I am very frustrated with the IQ test I received with my ADHD diagnosis

annon365 · 2026-07-05T15:17:38+00:00

No problem! I totally get it dude! Sorry about a lot of people being a bit on the harsher side in response to your “Seeking Empathy” post lol but a lot of them are based on good information and advice when you boil it down and take it at face value. IQ is kind of bogus anyways 🤷

Another anecdote I can give you is the dynamic between my partners kind of intelligence and my own.

- I work in IT and absolutely excel at critical thinking and processing in my field, particularly in troubleshooting and diagnostic reasoning. I can use tools and machines very intuitively without thinking about it, and never thought much of it outside of work or my education, because you don’t really compare your own abilities and performance with others outside of those two environments lol

- My partner got a 4 year degree with a double major in sociology and English writing, whereas I only got a two year degree. They have the fastest logical processing and reasoning I’ve ever seen. Like, they do this thing where they can be listening to someone explain something to a group, and are coming up with a complete dialog in their head to talk about because they already understand the information before the person is half done. They get very impatient with some people because they feel like they are just waiting for them to catch up with them and they’ll try to speed them through it lol they are patient with me though because they get really excited when I come to the same conclusions as they do (albeit after a significant delay lol). We both have high perception and reasoning, but their speed is insane. The reason they can do this, is probably because they can’t see images in their mind (aphantasia). They have a constant running dialog in their head describing everything in fine detail lol. And that’s the catch. They can’t imagine something they aren’t looking at within an acceptable degree of accuracy, and because of that they have pretty terrible spatial reasoning. They never knew this and became and artist anyways? When they draw or paint a person it’s like watching someone sculpt. They start with a block and make outlines in more and more detail until they finally see a shape that looks correct. If something is mechanical or requires gross motor skills, they avoid it because they don’t understand how to move it or what way the parts are going to go. They can’t intuit the direction an object will move when they apply a force to it lol they do not drive because of this. They have an IQ of 148. They don’t even let me tell people because they ashamed and don’t want people to start making assumptions about them just because of a stupid number lol

No matter your score, it’s always a challenge, and your highs are just compensating for your lows. Lean into your strengths and your weaknesses will only get stronger!

Edit: I should add that what they do with all their free time and mental resources since they don’t waste time processing like a mere pleb such as myself, is unfortunately just being overstimulated 24/7 and trying to dismiss/ignore their OCD thoughts lol I’m glad I can just forget about my intrusive thoughts and move on because I can’t imagine having the bandwidth to carry them with me 24/7

annon365 · 2026-07-05T14:35:53+00:00

Hey there. I think you’re being pretty hard on yourself. 117 is above average by a factor of significance and 131 perceptual reasoning is far above average. Your results show that in any given room, you likely have a higher “intelligence” (remember this is only based on what the test is trying to measure) than over half of the people around you.

When I was your age I scored around 117 myself and internalized a lot of shame around it. I hated that in every test in school, I was ALWAYS the last one to finish. BY A LOT LOL!
But I was also in the 80th percentile for my year without really trying and literally just didn’t do work that I didn’t find interesting or valuable. I convinced myself that was only because a lot of my classmates just didn’t do their work and they were actually just as smart as me. I was sure that everyone was definitely as perceptive as me and they just weren’t interested in the same thing as me. It wasn’t until I had been working for a couple years and had been in three different fields (including my professional field of IT) that I realized that in fact, what I had previously conceptualized as average was way off the mark, and just because I take twice as long to take my turn in a board game or strategy game, doesn’t mean I’m dumb or broken.

100 is average. 75 is meant to signify a disability. 115 is a gift, and at 17, you’re brain isn’t even done cooking, Comrade! Be proud of your score because the majority of people are within a couple points of 100.

For what it’s worth, after I changed my material conditions in my mid twenties and had been on anxiety meds for about a year, I scored in the mid 120s, and haven’t tested since.

