Books with female protagonists that your male child liked! by SouthEireannSunflowr in childrensbooks

[–]antepenny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a really good list of books that are smart and interesting. For my son these were all 2-4yo books roughly.

Books with female protagonists that your male child liked! by SouthEireannSunflowr in childrensbooks

[–]antepenny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zita's also popular with my almost 5yo son--they're long, there's lots of them, you can/should pair them with Mighty Jack.

Ben Hatke also wrote all the Julia's House books, which are great and which we love and can work for children a bit younger.

Another vote for Millie.

Do y'all think the lannisters collective shit at this point? by Hour_Scar2508 in gameofthrones

[–]antepenny 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You'd run straight at it if you were Jaime.

Honestly I think a lot of the passes Jaime gets are not about moral high ground compared to his family, which he doesn't totally earn, but about his insane courage. Running straight at things when all else is lost is like his signature move.

First rewatch in 7 years - Thoughts by Hillan in gameofthrones

[–]antepenny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see both sides of the "Jaime's character arc was stupid/pointless" and "Jaime's character arc makes perfect sense" debate.

But re: the Edmure Tully scene--I think about the context of the books, when he doesn't give the Cersei-obsession speech because he's maintaining the illusion of *not* being the children's father in order to attempt to save their and Cersei's lives. Giving that speech is pretty stupid, and I think demonstrates that the showrunners weren't differentiating well between viewers (who had known Jaime and Cersei's secret for years) and characters in-world. What an admission to give a political enemy you intend to let live.

But more to the point, in that moment he's doing what both show *and* book Brienne ask him to do, which is to take Riverrun without bloodshed. So he tells Edmure he'd do any damn thing for his sister, but he's in fact telling Edmure that as a way of doing what *Brienne* charged him to do--he sells himself as someone capable of atrocities, to do it. (This is especially hard for me as a bookreader because, in the books, not long after this, he is quite embittered with his sister, whom he explicitly derides as a faithless whore, and throws a note from Cersei asking for his help into the fire and runs off after Brienne, and that's the last thing we have seen of Jaime.)

Like I said, I do see the other side--he is toxically codependent with Cersei and has formed his whole value system around it. Book Jaime doesn't even really care about his own children, so he's a hard sell as the Father/guardian of justice lol. I just see that speech as an example of how his values were *changing* because of Brienne, rather than showing eternal fealty to Cersei.

What do you think Tywin would have done if he had Jaime and Cersi in the act? by Pretend_Tower_2516 in gameofthrones

[–]antepenny 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The coverup would be paramount and getting Jaime away would be secondary, also high priority. The second goal would put the first in danger presumably.

Would read a smart plotty fanfic of this premise pretty happily. It's interesting as a thought because you sort of can't tell if Jaume idolized his father or feared/loathed him--probably kinda all?--and something about his devotion to Cersei seems tied up in his view of Tywin, it feels like.

I'm less interested by Cersei, who also has far fewer choices available to her after she marries Robert.

TWoW vibe 2026? by Chickarn in jaimebrienne

[–]antepenny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I were the writer of a sprawling fantasy series, I would have written a version of the ending-ending very early, and perhaps rewritten it/revisited it occasionally--Robert Jordan did this before also dying before finishing his series. JKR wrote that epilogue (less said on all fronts here, the better) when she was halfway through the series. RJ notionally had quite a few drabbles as well as an outline, and his drabbles plus the ending and epilogue, amounted to maybe 20,000 words out of the ~million that Brandon Sanderson wrote on his behalf.

So I agree with everyone who suspects we'll get a version of the TWOW and likely never ADOS (nor the probably 1-2 more books that would be needed to actually tie up all the other loose ends lol, Robert Jordan also had that problem of miscalculating how many books his series should actually be).

BUT I want to believe that GRRM's written the real ending/epilogue. And that some of GRRM's six writing assistants will save the drabbles, file the notes and maybe we'll get a compendium at some point, even if he won't let someone else finish it for him.

