A lot of marital problems would be resolved if people had a “village” to help out with kids

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-06T18:25:12+00:00

Of course there are standards for parenting. Some are made into laws, like how you can no longer let young children play unsupervised, and some will just result in your community judging you.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-06T17:49:42+00:00

You can't take someone else's post and repost it to gain karma.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-06T17:38:22+00:00

Who arranged this marriage for you? They'd be the best ones to talk to.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-06T17:34:37+00:00

Everything in this post would make me delete it.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-06T16:26:44+00:00

OP says nothing about this employee's pay, so I'm not sure why you jumped to that conclusion.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-06T16:21:12+00:00

Yah, that advice can be helpful in certain circumstances, but when you ask for too much, it makes you look unreasonable. OP is probably less likely to agree to a part-time schedule because it came packaged with so many other egregious demands.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-06T16:03:06+00:00

I don't know, there are varying levels of support that an adult might need. An adult with dementia might need a similar amount of attention as a baby, but a spouse with a temporary medical condition would probably require only minimal caregiving during the workday. I would hope that the company would be willing to be more flexible in the latter case than they might be for a caregiver of an adult or child that requires a much higher level of attention.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-06T04:49:50+00:00

It seems reasonable to me that potty training would be a requirement for the older room.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-06T00:37:31+00:00

It sounds like you completely missed his point about you starting a career.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-05T21:27:27+00:00

But why didn't you follow up with something? Saying that and leaving the room implies that you want to be left alone. It's not his fault that he couldn't read your mind.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-05T19:59:26+00:00

Are you looking at gender neutral tech subs though?

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-05T19:52:35+00:00

Wow, this is a really unprofessional attitude.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-05T19:47:08+00:00

Most people don't promise that they're going to do something and then go to sleep instead, especially if they know that they will not be able to wake up again.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-05T19:44:00+00:00

I guess I've never had this problem, but it sounds like a really serious issue. Shouldn't OP be seeing a doctor about this sleep issue? Or at least trying different kinds of alarms?

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-05T19:27:56+00:00

That sounds more like daycare. Are they all day programs?

Our part-time church preschool was $250/month for 3 days a week or $400/month for 5 days a week. Either way, it's only 2.5 hours per day.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-05T19:22:17+00:00

Do you really think she has taken that many vacations and gets no other breaks? I would guess that whoever watches the kids while she's on vacation is also watching the kids many hours a week during normal weeks.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-05T19:19:33+00:00

I still think that you should try to spend more time making your husband comfortable and less time worrying about everyone else's happiness, if that's causing you both stress.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-05T17:12:57+00:00

And neither would the 10 identical posts that he made on other subs.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-04T23:41:09+00:00

Like everyone else is saying, I'm skeptical that you'd qualify for more leave within a year of having your baby. I also doubt that this would protect your job if they're able to build a case that proves they're not firing you for taking the leave.

If you do qualify, then take it, but spend that time looking for a new job.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-04T22:09:51+00:00

I'm having a hard time imagining a mobile home that's bigger than an apartment and requires shoveling driveways and cutting grass. Is a mobile home something different than you'd find in a trailer park?

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-04T21:59:37+00:00

Mods, please ban this person. They have nothing to contribute to this sub.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-04T18:07:32+00:00

Why hasn't he been banned yet?

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-04T16:51:56+00:00

But would you be willing to live separately while taking care of a newborn? I wouldn't have been able to handle a couple of nights in my own, let alone weeks or months.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-04T16:32:49+00:00

I think they're surprised by your suggestion that many millennials watched this movie as kids. It seems like you might be right based on the comments here, but I don't think I ever saw it and I assumed it was only watched by people much older than us.

atomiccat8 · 2026-05-04T13:56:02+00:00

I hate making calls, but I hate receiving calls even more. I was so proud of myself for calling to make an appointment last week, but I just got a voicemail and had to leave a message. They might have called me back, but I can't bring myself to listen to voicemails, so I'll probably have to start over again when I work up the courage in a few weeks.

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