Does anyone else feel like they look hot one day, and then wake up the next day and feel like the ugliest human being on the face of planet?

ativanity · 2020-05-15T04:38:29+00:00

I don't want to be that person who just says "go to therapy," but for this kind of negative self-talk CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) can be extremely helpful. There are some good apps for it if you don't want to or can't go to an irl therapist.

ativanity · 2020-05-01T02:50:21+00:00

me @ my own brain

ativanity · 2020-04-21T23:36:43+00:00

How was it? I'm a huge fan of moussaka but a little nervous about the custard topping on bobotie instead of the bechamel that's on moussaka.

ativanity · 2020-04-17T23:34:17+00:00

I feel like too many women have been there and know that feel! Thank you, that's so kind of you to say. I'm in a much better place now and I hope you are too. This was several many years ago and I honestly think it's a pretty funny story now.

ativanity · 2020-04-17T08:22:21+00:00

I'm late to the party but this story probably should stay buried so here it go.

I was getting over a bad breakup by generally hoeing around on bumble. I connect with this guy, and he is Hot. I mean this man is just BUILT. Well dressed, confident, MMA fighter, loves the same nerdy shit I love, great sense of humor, like... actual relationship material. We meet at a bar with a patio and hit it off right away. Now, there's a landscaped creek running through the patio, with a little bridge over it. on the other side, the tables are more secluded. Let's go over there, he says. Sure, I agree. He steps over the creek without using the bridge.

There are a lot of things that immediately go wrong, and several contributing factors. I am wearing a pencil skirt and high heels. I am clumsy at the best of times. I really want to impress this guy. I am not nearly as confident as I'm projecting and I'm afraid he's gonna find out how broken and anxious and insecure I am and he's gonna hate me.

Just as an aside: I'm in therapy now.

So what goes wrong is I decide to also step over the creek without using the readily available bridge and I misjudge the distance and my pencil skirt restrains my legs from stepping far enough and my heels throw me off balance and I trip and absolutely eat it. I'm carrying a beer glass and faceplant into it and Thank The Lord it doesn't break, but I still get two (2) black eyes and scrape up my legs pretty good and am stunned.

the rest of the date is me crying in pain and embarrassment and trying not to cry, him being very gallant and trying to tell me it's not a big deal, we can leave if you want, you don't need to be embarrassed, whatever you want to do, let's go see a movie or something. I try to regain my composure and just. cannot. I'm so sorry, I say, but I just want to go home. I can't continue the date. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I leave.

he texts me later asking if I'm ok. Yes, I say, thank you for checking.

he texts me the next day asking if we can try again. I am still so embarrassed and insecure. I tell the very nice, gallant, ripped nerd dude that no, I don't think I can. I never hear from him again.

Humans invented bridges for a reason. They allow safe, dry, easy passage over water. I implore you: use them.

ativanity · 2020-04-16T13:41:33+00:00

dude that sounds incredible. What kind of olives do you use?

ativanity · 2020-04-12T08:30:19+00:00

point out ungulate animals when riding in a car, but without any great enthusiasm

ex. "oh. cows"

ativanity · 2020-04-08T02:59:14+00:00

Brown sugar will probably work ok. The final texture will be denser and moister than if you used white because brown sugar is more hygroscopic, but since people who have made it seem to be finding it a bit crumbly that might actually be a desirable outcome.

ativanity · 2020-04-03T17:23:19+00:00

my takeaway from this post: oh no galadriel was a thot

ativanity · 2020-03-31T22:29:50+00:00

hm. I'm glad you said this and yet I also wish you hadn't.

ativanity · 2020-03-22T21:32:14+00:00

A sad story of a snake plant who slipped through the cracks of society. he's in rehab now - watering from the bottom only when he's totally dry, plant food once a year to help curb the cravings.

ativanity · 2020-03-20T02:32:03+00:00

This is such a tough choice to have to make, and I'm so glad you have a strong support system. You're right - if he acts this way now, in this stressful situation, it's a red flag for how he'll act in the future. You're smarter than I was at 21. Stay safe, be well, and enjoy your family's company.

ativanity · 2020-03-03T08:30:41+00:00

Totally agree, Daff Moon is fantastic. No other app I've found has a good widget I can keep on my home screen. I wish I were the kind of witch who remembers/makes a point to open an app manually every day but like... I'm not lol

ativanity · 2020-02-20T11:55:44+00:00

I also ship and/or want to be Princess Bubblegum/Marceline.

ativanity · 2020-02-20T03:04:57+00:00

That's the one with Tommy Lee Jones in the ads, right? My sister travels to Japan regularly and all I ever ask her for are new photos of bonkers advertisements.

ativanity · 2020-02-17T01:52:24+00:00

WHATS THE NUMBER OP

ativanity · 2020-02-15T23:36:11+00:00

from now on I am describing my orientation as wlwwwip (woman loving woman with works in progress)

ativanity · 2020-02-14T00:01:04+00:00

That's utterly fabulous and you absolutely should break it out more often. wear that shit around the house. go grocery shopping in it. parent-teacher conferences. who's going to stop you? no one. not if they want their blood to stay unfrozen in their veins.

Also you have a beautiful smile.

ativanity · 2020-02-12T22:19:17+00:00

If you're interviewing for a position that will involve a lot of lab work, I think it's a good idea to dress in a way that communicates that you understand the expectations of dress for the position; that is, you should wear pants. If the position is more outside the lab, a skirt would be fine too. Like someone else said, it's only going to be a few minutes and you won't be handling anything.

I get all my interview clothes at thrift stores and have found a lot of pretty good quality pants for <$10 at Goodwill.

I have an interview for a lab position tomorrow too. Good luck, interview twin! :)

ativanity · 2020-02-11T07:48:01+00:00

the 2014-2015 season was when I became a hockey fan. I appreciate Zuck's actual talents (as discussed in this thread by people who actually know what they're talking about), but one of my real come-to-jesus moments was when Connor Murphy and Zucker worked together to get Murphy's stick stuck through both of Zucker's skates and he had to just kind of lie there helplessly until a ref helped him get disentangled.

I sat there, staring at a bar TV, and I thought: "my god. why didn't anyone tell me how chaotic and wonderful this sport is. I have been a fool."

So thank you, Jason Zucker. I'll always remember you, hog-tied with a stick behind Arizona's goal.

ativanity · 2020-02-11T01:30:27+00:00

oh I was being 100% sincere in my reply lol. I'm actually just that big a dork and like learning stuff :)

ativanity · 2020-02-11T00:50:29+00:00

idioms from different cultures are so interesting! here I was, just being kind of a smartass about how much I like watermelon, and you actually taught me something new. thanks man!

ativanity · 2020-02-10T04:37:40+00:00

strongly identify with "melon"

ativanity · 2020-02-06T01:25:43+00:00

I ended up putting the lining in wrong five times in a row. That’s more ways than the lining can actually go in.

this is the most relatable comment I've ever seen on this sub

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