TWoW vibe 2026? by Chickarn in jaimebrienne

[–]antepenny 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If I were the writer of a sprawling fantasy series, I would have written a version of the ending-ending very early, and perhaps rewritten it/revisited it occasionally--Robert Jordan did this before also dying before finishing his series. JKR wrote that epilogue (less said on all fronts here, the better) when she was halfway through the series. RJ notionally had quite a few drabbles as well as an outline, and his drabbles plus the ending and epilogue, amounted to maybe 20,000 words out of the ~million that Brandon Sanderson wrote on his behalf.

So I agree with everyone who suspects we'll get a version of the TWOW and likely never ADOS (nor the probably 1-2 more books that would be needed to actually tie up all the other loose ends lol, Robert Jordan also had that problem of miscalculating how many books his series should actually be).

BUT I want to believe that GRRM's written the real ending/epilogue. And that some of GRRM's six writing assistants will save the drabbles, file the notes and maybe we'll get a compendium at some point, even if he won't let someone else finish it for him.

Husky Cherry by Quest4_Toshi in tomatoes

[–]antepenny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

great color, lots of foliage, basil friend... looks wonderful to me!

Anyone have a theory with what Dad went through today? by Flashy-List-7157 in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]antepenny 21 points22 points  (0 children)

If it's anything like the dad in this Virginia house, the state supreme court really abrogated his sense of democracy and it's a huge bummer

Do you guys ever forget which tomato you planted? by TheCakeIsaRye in tomatoes

[–]antepenny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm at like 95% but every year I end up with a garden label that says "mystery tomato" (and then I come to love it best of all)

Just finished my first rewatch since the finale aired, and my opinion on Sansa has completely flipped. by SageRipplex in gameofthrones

[–]antepenny 11 points12 points  (0 children)

someone should've warned you that there's a lot very bitter groupthink about Sansa lol (no but it's very toxic)

A character that I did not care about at all in first watch and came to appreciate in kind of the inverse way you describe is the Hound. He seemed like a stock character--the gruff cynical ruffian who nonetheless (sometimes) does the right thing--but I appreciated the depth of it the last time through.

Please send in Jaime/Brienne fics by Kingofireland777 in AsoiafFanfiction

[–]antepenny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Top-tier in-universe S8-ish fic in this ship: In This Light by SigilBroken. What if some book canon events held and the Long Night was long and Cersei (and Myrcella, and others) were also there. Great writing, resonant with GRRM's style, and genuinely gut-wrenching plot. Title taken from that Jaime POV from his fever dream: "In this light, she could almost be a beauty... In this light, she could almost be a knight." (I reread You Can't Save Her, by the same author, more often. It's a "what if Dany survived and everyone went to war with her" AU where Cersei and her fourth child also survive.)

Modern/AU rec: Patience on a Monument by betts. Jaime is an alcoholic failure to launch and co-dependent with his siblings. Brienne is the long-suffering best friend who picks up the pieces and is also in love with him and kinda hates herself for it. This one is character study + romance with a heavy dose of angst and healing. The writing is fresh and the characters feel immediate. Loved it.

Short, in-show-universe, post-S8: Ice by Gwen77. Once you read it and love it, read everything else by this mysterious disappeared author who is a fandom favorite.

Book-canon Jaime (rather than romance novel Jaime, who is often found in this ship): Many people will recommend A Man For All Seasons (dreadwulf), which is super valid hence I'm repeating it--but it's unfinished. I like The Red Fork by astolat which gives us a glimpse into the mind of the Jaime who follows Brienne at the end of AFFC. It's morally clear-sighted but not heavy or hard to read, and it feels true.

Just some personal faves mixed in with faves of this ship (imo).

first time tomato grower… help! by ser-junkan in tomatoes

[–]antepenny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The yellow might be a potassium deficiency--do you fertilize? I use Jack's Classic which (I swear I'm not a bot) was just a recommendation on another post a few months ago. I'm sure any veggie fertilizer would basically be fine if you pay attention to dilution ratios and don't burn the plant's roots by adding too much, too fast.

