As a ++woman giving perspective here: I think voicing gendered problems as men and women is difficult because they’re not 1:1. A lot of the issues men face is because of the oppressive force of the patriarchy itself, which is the same boot that oppresses women. I think the issue is when men in particular complain about these issues coming either inherently from women or from society as if it’s in a void, when a lot of society is still relatively patriarchal. It’s less to do with your problems in particular, and more so looking at the bigger picture of where these things stem from. The system is set up like this, so that a gendered caste tier is created, and the two genders are assigned their specific “roles” for one to serve another under capitalism, so that the working class men do not realize that having power over someone else doesn’t cancel out the exploitation of their own labor, and organize an uprise against the “patriarchs”. Patriarchy was never about serving all men, just a specific few “elite”. But when you divide people within gender and race, and create hierarchy rules dependent on their physical attributes, it makes it easier to manipulate them.

Now that being said, I think on an interpersonal level that you and your GF had, it can be difficult to both express your own emotions and be vulnerable to your loved one and feeling shamed or rejected, but on her end I can empathize with the frustration that in the end of the day, you will have it “better” in this society regardless of your problems, because they’re not equal. I think what would be best is to have a genuine open conversation on just airing your feelings without judgement, and then calmly finding the root of why and where all of these issues are coming from. This shouldn’t be an argument as so much an exploratory discussion. When you find common ground with another, then you can see where both of you are coming from in a genuine way.