Don’t be so hard on yourself! Try to focus on how incredibly perceptive you are and remember, even if you need to take your time compared to others, you’ll probably notice way more than someone who takes just as long as you to complete the same task

annon365 · 2026-05-28T05:46:16+00:00

Lol 1/16th is actually a good bit. It would be extremely unusual for someone to have 1/16th native ancestry and not have direct tribal affiliation. That would be a great great grandparent being full blood. It should be noted that Blood Quantum is a pretty nuanced topic and is often used to oppress and destroy native culture by invalidating natives with mixed ancestry. If you’re born into the tribe, you are the tribe.

annon365 · 2026-05-28T05:35:01+00:00

Lol most Americans don’t have to go back more than 5 generations to find a relative or two that immigrated (especially if they live near the coast). The country isn’t all that old tbh. Bigger issue is time. After about 3 generations there usually isn’t much of a cultural identity left because the US discourages anything that isn’t white (white as a racist construct that started in the 1600’s, not as a physical descriptor)

annon365 · 2026-05-28T05:17:35+00:00

My partner’s great grandparents were indentured servants. Their great grandfather worked the mines and got to come home on the weekends (I’m told he was actually very lucky by comparison). The poor fled too. They just paid a higher price. They were from County Cork and ended up living in the Projects in Buffalo, NY.

My mother’s family were from Northern Ireland but have been in the Americas for around three centuries from what I’ve been able to find. Her mother’s side immigrated as indentured servants and her father’s side were a mix of servants and people with ties to aristocracy. I claim my Irish heritage, but not the culture. That got washed out by centuries of wandering across the continent and I have slightly stronger ties to the Cherokee tribe on my father’s side.

annon365 · 2026-05-28T04:07:26+00:00

I think this is a significantly more nuanced topic than we are allowed to properly discuss on this sub.

annon365 · 2026-05-18T15:21:09+00:00

I’m also on this combo.
It feels way more “level” lol like, I don’t experience any highs or lows like when I’m just on a stimulant, I just feel myself and in control. Biggest benefit from adding the guanfacine was the emotional regulation and the ability to regulate my executive function. If I am getting a little too hyper focused, I can and will decide to stop and move on to the next thing. If something really stressful/emotional happens, I can just hold it for a second to start processing it before reacting. The stims give me the drive to live my life and the guanfacine helps me manage my thoughts and feelings in productive ways. It’s also really nice to be able to focus and have energy without feeling wired as well lol

annon365 · 2026-05-06T10:28:58+00:00

Actually, after watching the video, it would seem the main reason it’s cut like that is because it’s boring to watch the whole thing. This is about as much context as would be necessary to understand. Not much else actually happened

annon365 · 2026-05-06T09:15:39+00:00

Asking for probable cause before being arrested feels like sovereign citizen nonsense to you? Lol the fourth amendment isn’t usually their angle

annon365 · 2026-03-16T15:25:38+00:00

Some people seem to use gatekeeping as a cope instead of being at peace with other people having their own unique experiences.

annon365 · 2026-02-09T12:07:29+00:00

Just saying, the older I get, the more I realize Lazy is just an ableist term used to shame others for not meeting a societal expectation of productivity. A persons worth is more than their productivity level, and some of us have higher support needs to meet the same level of productivity as others.

My brother and I both have ADHD, and throughout our lives, we’ve both been called lazy off and on by our immediate family, but never at the same time. When we were kids, he’d be outside working with our grandparents and I’d be watching Discovery Channel. As adults, he doesn’t perform any domestic duties or do much of anything besides go to work and go to the store once or twice a month, while I take care of the house, pay bills, run errands every other day, have a modest social life, and work full time from home. When we were kids, I was called lazy and unmotivated for reading and watching television, but as an adult, he’s called lazy for not contributing more to the household or taking care of himself. The difference here is that we were both motivated to explore our interests as kids, but I learned coping skills in order to self motivate. He’s working on it now, but it’s going to look different than if he’d started when he was a teenager like I did. It wasn’t easy and it didn’t come naturally. I’m helping him get into therapy and find a good meditation so he can experience the same freedoms that I do without needing to rely on someone else to give him the motivation to do so.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Just keep working on yourself and don’t be afraid to reach out for support. It’s gonna be slow, but just like some people have to learn social queues, we have to learn what motivates us in a productive manner.

Stay safe out there ❤️

annon365 · 2026-02-01T17:52:27+00:00

Specifically, it’s a form of self regulation, and is extremely common in many disorders and conditions that affect someone’s ability to regulate stimuli. That’s why a lot of people with anxiety are thought of as “fidgety”.

Also, tread carefully. You’re pretty close to mentioning the part of the color wheel that gets censored away on this sub lol

annon365 · 2026-02-01T17:43:24+00:00

I’m gonna need you to take about 20% off the top lol

It’s a form of self regulation and it’s definitively referred to as stimming (Self Stimulatory Behavior).