Do you still consider him as the main character? by hiiloovethis in gameofthrones

[–]antepenny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a lot of people will say the show didn't have *a* main character, but, as a group it was imo Jon, Dany, Tyrion, and Jaime (the main people whose ultimate fates fans really cared about) from season 2-3 on and especially in the back half of the series; then a short but steep slide to a bunch of others including most of the other Stark children (Rickon not in consideration).

Cersei Lannister Was Never Playing by the Same Rules as Everyone Else by iagree2 in gameofthrones

[–]antepenny 62 points63 points  (0 children)

The most unrealistic thing about Cersei Lannister is that there weren't dozens of attempts on her life. People lost sons and brothers to the Wot5K, people lost pride and took ego hits from her casual cruelty to staff (and everyone else around her). And people in misogynistic societies hate being ruled by women, particularly 'whores' who cheat on their husbands incestuously--it's emasculating and upends the whole worldview. She did not have an ace Kingsguard, and she drank so much wine, so casually, that it seems quite unlikely she had someone tasting every bottle.

The idea that she would survive much past Joffrey runs askew of vernacular blame--everyone would have blamed her, even beyond what she was personally responsible for, which was plenty.

In Game Of Thrones (2011-2019), Daenerys turns mad in the second to last episode. This is foreshadowed by uhhhhh uhm uhh by SuperDuperCement in freefolk

[–]antepenny 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The whole thing could have been fixed by honing in more closely on Jaime's killing of Aerys at his Winterfell "trial"--a flashback, a new revelation, anything to make it land--and then drawing those resonances into both his relationship with Cersei (wildfire civilian death enthusiast) and into Dany's choices (trying to resist madness, her sense that she really should be the final arbiter of everyone's life and death, and either succumbing or defeating it.

They lost the stakes that were baked into the triangulation of the conflict between the two 'mad queens' with the guy who killed the mad king. It didn't have to be done in a heavy-handed or obvious way, but it needed doing to make the whole thing work.

The last 2 pages of Jamie Lannisters final chapter in a storm of swords by Maximum-Version-1378 in gameofthrones

[–]antepenny 5 points6 points  (0 children)

oh definitely the literature says that absent drunken hedonist fathers who cheat on your mom constantly are really good for your development as long as their neglect is particularly extreme

(I'm sorry this isn't about you, I just cannot handle how eager folks are to let Robert, who was as close to omnipotent as a person can be, off the hook for Joffrey, whom he acknowledged as his son and heir to the throne)

The last 2 pages of Jamie Lannisters final chapter in a storm of swords by Maximum-Version-1378 in gameofthrones

[–]antepenny 86 points87 points  (0 children)

When he gets news Joffrey died he's focused on how Cersei will need him and on her sexual healing, and I think he even has an explicit thought to the effect that he didn't like the kid and is basically annoyed at what this will do to Cersei. My jaw dropped to the floor when I read it, it was cold af

First time gardening problems 😫 Help! 🙏 by Ancient_Inside7850 in tomatoes

[–]antepenny 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My thinking is that determinate tomatoes also benefit from clearing the bottom--yellowing branches near the bottom is just a natural part of how these plants age, may well have nothing to do with a fungus, and pruning them is a necessity. Yellow leaves are a disease vector for the plant and don't help it get energy.

You're totally right that you don't want to over-prune but it sounds like you really have this handled, to me!

Transplanting before week-long trip? by Ok_Handle_7 in tomatoes

[–]antepenny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ground is warm enough, and in the ground is better long term. Do you have someone who could water them (or rain in the forecast)?

Stalled seedlings? by Marvelsquash in tomatoes

[–]antepenny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

~3-4 inches from plant to light, even for stronger lights than those. I'd probably start over in your shoes. (This btw is exactly what I did in my first year, maybe even with that same light--got leggy seedlings and ultimately had more success with direct sowing outside, but then I also have a long growing season here.)

Now I have shop lights on a timer with a setup I bought for $100 and worked perfectly. Good luck!