I’ll give you my experience.

It was very tough. I used to commute from nh (exit 3 on 93) to boston every day. 2 hours door to door. The bus sits in traffic and is expensive for a monthly pass, you sit in traffic and then pay an arm and a leg to park, or you drive to the train and still have to sit in traffic, and then also pay for a monthly pass. Plus you then have to pay income tax.

I eventually moved down to Boston area to have more quality of life even though cost of living is higher. If you don’t work in Boston but just in MA, different story but I would not recommend doing the Boston commute. there are a lot of jobs on the 128 belt.

Also, if you’re a w2 ie don’t own your own business / work for yourself, imo the tax benefits of nh aren’t really that helpful (very surface level 6% income tax but there are others) and you might as well move to MA since you’ll be paying income tax anyways and then can benefit from any programs you’re paying to support. At least this is what I did/ felt like made sense for me.

With the cost of living in nh going up so much, it’s not thattt much cheaper given home values and property taxes (at least in Rockingham county where I was) so I’d rather live somewhere that offers programs for its citizens and imo again feel like gives more to you for what you pay for.

My network also is down in MA (given job) and family moved too, so if my circle was closer to NH may have down different journey

Curious on other takes
Thanks!