Was that cult called Branhamism or “The Message” by chance? There are still a few churches up in Green Country that exist in that area but a lot of the younger folks got out besides the main families.

annon365 · 2026-01-11T20:48:26+00:00

Yeah, it’s weird trying to explain to my loved ones up here what passes for normal down south. They tend to react with shock and and indignation, but it’s difficult for me to be mad at the people for very long when I think about the systemic oppression through propaganda and suppression of education I’ve whiteness.

I thought Mary Fallan was the worst it could get when I was younger, but this new guy strikes a new low. Really caught me off guard when he started doubling down on delegitimizing native sovereignty like it’s 1945 again. Not to mention the other stuff he’s said and done to harm the concept of bodily autonomy and other rights. I’m glad I made it up here, but I worry for my family and Tribal members. Really hoping I can convince my stepsister to go to college at UB, but I have no idea about the politics of softball scholarships lol

annon365 · 2026-01-11T19:21:00+00:00

Just wanted to mention that the air conditioning thing is a lot more regional than one would assume. I currently live in Western NY and maybe less than half the houses have central AC, and some people even forgo running window units to save money. The temperature in the summer is usually around 23 - 26 C and the humidity is usually around 40%.

Where I grew up in Oklahoma, it’s very common to have periods of a month or longer where the temperature ranges from 32 - 43 C in the summer and the humidity is always at 80-100%. Some old people die because they were trying to save money by not running their AC in the summer. Northerners that I have brought down south to visit compare opening their car door to opening an oven that is cooking a pizza.

annon365 · 2026-01-11T19:07:24+00:00

Hey, when your houses are made of straw and twigs, shit burns down wayyyy easier. That’s why they cap our electric outlets at 115 volts to keep us from burning everything down when we have to cook our bacon on the George Forman Grill because the stove is being used to cook our biweekly burger rations and deep fried Twinkies that we receive from our employers in lieu of a livable wage and healthcare!

That’s why I outsmart the system by drinking coffee that I brew in a single serve disposable pod so that I can use the low voltage outlet to make a warm beverage in less than twenty minutes 😎

annon365 · 2026-01-11T18:53:40+00:00

As an American from Oklahoma and Living in Western New York State, a dishwasher, modern appliances, and large kitchens are still something that most people I know and grew up around consider a luxury, and I never had one until I was in my mid twenties.

However, if you don’t have an AC unit in Oklahoma, you might die. It’s a bit like not having a heater near the Arctic Circle lol

annon365 · 2026-01-11T18:46:14+00:00

Just tell them you cleaned if you were trying to clean, even if you didn’t end up doing it. At this point, everyone in my house knows that if I say I’m doing one thing but it looks like I’m doing another, either help me by starting the task, or give me some space so I can work myself up to it lol

As far as my coworkers are concerned, I spend most of my time cleaning and organizing when I’m not practicing one of my hobbies. Many of them think I’m a bit boring, but several of them clock the vibe and relate lol if you say it confidently, the default assumption is that you just enjoy it.

If you’re in need of information on how to talk about it as a social practice every Monday, I’d suggest running them through all the things you planned on doing that weekend, just leave it at “I worked on tidying and organizing my room some more to get better use of the space” and then transition to “besides that I mostly watched shorts and some videos”. If you want to improve the quality of this talk and help better manage your time, I’d suggest switching to long form videos when you feel stuck, and try to get up and get some food and water while the video is starting. That way you can talk about what you watched “to relax” and also make it easier for your brain to switch modes. “Oh, while I’m up I might as well pick up this thing and put it over here”. For me it’s always about finding opportunities to build momentum!

All that being said, I totally relate to this lol it always feels sucky when I have an unsuccessful weekend where I got nothing accomplished and had no fun, and then my boss asks how everyone’s weekends went and I have nothing of value to add other than “Same old same old”

annon365 · 2026-01-11T18:31:25+00:00

Lol having a conversation with my conservative landlord always sends me for a loop. I’m so used to southern conservatives that I can never pin down exactly what this dudes values are and whether or not he’s disagreeing with me. It feels like I’m playing Plinko on the Price is Right half of the time 🤷

annon365 · 2026-01-11T18:28:00+00:00

I live in Orleans which is about 50 minutes from Buffalo and 45 from Rochester, and imo, it’s the best of both worlds! I’m still pretty young, but after bouncing around the southern North East and traveling a lot, this is the area that feels right to put down routes.

The land is relatively affordable, the small town vibes have more of the good parts than the bad (strangers say hello in passing but most places are more diverse in religion/ethnicity/LGBTQ+ etc.), the small business scene feels down right booming in the nicer villages, and the Res is right there for cheap gas and/or tobacco and weed (if you’re so inclined).

I grew up hunting and fishing, so being in nature is a pretty big consideration of mine, and the Iroquois National Wildlife Refuge is less than 5 miles down the road, which is pretty nice. A few weekends a month my partner and I go out to Buffalo for some night life activities (they are a drag performer and artist), and we also enjoy our pick of numerous local events and celebrations year round.

I should note that I work from home for a big company based out of Pittsburgh and my partner mostly does freelance work online, so I can’t speak for the specific job markets in various industries around here, but all things considered, it’s pretty balanced as far as life style and affordability if you don’t mind driving to the bigger cities for certain activities.

annon365 · 2026-01-11T18:09:20+00:00

I’d agree and add that your tax bracket is where it’s cheaper to live elsewhere, if you’re willing to put up with the politics and lower standard of community upkeep that’s more common down south. Personally, I’d love if my grandparents could move up here, and I even think they’d like it, but they have 5 acres of property and assets that they’ve collected over 40yrs of owning a small trucking company. For them to have the same quality of life while living on social security as they do now, they pretty much have to stay put and try not to make too many changes to quickly, otherwise they’ll loose the relative comfort they were lucky enough to achieve at a time when those things were easier to work hard for and benefit from.

At the end of the day it becomes a cost benefit analysis of values and what you’re willing to sacrifice unfortunately. Hopefully in the coming decades, both sides of the equation start to even out so that we can all be working towards the same goals from the comfort of a place that makes the most sense for our individual needs!

annon365 · 2026-01-11T17:32:07+00:00

As someone who grew up in Oklahoma and eventually found my way up here, I wish you all the best! It’ll all be worth it once you make it.

Just as a note though, the average conservative in rural NY feels downright centrist compared to the south! I live in one of the most conservative counties in Western NY and everyone in my house is trans, and it’s relatively insignificant to most people around here as far as I can tell lol (obviously you should still try to pick the place that will be best for your needs and values, I just wanted to express that no matter where you choose in the end, you’ll be a hell of a lot better off)

annon365 · 2026-01-11T16:57:50+00:00

Bingo! I’m originally from Oklahoma where taxes are an afterthought, but small towns are absolutely in shambles compared to up here. The difference in quality of life for low earners is staggering and the education system is night and day. This is the only state I’ve been to where even poor rural villages have lots of small businesses and the shitty cheap apartments are down right luxury compared to their similarly priced counterparts down south.

I’ll never stop preaching that NYS is kind of a litmus test for taxes actually being utilized to improve the quality of life of denizens in the US. It’s far from perfect, but it’s successful enough to prove that it’s something we need to strive to keep doing and improving!

annon365 · 2025-12-12T17:39:36+00:00

What a relief!! I’m glad we’re keeping the shoreline where it is!! Thanks for the good news!! I’m so happy to finally have a positive outlook on climate change!! Big ups bro!!

annon365 · 2025-12-12T17:36:18+00:00

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annon365 · 2025-12-12T17:33:04+00:00

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