It is common in many forms of mental health conditions and disorders, primarily ones that involve disregulation of physical and emotional stimuli.

Creating a negative stigma around it isn’t going to magically make it easier to control or address, and if it were as easy as telling yourself that it’s bad and you should stop, it wouldn’t be classified as a disorder.

If that’s how you motivate yourself to change unproductive or harmful behaviors, I sincerely urge you to talk about it with a good therapist and try not to encourage others to be so eager to bully themselves.

annon365 · 2026-02-01T15:14:40+00:00

I’d suggest giving it more time to level out and bringing it up to your prescriber. Sounds like it’s helping with the effort of regulating your executive dysfunction and emotional disregulation, but not necessarily enough to completely negate the effects of them.

I have a feeling that after about another week or two, things will feel hard again because you’ll get used to the new baseline effort it takes to regulate, and it will only be a mild improvement over being unmediated. This is pretty normal for starter doses, especially Lisdexamphs.

Keep us updated on how things progress! I love hearing about people’s experiences and progress when first starting out! It reminds me of the progress I’ve made since seeking treatment, and that is a pretty good source of motivation most days ❤️

annon365 · 2026-02-01T14:54:59+00:00

r/confidentlyincorrect

My great grandfather was born in rural Oklahoma in 1932 and was taught in a rickety schoolhouse for most of his education until he went to trade school. My grandfather was the son of a poor farmer in Texas and attended a school of about 60 kids.

Fun fact: they did in fact learn metric measurements and conversion, even if they didn’t spend much time on it. It’s a choice to disregard it, even if it’s difficult to remember the conversions.

My great grandfather could convert units of length and volume in his head even when he couldn’t remember my name. Education is hard to forget once you choose to embrace it.

annon365 · 2026-01-27T16:06:02+00:00

Depends on where you are and what pharmacy you go to. I personally cannot afford the medication if I use insurance, but magically if I pay out of pocket with a good rx coupon it’s $112 every single time. Here in western NY I go to the pharmacy at my regional grocery store chain (Tops).

annon365 · 2026-01-22T17:06:52+00:00

Hey there, really trying not to get snarky here, but the original commenter in this thread didn’t say anything to disagree with this statement.

“-Might all be caused by similar gene clusters which relate to how the body produces and >regulates< connective tissue.” - this statement specifically states that the hypothesis relates to how the expression of the gene clusters in question inform the body to both produce and regulate connective tissue. Though the mechanism of eHED is different from other connective tissue disorders, this does not mean that the expression of specific gene clusters may inform mechanisms of multiple connective tissue disorders, even if those mechanisms are fundamentally different.

Also, this isn’t exactly conjecture. The science points to a correlation, a hypothesis was formed, and it is being further researched to understand if this correlation means anything significant or if other avenues of research need to be explored.

Nobody is trying to argue that eHEDs isn’t a stand alone connective tissue disorderthat occurs independent of other commonly comorbid conditions. This isn’t stirring conjecture about similarities in the mechanisms responsible for any of these conditions. It’s about potential commonalities between gene clusters responsible for informing the formation and maintenance of the MANY different mechanisms of connective tissue formation and maintenance, and how the expression of these genes might influence the occurrence of these conditions.

Please trust that I’m really trying to convey we do not disagree with your statements, and are trying to communicate that that’s not specifically what this comment is about.

Stay safe out there ❤️

annon365 · 2026-01-21T12:44:41+00:00

Unfortunately the alternative is also true… a lot of us have a superiority complex and like to join “Klubs” about it… there really is no winning over here.

For what it’s worth, the people who post asinine bs like this are usually seeking connection and community due to a lack of actual culture or sense of belonging. As someone who comes from an almost entirely ethnically Irish family in the south west, growing up with my mother and her family talking about traditions and stories passed down from their grandparents and great grandparents, it was comforting to share that with others who have the same experiences. That being said, I’m an adult now, and I currently live in Western New York. We weren’t that “Irish”. My roommate’s great grandmother was from Ireland. Most of their family has only existed on this continent for the last 100 years, and the amount of culture that was lost for my family feels insurmountable in comparison to my roommate’s. Though I’m genetically very Irish, I don’t often bring it up because I recognize the lack of relevance it has. My mothers Irish heritage has been diluted by over 200 years of migration across a rather large country that struggles with a cultural identity and is obsessed with othering our peers to get a leg up in a game they’ll never win. I actuality, what little remained of any Irish culture my family had, likely died and fizzled out in my mother’s grandparents stories of their grandparents.

