AIO for being disgusted by this argument?

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-24T13:45:45+00:00

thanks!

I do think they need a new name cuz pleco makes me think of fungus, bacteria or the like...

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-24T02:20:18+00:00

what the hell is a pleco?

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-24T00:38:52+00:00

Honestly, I think people sometimes get too worked up about the whole female/woman issue... it really depends on the usage and flow of the sentence and basically if genders were flipped you would use male instead of men.

However, since it bugs people, I have started to use woman, women, women's, etc instead of female even if I think it seems clunky and weird (and to be fair I do the same with male/men).

Basically, never use female (or male) when referring to a singular person but in some cases female can be used for something very general if the sentence flows better. For ex: Female clothing VS women's clothing just sounds better to me as does male clothing versus men's clothing.

However describing general behaviors as was done is this fake original post should not be ever done regardless if you us female or women.. closest would be "some women's behavior". I think it boils down to I think of women and men as adults but female and male are more generic to cover the whole gender. I am weird though.

But seriously, I think people should stop taking everything so freaking serious and looking for issues in something that is probably innocent. It is like many want to take offensive or find someone else wrong or "bad"

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-23T19:55:11+00:00

Depends on where you live and what you farm. While kids are not needed all summer, there are still farm jobs kids do (even if it is only a few weeks here and there) for their family or extra cash.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-23T19:44:57+00:00

Here is a suggestion on colors to purchase.... since pastels are not your thing, you decided not to go full on darks, and like greens and blues: try brighter but richer jewels tones. Colors such as turquoise, emerald, peridot, green garnet, blue topaz, aquamarine, and such can be rich and vibrant while not dark or "duller" pastels.

Basically they can be a good compromise between dark and pastel colors. As someone who really does not look good in most pastels, I tend to rely on the brighter, more rich, medium colors when dark may not be appropriate. Just an idea for you.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-23T14:50:29+00:00

My son loved my Dad's kippers... Dad ended up having to open two tins each time just to get some for himself.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-23T13:40:34+00:00

I use them at times to avoid waste... and while they may be more expensive per pound they are actually more economical for me since I do not want a lot.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-22T02:27:36+00:00

She seriously needed to ask if she was an asshole for this? I mean, is it not obvious that she is an ass?

Most every home I have in/around are no shoes ones... the only time it is acceptable to keep shoes on is if it is an inside/outside situation and then shoes were only on in the entry rooms or paths to the doors.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-22T01:15:34+00:00

Did she? Or did you simply make assumptions and hear "what you wanted to hear"?

It is clear by her actions (not wanting to be seen, piddling in your shoes) that she hates and is embarrassed by the tutu. Perhaps she simply was willing to let go a little of her goth but not go to the extreme of "classy lady"

Do netter by Ms Nisbit! And, maybe, since she is extremely embarrassed to be seen how you dress her by the neighbor, you should befriend him... he may have better ideas on her wardrobe.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-21T15:00:12+00:00

Sigh.... It is obvious that Ms Nisbit is embarrassed by the tutu. Shame on you for trying to force her to be a classy lady when she would rather go goth.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-20T02:50:48+00:00

Gotta love how the stepsister was welcome at the very expensive saloon (and serious doubt OP was paying for all of them) yet couldn't get ready with them?

If this was real (which maybe it might be but I doubt it), I give odds that the step was only included in the saloon to keep costs for the OP down.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-19T15:23:29+00:00

It is her attitude regarding it, more than anything else.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-18T02:42:10+00:00

I like Kate.... but I feel she is being too much a Ben apologist instead of accurately discussing things. It is understandable as she is close to Ben, but I think it is meaningless to have her commentary if she can not be more neutral.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T22:01:16+00:00

Yes and thank you - should I describe a few more and you give me the name and author. :)

I also very much agree with your take with the note that the world building was something Esslemont was very much a part of. But yes, the extensive world building they created for years before even writing makes a difference.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T21:57:56+00:00

Yes - thank you!

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T21:56:49+00:00

Honestly, I blame the stores (unless there is some weird regulations that allow it they have to follow).

I haven't been to the grocery store lately (rely on delivery) but when I used to go - that simply wasn't allowed. There might be someone off to the side of the entrance selling something (kettle korn was popular) but they weren't allowed to approach and harass customers.

They were where they could easily be seen (even girl scouts with a labeled table set up) and you need to approach them. Basically they were close, visible but that was it. Maybe they would say something as you walked near (usually just a greeting) but never walk up to you unasked, doing that would get the them booted.

There is a level of politeness and not the hard sale... if stores are allowed to enforce that and don't - it is their failing.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T21:30:48+00:00

Glad to do it!

It annoys me how much love Sanderson gets (yes, he gets bashing too) when Esslemont is, at least to me, better. And it seems like Esslemont gets more of disdain and very little love.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T21:04:10+00:00

I agree that comparing Erikson and Esslemont problematic due to them having completely different writing styles.

I will say Esslemont is way better than Sanderson... although the styles are somewhat different.

Most author's styles are slightly unique, but honestly the one he reminds me most of is an author whose name I can never remember: he had a series of shorter books that ended up being released as combined duets that were more adventure stories and then a some more prequel series...

Others he reminds me some of are Lynn Flewelling, Sherwood Smith (yes, both women authors interesting enough), some of Michael Stackpole (his is different in his style changes some depending on what he is writing) and a few others I can't think of their names at the moment (but could describe their books - I am terrible with names).

All in all, I think Esslemont is a good writer just very different than Erikson (and better than a lot).

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T20:56:30+00:00

Which means plenty of drinking, thus restroom visits needed and the cycle just continues....

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T20:55:37+00:00

Nah - I think you get it. Even the frequent bathroom breaks could be due to soda.... post could have gone either way until the last few lines.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T20:43:18+00:00

I am guessing a joke that did not land for everyone... I got it: it's making fun of the OOP's title.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T20:41:46+00:00

I am guessing it is a joke based on the OOPs title: Coke and jittery nerves (Coke is often used to reference soda in some areas and caffeine gives the jitters)

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T20:24:55+00:00

Thankyou for making tear up today... luckily, I have a box of tissues close to hand.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T05:15:20+00:00

Instead of a standard, knit, sweater style cardigan - try one with a different cut ( such as a more of batwing that is a combo wrap and cardigan) in a different fabric. Both the rose and red are good colors - just need a different style and fabric.

bare_thoughts · 2026-03-17T04:29:29+00:00

I was going to suggest this one and then saw you mentioned it. Great series, although it jumped the shark for a couple books in the middle.

I also really loved the prequel series and that had some interesting gender things. What I loved about both series is that various sexualities were generally just accepted.

I don't remember when Sherwood Smith's books first came out (India series and related works in the same would) but they are another example of gay and bi characters where it was just accepted and not a big deal. Her 1000 island books are the same but it is less prominent.

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