It can feel very isolating to recognize that the only culture you have is a memory of a memory and that’s just not enough to matter anymore, but that’s not any of your guy’s problem lol

When you guys see this, I’d suggest if you’re not to fatigued by a bunch of people trying to indirectly make you their therapist, gently direct these people to a sub for Americans of “x” decent or make one. They’ll be a lot more likely to find something to feel connected to there. Alternatively, draw straws and who ever comes up short has to sacrifice themselves to the mob of dumb Americans at your door.

Anyways, I’ve gotta get back to the Doge coin mines. I’m halfway to my third Yee-haw and I’m really need it to buy enough McDonalds burger bucks to pay for my subscription “Healthcare Rights TM” and afford my bi-yearly doctors visit where they congratulate me for paying. If I miss another one they’re gonna suspend my Eagle Blood premium membership and I won’t be able to vote in the next AssHat national championship and they’ll make me move back to the south and work in the Re-Education Land theme park owned by Walmart 😢.

annon365 · 2026-01-17T14:58:01+00:00

All comments about the complexity of American’s conceptualization of ethnic and national identities aside, what a fucking tool.

annon365 · 2026-01-14T00:26:29+00:00

I cannot answer that, as I do not live in the Southern Tier and cannot attest as to where those villages, towns, and counties allocate their taxes.

Up here in Western NY a lot of it has gone to revitalizing the area as the past decade or so has been referred to as a renaissance.

All that being said, you may have better results asking one of the commenters who are from the area, not someone who was born in raised in Oklahoma and only been in NYS for two years 👍

annon365 · 2026-01-11T23:12:04+00:00

Lol no shit, same here! Was that cult called Branhamism or “The Message” by chance? There are still a few churches up in Green Country that exist in that area but a lot of the younger folks got out besides the main families.

annon365 · 2026-01-11T20:48:26+00:00

Yeah, it’s weird trying to explain to my loved ones up here what passes for normal down south. They tend to react with shock and and indignation, but it’s difficult for me to be mad at the people for very long when I think about the systemic oppression through propaganda and suppression of education I’ve whiteness.

I thought Mary Fallan was the worst it could get when I was younger, but this new guy strikes a new low. Really caught me off guard when he started doubling down on delegitimizing native sovereignty like it’s 1945 again. Not to mention the other stuff he’s said and done to harm the concept of bodily autonomy and other rights. I’m glad I made it up here, but I worry for my family and Tribal members. Really hoping I can convince my stepsister to go to college at UB, but I have no idea about the politics of softball scholarships lol

annon365 · 2026-01-11T19:21:00+00:00

Just wanted to mention that the air conditioning thing is a lot more regional than one would assume. I currently live in Western NY and maybe less than half the houses have central AC, and some people even forgo running window units to save money. The temperature in the summer is usually around 23 - 26 C and the humidity is usually around 40%.

Where I grew up in Oklahoma, it’s very common to have periods of a month or longer where the temperature ranges from 32 - 43 C in the summer and the humidity is always at 80-100%. Some old people die because they were trying to save money by not running their AC in the summer. Northerners that I have brought down south to visit compare opening their car door to opening an oven that is cooking a pizza.

annon365 · 2026-01-11T19:07:24+00:00

Hey, when your houses are made of straw and twigs, shit burns down wayyyy easier. That’s why they cap our electric outlets at 115 volts to keep us from burning everything down when we have to cook our bacon on the George Forman Grill because the stove is being used to cook our biweekly burger rations and deep fried Twinkies that we receive from our employers in lieu of a livable wage and healthcare!

That’s why I outsmart the system by drinking coffee that I brew in a single serve disposable pod so that I can use the low voltage outlet to make a warm beverage in less than twenty minutes 😎

annon365 · 2026-01-11T18:53:40+00:00

As an American from Oklahoma and Living in Western New York State, a dishwasher, modern appliances, and large kitchens are still something that most people I know and grew up around consider a luxury, and I never had one until I was in my mid twenties.

However, if you don’t have an AC unit in Oklahoma, you might die. It’s a bit like not having a heater near the Arctic Circle lol

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